I live in a college dorm and I live in an apartment with this other girl. She has her boyfriend living with her in the apartment when she's not supposed to. Her boyfriend is quiet but he always hangs around in the living room. My room is small so sometimes I would like to have family and friends over and hang out there. But I can't b/c he's always there!!! To make matters worse, at night I hear them having sex. She is also lazy and doesn't help keep the place clean. There is a vacant room in another apartment so I am thinking about moving out. I don't want to get her in trouble but I also don't want to have to move out my things in the middle of the year. If I separate her and her boyfriend things will be worse for me b/c it seems like they hang out with noone but each other. She's already a mean person and will make me unhappier living there. What do you think I should do?
2006-11-08 19:00:50 · 19 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop worrying about them, they certainly don't care about your feelings, privacy, - - girl move your stuff and say "HOLLA" - I would feel so violated with him there all the time - and to me, there's nothing worst than a lazy, messy person. . you may want to live in filth but I don't .. I know it's a bit of a imposition to have to move because of "them" but can't put a price on peace of mind!
2006-11-09 05:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an alternative so you can quietly move out and enjoy all the peace and quiet that you deserve. Just be careful not to partner again with someone who will cause you more misery. You seem to be unsure of taking the right action, go ahead and take it. You will not miss anything but the unwanted noise.. You should not worry about what other people will say, as long as the move helps you concentrate on your college work. Good luck.
2006-11-08 19:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by 1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to them about it, tell them how your feeling. At the end of the day you have a life to, why shouldn't you be allowed to have your friends over... Put your foot down! Explain to her that you don't want to get her into trouble but you can't live in this situation. Tell them you're willing to compromise but things can't stay the way it is. If they are geniunie they will see things from your point of view also. Tell her that household chores need to be shared, make a rota and take it in turns to do the cleaning to make it fair. Don't move out - Why should you have to? If you move out it doesn't solve the problem for the other person who takes your place...
2006-11-08 20:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by sum2000mayyah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move your belongings to a new dorm room. Hopefully the new room won't be worse than the one your already in.
Your roommate is causing you to much unneeded stress and taking energy away from where you really need it. (college)
The move will release a lot of pressure
2006-11-08 19:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will choose to move out and not stay with such room mate. I always feel that if we are room mate we should be considerate and not take it as we are staying in our own house. So sometimes we have to decide the things that we feel that it is only right for us to do. Hope my view can be some help to you
2006-11-08 19:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your priorities in order and move out. You don't want to get her in trouble so you'd rather suffer in such an environment? Move out and don't take the guilt with you. You'll be a much happier person.
2006-11-08 19:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you scared of her? would you rather stay there and be miserable or have to spend one weekend moving your belongings. just tell the people it isn't working out, you guys are too different and you want to move. that way no one gets in trouble.
2006-11-08 19:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont deserve any of this annyance. Move as soon as you are able to. Worry about yourself and dont worry about her. Obviously she doesnt worry about you and keeps the place messy and makes loud noises.
2006-11-08 19:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Go For Broke 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious you should move out. If she gets in trouble it is her fault for breaking the rules.
2006-11-08 20:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak up and tell her how you feel. No one is going to read your mind and as long as they don't think you have a problem with them they're going to keep on going on with their merry old selves.
Stand up for your rights!
2006-11-08 19:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by Harushnakarvikonivonich Hakopyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋