When a man talks down to you and says mean awful things about you, calls you fat, ugly, lazy, broke and insults u in everyway he can. But you k now those things r not true. Why do mean say that when they are angry ?
2006-11-08 18:58:40 · 23 answers · asked by Karina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because they have a poor self esteem and the only way that they can bring themselves up is by putting others down. Woman also do this. I think that people who do this are in need of counseling, both for themselves and their partners. When I was in this situation I asked him to go to counseling and he refused. I gave him an ultimatum,stop it, go to counseling, or I'm leaving because I know that I am not those things that you say. I also know that I can find someone who will appreciate me and treat me better than you do. That was six months ago. I ended up leaving and I have found a much nicer man who is secure in himself and treats me with respect and dignity. My advice to you is to do what I did. If he truly cares about you he will go for the counseling and try to resolve his problems. If he refuses counseling your relationship will continue going on as it is now and you just might end up a broken person with no self esteem and a lot of hurt. Life is to short for that. Remember the problem is in him, not you. You deserve to be in a better relationship and if he won't fix things leave him. In these cases the grass is really greener on the other side.
2006-11-08 19:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY? I don't understand it and I don't want to find an understanding to why ? There is no reason or excuse to believe that one has the right to break someone else down to nothing. with its out of anger or just them being them. That type of anger and behavior comes way before you and thats the only way they know or choose due to some unhidden reason. Will it or can it change.? there is always a chance. I married some one just or trust me WORST than what is stated up above. I choice not to have that in my life. I was married for 27days. Like i said to him, I was wrong to let him believe that It was ok for him to treat me bad. I take some of the responsibaly for allowing it to happen.
2006-11-09 03:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone says stupid things when they're angry, it doesn't really mean much. But if you sleep with a man before marriage, he really doesn't respect you and can say what he likes to you because (even though he's doing the same thing) men can't get used to fact that their women have been with someone else.
2006-11-09 05:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you why. Because he can. Dont make it so that he can. Look for signs eairly in the relationship. Donot make excuses for his behavior "oh he just had a bad day" "oh he is just cranky" "oh he is just drunk it doesnt mean anything!" "He is only joking! hahaha" no, it is NEVER acceptible for a man...no not a man because real men dont do things like this, BOYS do, to ever act mean or say mean things to you. KICK HIS ***. I had a bf like that before in my past and I will never allow a guy to treat me that way. I dont give a flying **** if he "had a hard day at work" or "he is just tired" What about the girl?? Do these a$$holes ever think about us?? NO they dont. Because to them all we are is objects and the sad truth is there is proboly something wrong up in his head in other words guys who think this way are ****** UP. I HATE BOYS WHO THINK THEY CAN TREAT A WOMAN HOWEVER THEY FEEL LIKE TREATING THEM INSTEAD OF HOW THEY SHOULD TREAT A WOMAN!
2006-11-09 03:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to point out obvious things that he even knows that are wrong with him. Whether he's unattractive, a slob, greedy (etc..). Insult his personal life. But why is he calling you those mean, hurtful things? Is he trying to make himself feel better or does he have something against you? Elaborate on your question so it can be answered better!!!
2006-11-09 03:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people in general and not only men, say hurtful and mean words because they themselves lack self-esteem and more importantly, respect for themselves as well as others.
When someone lacks these values, their only sense of knowledge is to degrade others in order to build up their "ego". Mean things are not only said when they are angry but as part of their daily conversations.
We will never really know....
2006-11-09 03:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by angel eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion they do this because they have no respect for u and it's a way for them to feel better about their own insecurities. It's mental/emotional abuse and there is no excuse for anyone who supposedly loves u to say these things to u, whether they're angry or not.
2006-11-09 03:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it may be a control issued that men have. It is a sign of abuse and the more they put a woman down the better they feel with themselves
2006-11-09 03:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by Missy_Eye's 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop letting men talk to you this way. I personally after 56 years have NOT had one man speak to me that way.
They talk that way to you because you let them and you are hanging out with the wrong kind of men.
The first time a guy speaks that way, you walk away and don't waste your time on them.
2006-11-09 03:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is often the only way they can feel better about themselves. Those are the types of men that have low self-esteem, no matter what they try to say otherwise.
2006-11-09 03:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by schaianne 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋