wht shud i do ? .......help...plz...?

Question

welll i have this really gud net frd... n 4 him .....im more than a frd ...he wants 2 spend his life with me. i have no such feelins 4 him n i've made this clear but still when ever v chat he starts of with the same thin....wht shud i do ?...shud i cease chattin with him ?

Answer 1

Dear Lady,
There are lots of stories galore where men turned out to be deceiving girls and created lot of heart breaks on the net, even some girls also posse as men and play pranks with girls not realising the emotional harm they are going to cause.

My advice is to tell the man what you think and thereafter change your ID.

For laters I've put together a list of things you should and should not do when meeting new people on the "net". It's important to remember that we never really know who we're talking to, and what they're real motives are..

So, while my opinion on this isn't really popular, I believe that less is more and that pertains to how much personal information I give out. So.. without any further ado, here are some things to be cautious about:

When giving out my geographical location, I try to limit to a region only, rather than the exact name of the town, province or neighborhood. If you live in a large city, giving that information out is okay, if you're in a rural area, it's better to stick with regional information.

NEVER, EVER give out your phone number! It may seem remedial to say this, but people can be strange.. you may find yourself in a rather unenvious position of having to screen your calls, or being threatened or scared. If you want to talk on the phone, get the phone number to a pay telephone near to you, and arrange a time that you will be at that number. You can reverse this procedure if you prefer to call them. Make sure that the payphone is one that allows incoming calls. After a safe period of time, when you have determined that they are sincere and legitimate, then you can safely give out your personal information. Be Safe!! IMPORTANT!! If someone suggests you call them collect - YOUR TELEPHONE NUMBER WILL APPEAR ON THEIR PHONE BILL!

Finally - if you haven't already done so, activate your Caller ID Blocking feature so that your telephone number is blocked by the phone company and your phone number is "private". These last suggestions were submitted by a reader - they are excellent and appreciated.

Pictures.. If you're going to put your picture on the internet, you have NO reason to believe it's going to stay where you put it. In fact, anybody can right click on an image and take it from a web site. Once you put it up, you have NO idea where it's going. Give a lot of consideration to putting your picture up, and never put a picture of yourself with anyone else without first getting their permission!

Bragging! Yeah, it's competitive and we think we need all the points we can get.. so we brag about ourselves right? WRONG!! You're sending an open invitation to those who would defraud you, if you tell them you own a house or two, a few cars, a great job, whatever, you're practically rolling out the red carpet for jerks to crawl outta the woodwork to hit on you! Make no mistake, lots of guys are pretty, jerks fall into all categories. Limit how much information you give out! If you're nice, they'll flock to you!

Your "Handle". Your "Handle" is your moniker. It's the name everybody on personal and chat sites associate with who you are. Want trouble? Use a name that's guaranteed to get it for you. Names like HotBabe or anything ending with "69" is a sure invitation you'll get attention - whether you want it or not. Don't "go there" with handles, not only will they earn you undesired attention, but in a lot of cases, they break down the levels of the other women in the site by leading newcomers (men) to the assumption that if there's one "Hot" woman in the room, they're all "hot". Don't do that to the others, don't do it to yourself. What kind of person are you tempting with that kind of handle? Ask yourself that when thinking about a "handle" for yourself. Think about your best qualities and the kind of person you want to attract. Proceed accordingly.

Behavior! I can't stress enough how important it is to maintain some kind of appropriate decorum in Personals and Chat sites. If you're looking for trouble, go to an adult site that encourages that kind of behavior. If you're seriously looking for a mate, he's not going to be the kind of guy who wants to orgy with you in the Main Lobby of a chat site. Not only do you diminish your own self-respect, you tear down the esteem of the other women in the room, and that's not fair.

Your Handle! Your Handle is exclusively yours. It's who YOU are. If you meet a man who asks you to change your handle, to incorporate his name or both of your names, you lose a part of yourself, and become his "property". What kind of man would ask you to do that? A very insecure man! A man who needs "his woman" to tell the world what he cannot. DON'T DO IT!! It's important to retain your identify, your "self" and not become his chattel... If you meet someone who cares about you, or says they do, it was your handle that got their attention. If you change your handle, do it because YOU want to and not because someone else wants you to!

Answer 2

Frankly, I think you should tell him clearly how he is creating uneasiness for you by sticking to the same old topic.

Then if he continues to harass you, simply inform him that you will no longer want to have a friend who does not understand you and therefore you would appreciate if he stops harrassing you.

Nethertheless if he continues then you may resort to the ultimate measures that many other answerers have mentioned before me..

So now please cheer up and do not waste your evening because of a senseless fellow as lost time is never found!

Answer 3

If are bold and clear in your attitude towards him, there is no need to worry. Draw a line where you have to. If you are not interested in the kind of relation he wants with you, do not entertain it. Apart from being a friend on the net, you do not know what he is , who he is or what his intentions are. Do not continue the relation, if it is making you uncomfortable.

Answer 4

Yes; it's time to move on. If he can not understand your desires for someone else or the traits of another and the fact that he does not measure up to your expect ions for anything other than a friend; than, Yes - it's time to move on.. Maybe it's the best and most important thing you can do for him. This way he can start looking for someone else that sees him in another light and wants him for more than a friend. That's the kindest thing you can do for him is move on.. Think about it..

Answer 5

Yes

Answer 6

If he can't respect you and understand what you say then he doesn't care about you, because if he did he would understand and except that you don't have those feelings for him. Is he crazy???!!!! He hasn't even met you, he doesn't know you very well and for all you know he could be doing the same thing to other girls, tell him to bugger off!

Answer 7

There are stalkers on the net too. Yes stop chatting with him.

Answer 8

1.Chatting spoils your valuable time of building your own career.
2.Use your spare time in helping your parents, sisters and brothers and practising hobbies such as music, painting , dancing, reading variety of books.
3.Happy career building.

Answer 9

stop contact with him. Sounds like he will not stop. He could become a stalker. Are u positive of who he or she really is? Have u ever seen him in person in a social setting? Stop.

Answer 10

Just tell him No!!!!! If that don't get through to him then you are not saying it forcefully enough. You have to be tough with him. If he says what are you talking about tell him you have had enough of him trying to be more than freinds and would like him to stop now.