2006-11-08 18:46:44 · 14 answers · asked by magayon 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Yes. godp ut people with the necessary skills on this planet to help us cope with our daily strugles. A God-fearing therapist will be able to help you work through the abuse and to find the answers from within. you need to overcome in yourself by setting your perpetrator free by forgiving him. Take a good look at yourself, find what you want to be and do in this life and then JUST DO IT. Do not allow other people to break your spirit. Cry out to God for help and he will see you through. It is however a painstakingly slow process asGod will not do magic. He will probably show you some erros in your own make-up and also grant you the grace to overcome. Focus on yourself - not on the perpetrator. Make a decision to live and live!
Make sure however that your therapist does not come to you with new age garbage, as this will self-destruct. God is your answer. [ in and thorugh Cchrist Jesus, off course}
2006-11-08 22:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by godshandmaiden 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may not necessarily need therapy, but it wouldn't hurt to at least talk to someone who knows what you should expect and who knows the more subtle ways being battered could have affected you.
A person can feel as if the husband didn't really "damage" her because she just thought he was a jerk, and she never did the thing where she wondered what she was doing wrong. Still, though, there is something that can go on when a woman is made to feel helpless in spite of, maybe, being a very strong person with pride.
There can also later be issues about not being sure that a new guy won't "turn". ("After all," some former battered women think, "the first guy seemed so right in the beginning too".) She can tell herself, in her head, that all guys aren't the same; but she may not be able to just shake off some of the emotional effects of having someone "so perfect" "turn" and not being sure some other "perfect" person won't turn as well.
Women often deal with the issue of their awful marriage alone. Even when they leave it is sometimes not something family members or friends understand. It wouldn't hurt for you to talk to someone to get some idea of the more subtle ways you could have been affected, and to - once and for all - have a conversation with someone who knows exactly what you've been through.
Therapy? Maybe not. Information and experience? Probably.
Why muddle through any of the after-effects by yourself when someone with knowledge and experience may be able to help you head them off.
2006-11-09 03:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I would check with some support groups as well because there may be some hidden traumas that may come out in different ways and you won't be aware of it. This will help you deal with the issues of being a battered woman. I pray that you do this for yourself to be able to move on in your life and to progress in your life. Nobody deserves being battered but you do deserve being a woman having control over her life.
2006-11-09 13:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are battered and don't or can't leave you need help to understand why. At the very least you should contact an organization that can advise you about your options. Therapy is often helpful.
2006-11-09 03:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by meg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's not that your crazy, it's that we tend to develop patterns in our thoughts and actions. If you were in a physically abusive relationship, there was also a lot of emotional abuse that you may not even be aware of. But if he hadn't made you feel like this is what you deserve in life, you wouldn't have stuck around as long as you did. Therapy will help you sort through the emotional abuse, and examine the patterns in your thoughts and actions so that you don't end up in another abusive relationship. You deserve better than that, so please do it for you.
2006-11-09 10:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Allison L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are strong willed not ,but if it is still happening ,differenet story,I have been with my husband 23 yr's he tried that and i learned how to fight,then i put him in his place,and to this day he gets loud sometime but he knows not to touch me,the hit can only hurt so long and then they all fill the same but when you stand up for yourself he stops to think before he hits,if you are small then think it throught before you lay that first punch,have all your ducks in a row the show him what it feels like to be hit,and don't let the kids heard or see this going on,Sorry this is somethng i lived through to
2006-11-09 08:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Digit 4156 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good for many reasons your self esteem, you life, and the I'm sorries and I won't do it again are just words ........ There are groups that can help in your area and it help to hear that others have been where you are and how they have overcome and share feelings.
Therapy is a great thing and will help you .... yes you need it .... your no ones to beat up on you deserve so much more than that
2006-11-09 06:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you didn't leave the ****** the first time he beat you and if you didn't turn him into the police, then yes, you need therapy...If you dumped him on first instance, I think you are ok without therapy.
2006-11-09 02:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by divinephi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and please do. Your physical scars may have mended but you have a lot of emotional scars you need to deal with and therapy will help you heal. I hope that you are not battered anymore and if you are, please get some help.
2006-11-09 02:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try with a counselor for a few sessions and a group for a few sessions, then come back and tell us how it went . . .
2006-11-09 02:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋