we have 2 wonderful children...and I want my kids to learn my dialect but my husband against about the idea...and told me that why does our kids have learn it and yet they don't live in Philippines...Is it wrong that my 2 kids should learn my dialect?
2006-11-08 18:35:43 · 23 answers · asked by ♥chicagurl♥ 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I cannot choose the best answer..because all of you gave me the BEST answer. Thank you
2006-11-10 19:38:57 · update #1
It's not wrong . . the more languages they learn the better off they will be.
2006-11-08 18:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Filipino Paisano. You're husband is trying to throw his White superiority around and seems like a shallow person. I don't understand why he married you if he can't accept the fact that you're Filipino & it's your culture and should have the right to teach your children the language you grew up speaking.
2006-11-09 09:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by sunny4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong, in fact, you should encourage them to learn. It's not only better to learn an extra language, they can also communicate better with your parents and families. Your husband should understand he is not just your husband, he is also the son-in-law of your parents.
2006-11-09 04:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tan D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with them learning your dialect. I think it's good for children to know about their heritage.
2006-11-09 02:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
two sides to the story unfortunately. and neither is right or wrong.
i understand the point of not wasting time to teach them something they will never use.
but on your side to learn about their mothers heritage etc, i think learning the language and travelling over there would be an amazing experience
i think with these two sides of the story and a bit of communication, a resolution should be forthcoming
are the kids of an age where they can decide for themselves?
but to be honest i believe he should respect your opinion and allow the kids learn your dialect, explain it to him seriously about how he would react if you lived over there and he had to learn your language and the kids dont learn english.
if all this doesnt bring yourselves to some sort of compromise then im out of ideas
2006-11-09 02:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by jake s 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Not at all. My partner is Filipino, I am caucasian.....I have not learned Tagalog, but I have no problem with the beautiful, albeit very fast sounding language. It sounds like your husband cannot accept your heritage. Your heritage is important and should be accepted.......more importantly he should respect your people and family
2006-11-09 02:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a good idea for children to have more than one language. It is a global economy now. It will really be to their advantage by the time they are grown. It also give "points" on college applications and job interviews. All sorts of advantages could pop up.
2006-11-09 02:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by busybody12 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is part of there heritage. It is there right! being White or Caucasian is only 1/2 of their history being Philippine is thier other half.
They would be very blessed to learn both. They will have so many more advantages in the long run than other children only speaking one language.
Growing up I saw to many children and some times even today were children are beat and punished here in america for not just speaking English. I'd say about 99% of the time the person punishing them was one of their only family members. This is Crazy. Along the way I have also seen people of many cultures that don't know any other language but english when they grow up, they can't even understand what soem of their own family members are saying to them. I just totaly could not understand why a parent would rob a child of such a great gift of speaking 2 laungages. But then I remeber when I was younger and the school kids that didn't speak english havign a little more trouble in school. I don't think it was because of them not knowing English and trying to learn english but I think it was because of all of the pressure they were under from their parents who would most likely beat them if they didn't do good in school.
About your Husband???? Is he lazy? Maybe he doesn't want them to learn Philippine because he is to lazy to learn it him self? There are tons of Lazy American's. {*note: to all american's don't you dare get pist off about what I just said, I'm a total U.S.A. born and raised girl*} Is he afraid that he may not be able to learn it him self and won't be able to understand his own children? Maybe he is afraid that the children might have more difficulty in school or growing up or being teased because of the way they speak? O.k. These things might happen but if you and he re-enforce the Pride of speaking 2 languages & each culture they will be fine. both of my children are mixed and each has a diffrent back ground. My Daughter's father passed away before she was born but i make sure to learn and teach her about her Latin heritage. My son's father is 1/2 Irish & 1/2 Black and his family and I help support and teach him his back ground and then some. and Each of them support each others' Heritage. My son speaks english first and very well but along the way he has learned 6 or is it 7 other languages. Now he is only 9 right now but i know with support he will speak at least 4 languages very very well as he gets older. My daughter Speaks Eanglish and pretty o.k. spanish and since we have lived in Florida, California& Texas she understands alot of diffrent dialects of spanish. Me is speak just English and understand alot of spanish, speak very little spanish but my kids are awesome! English, Spanish, Cambodian, Chinesse, French, German, Ti, Japaness. <--Not sure of the spellings.
YourHusband needs to realize the total benifits, work, schooling, making better money when they get older, being able to help people because they understand and speak both. He also has to realize that it wouldn't be fare of you to say to him if ya'll lived in the Philippines that they don't need to learn English.
Here is soem stuff you might want to read:
http://how-to-learn-any-language.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=1149&PN=1
http://www.multilingualchildren.org/
http://childrensbooks.about.com/od/bilingualforeign/
http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=raising+bilingual+children&rs=0&fr2=rs-top&prssweb=Search&ei=UTF-8&fr=yfp-t-414
hopefully these are helpful and I totaly hope your Husband sits back and takes some serious time to think this over for the sake of your children
peace be with you all
:0)
2006-11-09 03:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by vomo07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow .. thats pretty narrow minded of your husband ...
IT is WONDERFUL if you want to teach your kids the language.. and they should learn it..its apart of them. unlike many americans who dont know much about their backgrounds.. this is the 1 of the things Americans are criticized. I dont know why anyone would be against learning something very useful in the future.
Good luck
2006-11-09 03:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by nola_cajun 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should understand that they need to know these things that are a part of their cultural background. One day they may decide to live there and that would be a start if they already knew the language. I would want him to explain why he has an objection to that.
2006-11-09 02:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Big mama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its far easier to learn a second language as a child than as an adult! Yes, please teach those children- if for no other reason than some colleges make it mandatory that you know at least one other language as a condition of entrance!
2006-11-09 02:42:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋