Girls, what do you think of when guys do this?

Question

When a guy puts his arm around your shoulders and neck, rather than waist?

When a guy orders for you rather than asking you what you want?

I find both of these things incredibly uncomfortable. Guys that do this, why do you do it?

Answer 1

I think they havent gotten any in this millenium because that is just so desperate acting!

Answer 2

Usually when I guy puts his arms around your neck or shoulders it means nothing more but a friend ship (it doesn't mean that with every guy though). When a guy orders something for you he got impusive going on or figured he knew what you wanted. Just talk to him about that....sounds like he was trying to be nice and do something for you. Or he didn't realize it. Guys are complicated and weird in certain ways. You really NEED to speak up and tell him you felt uncomfortable. Take care sweetie.

Answer 3

First, nobody better put me in a headlock because I don't like it and I have a phobia about it. Then anyone that orders for me without asking will be eating it themselves. They order and I will get up and walk out of the restaurant without saying anything and then when they follow me and asked what is wrong, I will give them both barrels and all my claws, then tell them that I am not stupid and they are not my parents and I know how to take care of things myself, then I walk away and call a taxi.

Answer 4

When he puts his arms around my shoulders I think he's getting ready to put me in a headlock.
As for ordering for me, I've never had anyone do that. I guess they know better! lol Just have to be a bit more assertive. If someone DID order for me, I think out of sheer stubbornness, I'd tell the waiter that I really wanted something else. lol

Answer 5

Shoulder & neck) it's just more comfortable than around the waist. Tell him it bothers you and strains your neck and upper back.

Ordering for you) Rude, unless it is something like "2 cokes please" and you have been together for long enough for him to know that is what you always ask, even then, he could look at you just to acknolege if that is what you want.

Answer 6

IF he puts his arm around my shoulder, it's ok. But Not around me neck (unless if we're ... :P )
If i tell him wht i want to eat prior to ordering and he orders on my behalf, it's fine. BUt if he takes for granted and orders without me telling him first, i'd think that he doesnt respect me.

Answer 7

I would prefer his arms around my waist too.
I like it when a man orders for me.

Answer 8

Well the arm thing isn't important but ordering for me.....That is odd. Unless I told him what I wanted before he orders....strange.

Answer 9

The arm thing for me is a way that I say I like you as more friend we should think about our relationship
The food thing is a control issue if you have said something about it. If you haven't said anything it's your fault
COMUNICATION!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

my male bestfrend likes 2 put his arm around my neck.. its just how we are.. i do d same 2 him..

but my babe always put his arm on my waist or my back & i luv it.

my babe never orders me anything.. if he does, i wudnt talk 2 him not unless he says sorry (w/a funny voice)..

those guys who do that r not real men coz they dnt knw how 2 treat & respect women.. they're L0SERS!

Answer 11

guys order your food because they are afraid you will order something that costs more that $3.00 and they put their arm around your neck because they think they look taller