One marriage proposal came to me, he saw me & said ok,
one day his parents came & they rejected, becaz they wants him to marry some other girl, but he is nice guy, how to convert his parents mind, shall i met him or not, what should i do........
(my frds r telling i should not met him, if he likes me let him convince his parents, )pls help me.
2006-11-08 18:10:02 · 16 answers · asked by pooja 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to consider a lot of factors, Many people give you many ideas. But you are the one to decide. If you know your strengths and weaknesses you can decide. Your strength for example, You are educated, employed, beautiful, young with still age on your side etc. Your weaknesses may be you are from a not well to do family, not very confident etc. I feel if the guy can not convince his parents now , he will never be able to. Then you can never have a meaningful, peaceful life even if his parents agree for you. So if you have lot of strong factors on your side, better leave this boy and look for some one who likes you. I wish you a happy married life, treating you as one of my sisters.
2006-11-08 21:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by SGraja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey pooja. first of all dont use this rejected word. you are not an object which is kept in a shop that smone will select or reject you. He may be nice guy but if he didnt opposed his parents view today what will happen if u 2 get married n his parents are not behaving well n the boy cant go against his parents will. So first try to know his nature . If he is that good than go ahead other wise forget him. thera are a lot of guys( good guys) still waiting for you.
2006-11-10 01:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by prashant_iitr2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps I've never run in to this type of situation but I've also never entered in to any type of relationship because of someones parents!
Parents should be respected. They helped create the person you are interested in but they shouldn't be a deal breaker.
Why don't you invite one of them to coffee to find out what their concerns are? At least then you would know what you were up against.
2006-11-09 02:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Aves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, and a big no.
Take cheer in the fact that the boy liked you. That the parents did not like is their perception.
If you talk now, it will be a big negative! (Trying to influence the boy even before mairrage .... will be touted). Also, it may be a case of boy changing his mind and asking parents to front for him.
There will be many boys in future, and hopefully one you get will be the one who will believe in his decision.
Take cheer and wait for the right one.
APS
2006-11-09 02:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by APS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you should talk to the guy once and give it a chance.
But before talking to him you should be totally sure about marrying him. Maybe the guy also thinks the same way.
Its always safe to be sure than being sorry and regret for what you lost. Its easy for you to get the right answer since the guy likes you...
Go ahead and talk to him... wish you all the best.
2006-11-09 02:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by girishjo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must talk him. if u will not talk to him, he will not get confidence to convince his parents... first u have to convince him that u accept his proposal and wanna marry him. and then request him to convince his parents.. give him some time, because its very tough to convince the parents.. and remember, when his parents get convinced, u request him that u want to meet his parents and first u should meet them and take them in urs confidence with sweet talks because in future u have to live in his house with his parents only...
that is my opinion.... think about it and plz dont take it granted because i might be wrong also.. so take urs decision urself.
best of luck
2006-11-09 02:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by avis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think talking does not harm in any way & depending on the family conditions if the guy is also keen to marry you then he is the best guide to help you reach his family, as he knows his family best,better than U & me.
2006-11-09 02:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by hotchocredrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who care about his parent, this is the marriage of u and you man. I guess ur man is mature enough to make his own decision. his parents can't do any **** about it.
So just do whatever u want.
Wish you and you bf live happily together forever
2006-11-09 02:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe that guy is so rotten that he told yes to you and later he changed his mind when he got home and said do something i do not want to marry her !!may be may be......
or his parents are like that,would you like to get married to someone who listens to everything his parents say and doesnt act according to his own wishes??
c'mon your frnds are totally right let him do it if he wants to marry you......you are not losing anything only he is losing a nice girl like you with his crazy decision
2006-11-09 02:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by dats me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends are very right let him convince his parents and one more thing did he try to approach you after his parents rejected you if not then it is better you let him go
2006-11-09 02:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by manjari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋