I want to fall in love, be married, and raise a family. But at the rate I'm going, this will never happen for me. Is there meaning in life if you cannot have children to carry on your genes, your wisdom, etc.? I don't want to live an empty life.
2006-11-08 17:56:10 · 18 answers · asked by Mister_Shhh 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Me too I had a break down of wanting to be a daddy. However, it was out of my control. After all it takes two. However until you I had another issue effecting it. Then that situation was taken care of in away. I thought will just MAYBE it might happen. Then I found out there was no chance of the situation continuing.
As far as falling in love. Maybe you haven't came across the correct person for you. Maybe it just not the right time. As far as getting married. I really hope you want rush that situation even when you do find that special someone.
After my sister had her second child. She got her tubes tied. Then she had cervical cancer. She had the surgery, and is now healthy. However recently she got married for the second time. . There is NO way she can have another child ever again. If I make it through life and further. I just hope that this does not became an situation for her husband. I feel like he is being short changed in the married.
After all there are PLENTY of men out here that would just want more than anything to be a DADDY. Some could careless less. Some are just scared of the commitment. But still would like to be.
What is your age by the way?
2006-11-08 18:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BTW, americanmimeboy, Hitler is dead.
Having said that, here's my answer to your question Mister_Shhh: Having been single all my life...I'm now in my late 40's...I don't think my life has been worthless & I know for a fact that you can have a full life whether you marry or not. I'd love to get married, but unfortunately I'm already past the having children stage so that won't be an issue...but it doesn't mean I have an empty life. I have a wonderful family, great friends & I get to live vicariously through my nieces & nephew & the best part about being an aunt is I can give them back to their parents when they start driving me crazy! I have a wonderful life! Good luck!
2006-11-09 03:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by kibbie01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You need some self confidence there! Of course there is plenty of reason to be here besides carrying on the family name. Go find volunteer work somewhere. You can offer services to the old or handicapped, join the volunteer fire department, tutor children or teens who need help, be a candy striper at the hospital, etc.
I am sure you have plenty to offer to this world so do not give up. Go paint a picture or write a book. Find something you like and go for it!
Now, on that idea of never finding love. It is just ahead and around one of those corners if you get my drift. One day you will find a person who loves you and you love them. Just be patient and be kind. There is a girl out there looking for someone just like you. In the mean time be good to yourself.
2006-11-09 02:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check it out. I don't know how long you've been single or if you've ever been in a relationship or even your life style at this point. All I know is everyone in this world was born for a single purpose. Your small paragraph tells me you obviously haven't found that out yet. If infact your feeling your life is none worth living just know you have meaning in your life. If it hasen't come it will. I'm positive of that. Maybe a family wasn't ment to happen for you. Time and patients will help you in this journey. Look for it and appriciate it when it happens man. Stay away from drugs and alcohol right now too!
2006-11-09 02:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by mikeywk 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you should know that while kids may carry on your genes, they probably won't listen to your wisdom.
Why can this never happen? You can still fall in love I am sure, and even if it's too late for you to have kids you can adopt kids. There are many children of all ages waiting for a home.
The meaning in your life is what you do with it.
2006-11-09 02:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend you and i are in the same boat. but dont trip, Look around out side of your life for answers. Not everyone was made to reproduce at first i was soo depressed that i couldn't get girls. But I'm pretty religious and kept faith. Afterwards i found what my life goal is and it doesn't involve MArriage. Sad to say it isn't for everyone But im content I still like women and admire them but htats not my path. What you can do is try to 'meditate' but not really just look inside your self and ask yourself if there is something more to life than just raising a family what I'm doing is im goin to fix a broken country. the only thing better than having kids carry on your name is letting your name be remembered forever that's my goal. Hope this was enlightening
2006-11-09 02:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by bboyballer112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single blessedness is not a doom. I believe that every person has a puspose, and not everyone is meant to get married. If you can't find yourself a lady to share your life with, there are many other ways to spend it. What about volunteer work? those stuff, anything to get busy with and be happy. If it doesn't fulfill you, why don't you go out and meet the ladies. Have fun dating, it wouldn't be too hard to ask since you're a guy. If you can't find anyone, find me. hehehehehe
PS... I've heard this on the radio... which is worse.... being single and miserable or be married and wish I was dead?
2006-11-09 02:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by Rio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a terrible feeling. But let's flip the coin! You can live for yourself, not having to worry about what your partner's going to think, not having to check in with them all the time, you see where i'm going? but i do understand what you're saying. perhaps you have nieces and nephews? have an active part in their lives, pass your wisdom on to them. etc.
single doesn't necessarily mean empty, it's only empty if that's how you choose to view it.
some people find love at 16, others at 86. something worth remembering.....
2006-11-09 02:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you want a family, that shows you have a maternal instinct! Don't let it get you down that you care. I personally do not have that drive- it's an incredible expense, a lifetime job, and one wrong choice in a mate leads many to killl their significant others (sorry, that's extreme). There are a lot of advantages to being single. Try not to think of it as marriage happy, singlehood sad. It's just not that black and white.
2006-11-09 02:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very full and happy life, and I have no plans whatsoever to have children. I don't want them. I'm not dating anybody, either, and don't particularly care if I ever do. I'm young, and want to get to know myself before I even think of dating anybody. I'm very content with my own company, and can't imagine it any other way. If you have good self-esteem and are psychologically secure, your life will never be empty, regardless of your marital status or any other factor.
2006-11-09 03:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋