baby shower?

Question

I need help, my sister in law just told me that we need to start planning a baby shower. I am not that big with the whole baby shower thing but my husband wants one however he would rather push it off on her and i would rather plan with him. He told me we could plan together but how do i get him to understand that since this is "our" baby we should plan this and how would i tell my sister in law that i would rather plan the baby shower with him ? After all i dont feel as though its right for my husband to push the baby shower on his sister cause he dont want to deal with the planning and i dont think its right that my sister in law does the planning its not fair to us cause this is our baby. And she should leave the planning up to us whether we want one or if we dont instead of taking matters into her own hands.

Answer 1

I think maybe your sister in law just wants to help...on the other hand it is your baby shower and you should be able to plan it with your husband it that is what you want..I'd get him to talk to her and just let her know that you two are gonna plan it and ask her if she would like to bring something (and you tell her what you'd like her to bring) Hope it turns out to be a special occasion for you and you get some nice things for the baby!

Answer 2

Have you ever been to a baby shower?
You don't give yourself a baby shower any more than you give yourself a bridal shower. Other people do it for you. You don't send people a card and tell them to show up and by the way...bring a present that I've already picked out from this list.
Your best bet...if you want it to turn out well and want to HELP; let your HUSBAND talk to his sister. Let him ask her to throw the shower in your honor, but to ask you for your opinions. That way you get to pick the date, you have a gift registry, you pick the theme, etc.
The last shower I gave was for my youngest sister. If I didn't love her and if she wasn't carrying my youngest nephew...I'd have killed her.
She called me and asked me to take care of the shower because she wanted it done right. Then she called me a couple of days before the shower (and after everything was done) to add "just a few things she wanted". I made the changes and she's still alive.
It would have been so much easier if she had sat down with me and said (in a nice, not pushy way), "I'd really like to have a simple shower. I really don't think we need a big cake, but I'd love to have lots of finger foods for everyone to eat. I don't want anyone to go home hungry. I loved the games you did at the last baby shower. Could you please have us play them again? And if you don't mind, could the shower have a unisex theme instead of the whole pink or blue thing?".
I was glad to do this for her.
I would have been embarrassed by her and for her if she had actually had the nerve to plan her own shower and expect people to show up. It's just really bad manners.
Besides...who wants to do all the work for a party that is suppose to be for you?

Answer 3

A baby shower is a time to shower the mother to be, and there is mixed party's now days but its fairly uncommon. If you feel as you want to plan this with your husband say something now. You may want a theme or something, its common to have a family member or friend to plan the shower as it can be a surprise for the expecting parents.

I have my baby shower on the weekend and mine is just a regular shower with all the women of the family and friends something together for a morning tea, playing a few games and just baby talk. I have planned everything myself but its good to have a host, you could ask your sister in law to be host so you and your husband can plan the party but she can still be involved by hosting it, the host organizes the games and explains them to the guests. You can pick the games but she just hosts it on the day.

Not much goes in planning a baby shower but for the planning it should be up to you to decide what you want, if that's a registry or theme, invites and games then you should be able to plan it if that's what you want. I'm sure your sister in law is just excited she is becoming a aunt and wants to help you out not to take over as its a shower for you, it can be just like the maid of honer plans the bridal party. Its up to you. Chill and don't think is just your baby everyone is excited for and with you. Relax and let things flow. Good luck.

Answer 4

i see where your coming from but most of the time the shower is planned by a family. it is that way so that it will take some of the stress of the parents to be. you should really take your sister-in-law up and let her help plan the baby shower. trust me you need this time now to rest because you get that baby here there will not much time for rest. congrats!!

Answer 5

Most of the time it's female relatives or girlfriends/co-workers that do plan baby showers. Rarely do husbands even attend.....it's a girl thing. A baby shower is a great way for friends and relatives to financially participate in the upcoming birth and it is usually held for the first baby not the ones to follow, but even that is becoming more frequent now......having baby showers for each child. And what's more, you can even have more than one shower for the same baby. Just let it be known the kinds of items you would like as gifts or if you have a theme in mind, like Winny the Pooh, Mickey Mouse, pastel colors, whatever.....
Have fun!

Answer 6

Okay hunny here is the thing you are not supposed to plan your own babyshower. It is supposed to be a good friend or family member that gives you on. It is an honor and a gift for one to do so an shows that they care. Plus when you through one for yourself you just look selfish.

But there are several games that can be played and prizes you can give out.

Usually men don't attend but if your hubby wants to be there great try to invite some of his friends too then.

Answer 7

be glad she wants to do it your not supposed to do your own shower anyway. i felt the same way in august i wanted to do it my cousin thru it for me and it was great. tell her what theme you want if you like or what food you want there like chicken wings an meatballs frozen from costco or sam club make green beans abig salad keep it simple i'm sure you hubby trust your sister just sit back and enjoy boo this is your time to be pampered chill out it will be just fine good luck oh and by the way my finance didn't want to participate in planning either but on the day of our shower he surprised me with a photographer he was there from beginning to end our baby shower album is beautiful he captured everything throw subtle hints to your man of what you may want again good luck and have fun

Answer 8

It would be considered "gift grubbing" to throw your own shower, you can suggest ideas to your sis-in-law, but people do not have showers for themselves, come on.
Ideally a female family member hosts a shower.

Yeah it's your baby, and you can call the shots when it comes to her care and such, but throwing your own shower, that is definitely in bad taste

Answer 9

let your man go..he dont need to be involved with a baby shower get over it.. let the sister in law do it less you have to deal with....well yess it is "your" but when people get pregnant everyone loves to pitch in and help i had 3 kids.. believe me let her help...stop being selfish and bull headed... let her help let the everyone help...its a party for you and your baby sit back and enjoy it..

Answer 10

Normally someone does through the shower for you. Just be happy she wants to do it.