This woman at my husband's workplace?

Question

ok so there is this woman who works for my husband, she comes to his office and always talks about her husband (usually good things), today she goes over to his office and tells him that he (her husband) is divorcing her, apparently he cheated on her. why is she telling him this stuff?? Is she interested in my husband? I know my husband does lead women on...he is the biggest flirt you'll ever see....should I be concerned?
He doesn't want me being sympathetic to other guys about their relationships, so what makes it ok for him??

Answer 1

My concern isn't if she is interested in your husband or not. My concern is why your husband doesn't want you to be sympathetic to other guys about their relationships. Is it because he is afraid something would happen? And if that is a concern of his, then it must mean that he feels that's what happens when someone is sympathetic to others about their relationships, which is exactly what he is doing. Hmmmm. Seems to me there is a clue there somewhere.

Answer 2

Anyone going through a break up is going to want to tell their story. They want to feel that they got people on their side! Cheating is a so very common in the human race. If you are afraid if he will cheat or has cheated you must come to a point in your lives where you can be 100% honest with each other. Being suspicious isn't going to make him be true to you or make u feel any better about your relationship. His conviction to your relationship is not based on if another woman makes herself available. If that was the case almost no man alive would be true. His committment to you is something he has to own within himself. If you suspect him cheating, you need to investigate. If she tries to lure him in, he should be strong and turn down her advances. That is the best solution. You telling him she is awful flirtatious with him gives him a renewed sense of feeling desired and might make him want to cheat.
If a hot stud flirted with you would you cheat? Probably not. Because you have a solid conviction toward your husband.

IF cheating does occur you have to put it into perspective. Why did it happen?
Honestly, many men cheat because sex becomes very boring and run of the mill at home. A new woman gives the exciting inner nervousness of dating again. Who doesn't like those feelings. I suspect that is why we all flirt?! If you are a missionary type of gal who thinks that is enough for your man then may I suggest reading

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Answer 3

Well, it isn't ok for him if it isn't ok for you. It is a little strange that she would drive to his office to talk about her marital problems. If she was already at work though and was feeling blue maybe he was just the only one to talk to. Don't assume she wants your man or that he will stray unless you have reason to. Remember, trust is really important in a relationship. If you really are uncomfortable with this woman telling him this stuff though then stand your ground. Tell her. This is your husband and how you feel should be what matters to him. She either knocks it off or she can pick up her last paycheck on payday. Take care.

Answer 4

The reason why she's sharing her personal stuff with your husband is most probably one of those (or all of them joint together):
1. She has been put to a second place, her man has chosen someone before her, so her self esteem has vanished and she needs to reassure it by prooving herself that men still like her and find her attractive. In this case your husband (I am sorry I have to admit this but) is the perfect subject - flirty and consecuently , I guess, able to appraise her femininity.

Don't worry in this case she is not persuing him, but she is searching some boost to her self confidence.

2. The other reason is that she is hut and she looks for some comfort. In these cases, you know, the easiest thing to do is to talk to a stranger, due to his unprejudiced assessment and opinion.

3. There is also the probability that she liks your man so, watch out, but don't be overprotective, be vigilant, but don't show him that, don't let him know you're worried, you don't want that, reallly.

Good Luck

Answer 5

I dont want to give you bad news, but yes you should be concerned. Your husband is a big flirt and is probably flirting with her. Now, her husband is dumping her. She may be ripe for either male attention to make her feel better or to try and make her husband jealous. Either way, she may be interested in using your husband for this. Keep a close eye out. I would not trust her.

Answer 6

She needs someone to talk to and I'm sure your husband has been really nice to her in the past. I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe you can be her friend to and she will talk to you more than she talks to him. If not, then shouldn't the real issue be about a woman who's been cheated on and maybe you could imagine what she's feeling like right now. Try being her friend and ask your husband if you can help.

Answer 7

Hi Cutie, This is a new one on me.Women don't go up to a guy and start telling him about divorces.You have said,you husband is a big flirt. I wouldn't worry about your husband. But the snake in the grass is trouble.If you can, try and keep an eye on this one.

Clowmy

Answer 8

First although your husband is a flirt it doesn't make him a cheater. You know your husband and if you trust him, trust that he will do what's right. Even if this woman is interested as long as your husband knows the boundaries nothing will happen.

Answer 9

This woman at my husband's workplace?

Answer 10

I would tell your husband how you feel about this girl. It sounds like she is trying to hook up with your husband. I would tell him that you don't want him talking to her anymore, especially when its not ok for you to do the same.