My mom is being rude... wat to do?

Question

ok, my parents are divorced and my mom has been telling me that i get to decide who to live with and who to visit and the whole custody deal plus that's what i heard from lawyers too. When i finally turned 14 in May, my mom went to court and forced me back to her visitation rights. I really hate her for this and i've confronted her about it more than once with my feelings and trying to make her see my side but nothing has worked. I'm really mad at her cuz i can't hang out with my friends cuz she lives 2 hours away from where i live. I know i only see her 2 weekends a month but this really makes a difference in my social life. I don't know how to talk to her about this. Any advice is welcome... :)

Answer 1

yeah.. my mom had visitation rights on me.. until i recently turned 18.. it sucked.. it wasnt forced.. but being there the weekends got boring.. it may have been nice meals and a decent conversation with her.. and right before i turned 17 she got dogs.. so i had a little fun with them, but just try to have fun while there.. meet people your age that live near her.. and have fun with them.. make best out of it..

Answer 2

I think you are angry with your mother and that is normal ,Try to find some freinds were your mother lives or find a way to work around it may be invite a freind to stay the weekend at your moms,you may be angry but unless she has been a bad mother ,you would regret not seeing her at all ,girls need there mother ,even if you think you dont .

Answer 3

My daughters face a similar situation as yours . they want to live with me but thier mother is a control freak . As it is the school system that thier mother lives is better thn the one near me. I do my best by calling them at least once or twice a day . Letting them know I care about them . I see them every other weekend . One day they will be able to move in with me . Keep a log of your day to day life to support any leagle prob you may come up against. Good luck:-)

Answer 4

Try talking to your mom. You shouldn't hate your mom for wanting to see you, unless its just to get back at your dad for some crazy reason, like my dad tried to do with your mom. Tell your mom that it would be easier on you if she lived closer, if possible. Just remember how you approach the situation is going to determine her attitude. If you yell and scream and act like a baby, she'll probably talk to and treat you like one. If you are calm and adult like then she'll be a little more open and understanding. Have you tried to invite your friends to come with you to your mom's? This might also be a great alternative, than not wanting to see your mom. Just consider yourself lucky that you have two parents that love you and want to see you. I wasn't so lucky.

Answer 5

You don't want to see your mother for only 2 weekends a month? if your mom didn't want to see you I bet things would be different. She's not being rude, she wants to be with her child. Appreciate her while you have her, don't wait until your 30 to realize how important she is.

Answer 6

seek professional help, you are not the only one going through rough times. i am pretty sure that your mom loves you she's just not herself right now. but like i said, if you tried reaching her with honest intent and feeling and no budge, see a counselor at school. don't be afraid to ask for help.

Answer 7

well all i can say is bare with your mom... she' your mother! try to understand her situation, she just want to have a quality time with you and your friends would surely understand that. Just give your mother a chance to show you how she wants to care for you

Answer 8

I don't see why you should hate your mother!

Answer 9

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