im married for about 4 years now, during our 2nd year i meet a guy who twice as older than me, he is funny and comfortable i fall in love with him and having a serious relationship, my problem is how can i break him up since i love him so much. my husbond doesnt know about it. im guilty. .
2006-11-08 17:41:23 · 24 answers · asked by dangat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The dishonesty will ruin your life. You need to make a decision. Your husband deserves to be with a woman who will honor him, and you can't lead a happy, healthy life with this type of deception. Make up your mind who you want to be with, and commit to them. Alternatively, you can choose to be single and see as many guys as you want. It's up to you - just live with integrity so no one will be hurt. I would also encourage you to seek counseling to figure out why you would set up such a destructive situation in your life. You know that only bad can come of this, for all concerned. You also need to protect the innocent party here - which is your husband. If you feel the need for confession to ease your guilt, go to a clergyperson. Do not hurt your husband, just to ease your mind. I know you are going to do the right thing. I can tell from your post. We've all made mistakes in life. The key is to recognize our mistakes, correct them, move on, and don't repeat them.
Good luck and a big hug,
-Ginger
2006-11-08 17:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time. Weigh the pros and cons of your future action or decision. Obviously, you committed a grievous harm to your husband even though he doesn't know it yet. Also, you are hurting inside also because of the guilty feelings you have inside and you know what you're doing was wrong in the first place.
Scenarios? If you leave the older man, you do not have to say sorry because he's a partner to the crime and I assume that he knows that you're married when you started the affair. You said that you love him so much, will you say the same with your husband? This is one of the questions you will ask yourself while contemplating your decision. You have to act fast now because you are in a crisis but definitely, it will be your decision that will be final. If in case, in the future, you will regret your decision, let it be but do not forget the lessons that has to be derived from the experience.
I just do not know if it will apply to you that something forbidden seems always pleasurable and something for keeps. In my case, it's only because of the excitement of doing something beyond the extraordinary.
Good luck to your decision and earnestly hoping, you will pick the best one.
2006-11-09 02:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thou shall not commit adultery that is a commandment of the Lord. Now you are an adulteress you can have your fun for sometime then what?. This relationship will be discovered sooner rather than later. Your husband will want divorce. God will punish you 100% guaranteed. So take my advise and break off completely while you can. Do not care about hurting any one
2006-11-09 01:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm wow thats a huge mistake. first off, you should have not lied to your husband & going behind his back is considered lying. Let him know that you've been unfaithful & prove to him you won't ever repeat your mistakes again. If he is forgiving, he will forgive you-but it will take time so bare with him. Also, dump that other guy. End the friendship. He's not worth your 4 yr. marriage. Stay with your husband and end it now with that other guy before your feelings become too unbearable.
2006-11-09 01:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Q & A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what has your husband do wrong to deserve a break up from you? if none, it will be a selfish act as your husband too deserve someone's better, but choose not for being loyal to you.
if you feel breaking up will brings a lot more benefit for the sake of your marriage, i guess that justifies for a divorce. but remember, this trend will happen again in future, either by you or your new husband! so, good luck
2006-11-09 02:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by mz tulip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this Guy so much that you threw your marriage vowels out the window then why don't you just get a divorce. That way you can stop making your clueless hubby look like a total fool any longer
2006-11-09 01:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in love with the sugar daddy huh? oh well, you've made your bed now lie in it. how are you having a serious relationship with him and you are married? why do you want to break up with him if the relationship is so serious? you're a ho. plain and simple. you'll get caught, husband will leave and you'll be left with nobody (cause sugar daddy don't really want you, he's just using you).game over.
2006-11-09 02:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you've been cheating for about 2 yrs. now? I think you should give your relationship some serious thought about what you want to do. You need to make a choice, becuz if you don't, this fling that you're having will continue to go on for 2 more yrs. Trust me, you will be miserable!!!
2006-11-09 01:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by virtuegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry..........ure a s lut. Sluts dont deserve to be happy...ecept u right. u should tell him the truth. that ure a slut. If your husband is an a s s h o le then u should tell him then kick him in the nuts and run...relay fast. Dont hit the door too hard on your way out u might git an concussion.
Good lux and god bless... sorry bought the slut part but my gurl cheated on me so..yea
2006-11-09 01:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by - Account Deleted - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. You never should have started this affair.If you wanted to be with someone else you should have ended your marriage first. Now, you are going to have to make a choice and do it soon. You could end up losing both of these men.
2006-11-09 01:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋