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2006-11-08 17:32:39 · 16 answers · asked by K-Luh Fo SHIZZLE 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

My parents already said if i get pregnant they will kick me out.. and the daddy of the baby said i need to get an abortion but i dont believe in abortions soo im stuckk ahhh

2006-11-08 17:42:01 · update #1

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Sweetie, my heart truly truly goes out to you. I was in the same situation five years ago when I was 16 and the only thing I can stress stress stress is not to hide it. I cried every single night and was in such denial that I never even took a pregnancy test, praying every night in tears, that my period would come. I was so scared of telling my parents and breaking my father's heart that I hid the pregnancy until I was six months. I never got the essential prenatal treatment or medical care and I feel that is the worse thing you can do to your baby. Once they knew, it felt like a huge weight was lifted off my chest. Try telling them over the phone or through email and then staying at a friend's house for one nightbefore facing them. Please, please feel free to email me if you have any questions or just want to vent.

2006-11-08 18:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lexi 2 · 0 0

Oh honey I know how you feel. I was in your shoes at 16.. My parents were very strict.. and i imagined everything.. the babys' father was a good for nothing bum too... I hid my pregnancy for almost 5 months and almost lost my mind... you may be surprised with parents my were very upset but stood by me and later said that my daughter was a blessing to them.. and she has been to me, as well... tell them or write a note... i hope you let the child live,, live begins at conception... and a heartbeat can be detected at 18 days... it is a real life no matter what the idiots say. if b/f doesn't stand by you then that'sok too, I pray it all works out for you.. I can tell that you already love your baby, and this is perfectly normal.. keep your head up and don'tlet anyone put you down either,, i went through this in the 70's it was worse,, i was treated like a whore...but it all worked out fine.. take care ... abortion is wrong ... and God intends for this chld to live or he would not have created this life ... remember that.. God Bless you and your baby.

2006-11-08 21:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by justme4u 2 · 0 0

Wow. No one is on your side, are they?

Tell the daddy that you are not getting an abortion because you don't believe in them. Then, ask him to be there when you tell your parents that you're pregnant. He needs to be there. If he's not there you better make sure you get money from him.

The best way to tell your parents is to just sit them both down (and I mean SIT them down) at the same time, have the baby's daddy there if possible, and just tell them. Outright. "Mother. Father. I'm going to have a baby."

There are places to go if they kick you out. (Travel to Europe and go to a convent. LoL. Just kidding.) Like, to the police. They're not allowed to kick you out until you're 18 or married.

Just a thought.

2006-11-08 19:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wow, youre in a tough situation. Im sorry for what you must be going through right now. But I have to say that youre a very brave girl, not only for wanting to keep the baby, but knowing that you may not have the support of your parents and boyfriend. It will be difficult to tell your parents, and they will be very upset with you. But as time goes by, they will learn to accept the situation, and Im sure they will support you. This is something you will learn from. This will change your whole life. I hope you can discuss this with your parents and decide whats best for you and the baby. I wish you all the best. Good Luck.

2006-11-08 17:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by tma 6 · 0 0

Oh, dear. Just do it as soon as possible. You need to be eating well and getting medical help, and at 16 you need to know if your parents will be supportive, or if you need to do this on your own.

You first need to tell the father of the baby, though, and know what he wants to do. Will he support you? Does he want you to keep the baby or abort it? How does that match with how you feel? If it feels right, you both may want to tell your parents together.

This is a really tough situation, but it will get slightly better if you have a good support system. If your parents can't supply that support system, you will need to find friends and government agencies that can help you. Good luck.

2006-11-08 17:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0 0

You can't get an abort without mom's signature, so that's outta the question. If you have your heart set on keeping your little child,
the easiest way is to get an ultrasound picture and put it where mom and dad will find it....stay outta the house for a while until they figure out how to talk to you about it. When you get the courage to walk in the door, say something sweet that will make them soften up....like "Do you hate me now?" (of course they don't, and never could, but it will save some argument) I was in your boat once, and as soon as they know, the days of being worried sick are gone.

2006-11-08 17:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by neff_crystal 2 · 1 0

I had been there and performed that. Tell them earlier than it's too overdue. They will probably be much more disenchanted in case you wait. You ought to begin seeing a medical professional in case you have no longer already. They will yell, scream and make threats however sooner or later it is going to all be OK. Sit down together with your boyfriend and feature a plan and solutions for the entire questions they're going to throw at you. Be mature, do not whine or cry. Most of all conclude your schooling. Just due to the fact you have got a child does no longer imply you are not able to move to tuition. After this error do not make it once more. Take care of your self. If your are concerned approximately how your father goes to react possibly you'll be able to inform his mother and father first. If they take it good allow them to recognize there's a likelihood your father would possibly turn out to be violent. I am certain they don't desire something to occur to their long term grandchild. Good success. P.E. I informed my mother by myself and he informed his. His mother took it bigger than mine which didn't speak to me for two months. I went to reside with my sister for a whilst. By the time I used to be due my mother had gotten over it.

2016-09-01 09:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

You need to tell them before the hear it from someone else. Trust me it will be a lot worse if they heard it from someone else. Have you about giving the baby up for adoption. Tell your parents they can give you some advice and you never know they more supportive then what you think they will be. Honey good luck!

2006-11-08 20:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by aprils242001 3 · 0 0

It is not going to be easy. I was your age when I fell pregnant, but then I had my doctor call them in and tell them. If you are very close to your doctor you can do the same. Or maybe you are close to one of your uncle's or aunt's. Ask them to sit in with ou when you tell them. I am 25 now and pregnant again. I must still tell my parents and even I don't know how. But unfortunately it isn't something we can hide for to long. Good luck and i will be thinking of you.

2006-11-08 18:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Go straight and tell your parents until it is late. As the day passes you will be in trouble.
At your age i would suggest for an abortion.

2006-11-08 17:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by Raje 1 · 0 1

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