Is honesty truly the BEST policy?

Question

Is 100% honesty really a good idea in a relationship? By honesty,i mean,being able to tell your partner anything and everything that bothers you? If so,wouldnt it make you come off as being "a pain"? What is the best way to tell your partner that you're not partuclarly happy with a few things about your relationship?

Im asking this because Im with a man who I love very much and i know loves me back...but he comes back home from work exhausted and i know and understand that hes got a job that really works his mind out...but lately we havent had "alone" time and I miss him...i've been through a lot of bad relationships in my past and so i have a lot of insecurities..and now,im gettin all these crazy thoughts that maybe he just doesnt find me as attractive anymore or some sh!t like that..and i hate feeling this way...so how the hell do i deal with this issue without sounding like a pain and make him actually feel what im talking about? Help..i cant even fall asleep now...

Answer 1

Honesty is the BEST policy...

Talk to him about what's bothering you...otherwise...what is he suppose to do? He can't read your mind.

My husband works his butt off too and comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...gets up the next day, goes to work, comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...and so on.

I feel the same way you do at times, but we need to understand, (which we both do) that he is tired and drained. This does NOT interpret that he does not love you or find you unattractive...he's just tired.

Try scheduling something for you and him on his day(s) off something special to do...don't wait for him...just do it.

Pray for courage and uplifting...
Try to get some sleep... :)

Answer 2

Yes....however that does not imply it really works for any difficulty. And I suppose we now have come to be too touchy to what others suppose and are more often than not simply looking ahead to a danger to be indignant. Honesty works with the intention to preserve your self transparent and no longer wanting to waste power protecting lies. But what we suppose is honesty is more often than not no longer being sincere with ourselves. It possibly an sincere response, however no longer the truly reality of the problem. Honesty does not paintings if it is useless for the difficulty. Would you inform your boss you hate him...although it is the reality? It's no longer wanted and will most effective harm the difficulty. Honesty is like the whole lot else.....there is a time and situation for it; repeatedly mendacity via modifying is the first-rate coverage.

Answer 3

Well the philosophy is this > men try to win over situations, they like to get challenges and if it is fairly easy, they will blindly take because adding another gold medal in their history, makes them feel good.

100% honesty is only good when both of you are in same level of energy, frequency in terms of sharing. If one of you is low, other has to get on board and do some magic.

You got to indirectly show him that you are in trouble, and you have a problem. And if he notices that, he will try to be a MAN, so he will think "well I can handle this, even though I have work problems in mind, I'm so great that I can handle my wife now". So he will come to you, and ask about your problem.

Now well, here it depends on how you handle it. You know your man, you tackle him now, all I'm saying is at the end of it, he should feel that you got better talking to him, listening to him.

You are not cheating here, you are bringing your partner to the same level as yours, in your relationship.

And now when he is good mood and he is with you, you slowly break your point that lately you have been missing him, and want to spend sometime together.

Well the rule is " conquer the territory and then play your shots".
It never helps mourning over a problem in relationship, it helps when you tackle it, and then teach each other how you build a successfull relationship.

Good luck : )

Answer 4

Hi Tita, That's the only way to have a good relationship.You need to set him down and tell him whats bothering you.Your parnter should do the same thing. Don't let alittle thing blowup to be a home wrecker. This is the way my old man and me live.If we have a problem we talk about. So you need open and honest and don't forget TRUST.. This is a very big thing to. If you can't trust one other you don't have a relationship. Just think about what i just typed. You will see it's the only way. Be happy and love each other. A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 5

Honesty is definetly one of the most important things in a relationship. If you need to talk your partner should not only be your love but also your best friend. I would be totally honest. LL.

Answer 6

i no i have the same issue with mine but girlie give him time and he will see just give it to him easy dont go straight out with it just b like i think you an me just need to go for a nice walk in the fresh air and talk about how he nees a brake for himself he is working to hard and adress th issue that he has emotional needs an so do u and that they are both being neglected

Answer 7

Yes

Answer 8

That is the problem of too much of liberty. It is because of the numerous relationships that people have before they try and settle down.
Imagine what it would have been had it been the first relationship and you didn't have the liberty to have 'so many relationships'?

Answer 9

You sit down and explain that you are unhappy with aspects of the relationship but it can be fixed if you both work together at it

Answer 10

NO. I've been married for 26 years and believe me it isn't. I use to have a "talk" with my husband once a year...lol. Kept him up all night. Did it do any good?....no. I haven't done it in a few years.