and can't stop wondering can a man just stop loving you and move on without a sound, I am confident and will go on, but of course I can't help but wonder, who she is and how can he forget me so quick? I am sexy, and men are attracted to me so I know it is not my looks, so has this ever happened and what can I do to stop the obessive thinking, I stop and cry, yet so pissed but ready to move on he has 2 strikes this is it.
2006-11-08 16:48:01 · 20 answers · asked by kathleen h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm so very sorry. He's an absolute @$$hole for doing that to you. The loss will be his, and he will be made to suffer merrcilessly for it.
2006-11-08 17:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it Hurts!! Women are too trusting and most men can't be trusted. He doesn't deserve another chance with you and he probably picked up someone at a bar that is the type of person he can use and then go on to someone else again and again.
You don't want a guy that sleeps around and might give you a disease and a broken heart. We learn the hard way at times, but be Wise next time. They can say they love you, but..... do they really! Sex and passion don't always mean true love. I would stay out of bars.
2006-11-08 16:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by 4263 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurt and obsessive thinking about the other woman are normal, when it happened to me i was caught completely off guard, didn't see it coming, and i also wondered how could he, i got calls from people saying she was ugly, but it has nothing to do with looks, just means they don't really love u like u thought. no one knows why, just that they chose to leave, they did u a hurt u didn't deserve. when these things happen we question what was wrong with me, what did this other woman have that i didn't? but really it has nothing to do with u, has everything to do with him and the other woman. in every marriage and relationship theres going to be disagreements, and problems, and sometimes rather than work on the marriage they just move on, requires no work to move on, with someone else. the best thing u can do is move on, find someone else and be happy, don't focus on this other woman,or your looks, don't compare yourself with her. be thankful he was just a boyfriend, and that u weren't married or had children with him, he is a cheater, and wouldn't be there for you on the long haul. men leave because they think it is greener on the other side of the fence, until they get there and they look back. he didn't move on without a sound, it was just something u didn't pick up on, something u failed to see. believe me they can move on even after being in a marriage 10 years, often times it's because they are weak minded, and the other woman is putting pressure on them, as was in my case. but there are things we will never understand, and asking for details of why is not a good idea because these types of men don't take responsibility for doing anything wrong, and he would only lay the blame on some imaginery thing he thinks u did to cause this, and than your going to feel much worse. so let it alone, and go foward in life, begin dating again and show him he isn't in control of your life.
2006-11-08 17:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She had something you didn't have, or she just managed to get his attention. It is the fault of both of them, not just him, or just her.
He wasn't 100% committed to you, otherwise he would still be with you.
From what I have seen, it could be:
- he was not completely happy, or was never completely in love with you to begin with, or maybe he got together with you for the wrong reason. though you are hot and sexy and all that, he just wanted you to show off to the other guys, but didn't really care for you.
- he is naive and stupid. And she is just a ho that managed to get his attention and seduce him. If she is a ho, then she is playing a game and will keep him focussed on her until she is bored with him
- you were too nice to him, and he was just a jerk. So in his mind, he thinks that he can do whatever he likes, because you will always be there for him and always be at home waiting for him, and will always forgive him and take him back.
I would say he was a jerk and didn't deserve you.
Good luck for you to find a man who will love you as much as you love him and look after you and treat you with respect.
2006-11-08 16:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did you a favor, let someone else deal with his nonsense, you did say he had 2 strikes.
Get back to you, love you some you, pamper yourself, treat yourself and then relax.
How can Mr. Right come for you, if you are stressing over Mr. wrong. Stop it, he's not worth your tears, if he can just leave you for someone else, he don't have will power to fight temptation. You don't need the stress of wondering what he's doing. Life is too short for that. Live your life, he's living his.
2006-11-08 17:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by mouse in chicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you were good to him and loved him; obviously he didn't feel the same way. It takes two people to make a relationship but only one to break it. You need time to grieve the loss but then you can move on to much better things. You will realize you deserve better than a guy who is unfaithful, uncommitted, and uncaring. And the girl he picked up in the bar will be his next discard.
2006-11-08 23:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are saying here as this just happened to me as well. Mine just left me for a bar fly as well. I treated mine so good all the time too. It does hurt like heck too, knowing that he wanted a barfly over me. I am also ticked off as well as being hurt and cry a lot. I wonder what in the heck he ever saw in her.
2006-11-08 16:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look hun i know it hurts but it's evident it wasn't meant to be. God has a way of letting us know who is right or wrong for us. In this case be glad god let you know early. Pick yourself up dust yourself off and move on the right guy is out there concentrate on yourself get busy doing things you like just when your knot looking that man will come your way good luck
2006-11-08 17:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by k2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then ur boyfriend is cheater. listen, not all the guys are same. ur selection was wrong. he actually dont love u. he wanted a body and someone beside him to whom he can enjoy. i m sure this guy cannot be happy in this whole life. i better suggest u to have a happy family permanently. living togather is not a solution at all for human life. everthing has a system, and this living togather is violating this system. and remember that violating any system cannot bring any good result. so best of luck...............
2006-11-08 16:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by akareem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you over-rate your own attractiveness.
happens all the time, especially when a woman gets into her 20's and was really pretty in her teen years.
believe it or not, no matter how pretty a woman is, her attitude will still get old quick if she thinks she is sexy to all other men.
2006-11-08 16:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by THEMENACE47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't love you. This guy is obviously a cad that has no remourse for using people. I know that it is hard now, but be grateful that you found out before you were married or there were children involved.
2006-11-08 16:51:13 · answer #11 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋