me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 yrs now...and have a child anyways he doesnt wanna get married to me yet he always says whats the rush??? anyways how long would u wait for someone? if u wanted to marry them and they didnt want to right now... i dont wanna be boyfriend and girlfriend all my life....
2006-11-08 16:35:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why does he have to wait longer?...is there something that he must wait for??? hes just not ready for commitment! hes scared! that's why he keeps putting it off! dont wait around forever if you see he isn't making any progress to try to marry you then you should kick him to the curb!
2006-11-08 17:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense but why should he buy the cow if he's getting free milk?
The rush is you have a child together. Ask him to marry you. And if he still says no, He's not ready for commitment. And you are. Now It's time to start looking for someone else to spend you and your sons lives with.
2006-11-09 00:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by AceOfBears 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this seems all too familiar. I was you about 2 1/2 years ago. My BF and I had a little girl, I wanted to get married, he didn't. I felt that our relationship had become stagnant. It was time to move forward or move on. I sat down told him how I felt, and we decided to move forward. We went down the next day to get a marriage license, walked in the door and he sat down on a bench in the lobby and said, "Let's talk about this!" I calmly gathered my things and walked out the door. We were supposed to have a family get to there sort of like our wedding plans announcement party, but I decided not to go. He took the baby with him for the evening. I went out got my own apartment, and had all of my things moved out before he got home. I went and got the baby, went to my new apartment, and waited for the phone call. I just knew it was going to start a fight. He called crying saying he was sorry, but he just wasn't ready to get married. I told him I was tired of waiting on him to make a decision, a long term commitment. I put my foot down and it was so hard because Lord knows I loved him so much. Three days passed. On the fourth, he showed up at my apartment with a temporary marriage license and a dozen roses. All I needed was to go before the court and sign my name to make it official. 3 days later we got married by the JP, and are living happily ever after with 2 new kids to boot. The point is that when you feel it is time, it's time. Don't get caught in a whirlpool. It's not healthy for you or your child, as he/she is the number one priority. You will just keep spinning around and around, and never get anywhere. You have to trust yourself and your judgement.
2006-11-09 01:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how old he is and how old you are...If you are oldder an mature then and so is he then I would say your wasting your time. I would say 2 years is enough to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone and vise versa. But If the two of you are too young then the best thing to do would be to not rush into things.
2006-11-09 00:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by Grace Q. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you should should know from all the other women out there that what you want is more important than what any stupid man wants.
who cares what your kid will want either... its all about you, your hapiness and having every whim of yours satisfied immediately
keep pressuring him to do something he isn't ready to do until another guy comes along. then dump him, take his kid and raise his child with a new man.
you deserve it, you shouldn't have to wait for something if you really want it right now.
psssshhh, dont you read any magazines
lol
2006-11-09 00:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by THEMENACE47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this might hurt a little, but make sure he is not cheating on you. Knowing that you have kid, he might want to just be BF and then he might just break up with you. But i wuold talk to him and stufff and tell him wake up you idiot, we have a kid. You should not have a BF GF situation at this point of time in your life. I think its time to get married like right now
2006-11-09 00:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by aplpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt need a marriage certificate to live together. Did you think a child would change his mind? Think about it. Why should he marry???
2006-11-09 00:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wont be a girlfriend all your life.. but your headed for disaster if you try to rush someone into marriage.. When he is ready he will ask you to be his wife.
2006-11-09 00:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by faisonik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already ave a child! you see, this is the problem with having children before marriage. gives the guys that point if theres no rush in owning you because he has already had it all already.
marry soon, i hope. i wont wait too long.
2006-11-09 00:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anna D 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to get married by now he never will. Why buy the cow when he gets the milk for free?
2006-11-09 00:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋