how do I change from all of my sinful ways and stay away from the bad things I do?

Question

i am 33 years old with 3 children and my wifes blood pressure is very high from the stress i bring

Answer 1

not sure of what bad things you're doing in order for your wife to be that sick. but is never too late to change, start by spending more time with her and help her out with the kids around the house. good luck

Answer 2

If you know you are doing wrong and causing your wife so much stress to raise her blood pressure and you still aren't changing, then maybe you should get out of the marriage and let her find a good husband. You will not change, until YOU are ready to change !!! If you LOVE
your wife and children, then it's your choice to make things right, no one can do that for you. You are putting her health at risk, what is it gonna take? Have a long talk with God, he'll help you if you want to change, but you have to want to change. Good Luck !!

Answer 3

For starters, it takes will power and a lot of it !! My boyfriend was and is driving me crazy for the sinful things that he does as well. You have got to figure out what is more important to you, your sinful ways or being with and keeping your wife. Just remember that a person can only take so much crap from any person no matter how much they love that person before they finally break and can't take it any more.

My grandma told us all a long time ago that no matter how a person was, that if they didn't like the way they were, it was up to that person to WANT to change. That nobody can make a person change. So the best thing for you to do is IF you want to change that bad then you will have to WANT to change. People can talk to you until they are blue in the face and it will not do you any good until YOU want to change. So if you want to change...FIND THAT WILL POWER and change...your wife will love you for it.

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear about your wife's health ... That can be really serious and if she has lived through a lot, it can really take a toll on her...
It sounds like you have a strong desire to make some changes, and it seems you have faith in God...
Be strong and pray, open up to her and tell her how you feel... Three kids can really limit the time a couple has for each other, so stop putting yourself down... And put the communication back into your marriage...
God is gonna want you to work in harmony with your prayers, he will hear you he always does, but we have to help ourselves too. And you can do it...
Let your wife know you adore her and care for her and want her better... Focus on time spent reconnecting... And find a sitter for those little blessings.... Mommy and daddy need alone time...
It is not one thing you have to do, it is all of this together... My heart goes out to you , stop blaming yourself for being human and move forward from here......... Best wishes to you both....... ♥

Answer 5

Just for one moment, go back and read your question please....

You have said, "..... and stay away from the bad things that I do?"

The bad things? You're 33, presumably you're anonymous in this forum and you haven't even divulged what the "bad things" are?

You are clearly in denial and not even able to admit to yourself the errors of your way.

My first piece of advice ---- You're 33. GROW UP!!

My second piece of advice ---- You have 3 children and obviously lots of person issues. USE CONTRACEPTION!!

Seriously buddy, you know the saying about life not being a rehearsal, well mate, that goes triply true for you -- with three children! --- either get over your issues and sort yourself out, or give your wife some peace and leave her to go sort out your life. If you truly love her, you will do that, and accept whether she later chooses to have you back into her life.

Good luck - I know this advice sounds harsh, and I obviously don't know the details of your situation, but the truth often can be harsh.

Good luck - go sort yourself out, for the sake of your children!

Answer 6

You need to start thinking about what this is doing to your family. I don't know what the "Bad Things" that you do are, but I suggest that when you think you are going to do something bad next time, stop to think about your poor wife and children. I am not judging you by saying you are a bad person. I am just saying that some of the choices you seem to be making are having some serious consequences.

Answer 7

Thats a good starting point that you recognize this and want to change. God will help anyone thats sincere.........we all have our strengths and weaknesses.

1. You could talk to a pastor you respect. Just be real open....they have heard everything.

2. If you mean business, apologize to your wife and continue being open with her and listen to what she says also. She may say more than you want to hear, but just listen or say can we take it slow and talk about that part another day?

Read in the New Testament like in Corinthians, or Ephesians, Proverbs and others............. and memorize scriptures that apply to your situation or write it on a paper to read when those times of temptation happen.

Satan tries in many ways to make us give into temptation.

Think also of your children and your family. Things you might be doing effects others and also your own well being.

Spiritual babies have to grow just like a real baby..

Best wishes and Also try to avoid tempting situations. If you get Charles Stanley on TV he is a real good teacher.........also Pastor John Hagee......you would really learn from both of them.

Answer 8

You are indicating that you have no choice - that you can't change. Own your behavior, then change it.

Here, it is simple. Wake up and act every moment as though you are honest, kind and have great integrity. Treat your wife like she is a precious treasure - the kids too. Do not break laws, do not drink and do not do things that are immoral and most of all do not do things that create pain for your wife.

Make it your daily goal to be a good person, the kind of person that 3 kids and a wife can be proud of.

Answer 9

READ PSALMS 26. THEN GIVE YOUR WIFE THE DAY OFF WHILE YOU TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS, I HAVE FOUR MYSELF AND THAT IS NOT COUNTING MY HUSBAND. THEN ANOTHER THING GO OUT ON DATES ONCE A WEEK. FAMILY NIGHT WHERE THE FAMILY ORDER OUT OR JUST RENT MOVIES, OR PLAY A FAMILY BASE GAME. AND STOP FUSSING SO MUCH IT WILL ALL BE OK IN DUE TIME, BILLS AND ALL. BECAUSE IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO HER ( MAY GOD FORBIDS) WHAT WILL YOU DO, OR WHERE WOULD YOU START. LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT, HARD OR EASY, YOU SAY YOU LOVE HER ACT LIKE IT. JUST REMEMBER WHEN THE 2 OF U MET AND HOW YOU FELT ABOUT HER THEN.

Answer 10

Sounds like you are interested in getting help and that is great. My suggestion to you is to seek out a counselor or therapist that can help with your sinful thoughts and ways. You have a family now, they need to be put first. Go work some step program, there are recovery groups out there for everything.