How to get pregnant?

Question

I am 36 years old married woman. My husband did vasectomy 16 years ago, so I haven't had any chance to know if I am fertile or not. I went to see a reproductive doctor and she suggested me to do the HSG test first. If the test shows that I am fertile, I should do IUI or IVF to get conceived. But those operations are very expensive and I want to skip those test and do IUI directly. My question is that is it possible for me just do simple IUI(artificial insemination) without going through all those tests to get pregnant? Who can do that for me?

Thank for all the answers. I think I need more details here. My husband does not want to have any more kids because he has 2 kids from his previous marriage. So asking the husband to do the vasectomy reversal is not an option. This is my own project. What I want is to get a simplest artificial insemination using sperms of a donator. I would love to know hear from experiences in that area.

I want to thank all the friends for the answers and all of you are so nice.
michele, thank you for the answer and I would like to talk to you more. I perceive that the doctors and hospitals are just suggesting you most expensive ways to do things and make most money out of you. I have never tried if I am fertile or not, but how many woman need to be tested before they get pregnant? Anyway, if the HSG test is a must, I suppose I will have to do that. The reproductive doctor I visited say HSG is US$500-600, IUI is about US$4000 each cycle, IVF is about US$15,000 each cycle, second cycle for IVF is US$4000. And the issue is that the success rate is as low as 20%-30%. I don't have any insurance, so I want to shop around. As you suggested, to contact sperm bank probably is a good try, I will try to do that. Are there any friends who know more about that. How I can do this in a cheaper way? What reproductive centers or sperm banks you can suggest? Thank you so much in advance!

Thanks,Reject187,for your answer. my husband has 3 kids from his previous marriage and he is not interested in any more kids in his life because he is afraid of any potential child support once the marriage does not work out well. We are happy together apart from this baby issue. Doctor says if I do the artificial insemination while we are married, we will have to go through a complicated leal procedure to give the doctor authority to carry out the process. The legal fee is about US$6000-8000. Anyway, if I want to carry out the procedure, I think we will have to divorce first. I am thinking once the baby is born and if he likes the baby, he probably will like to father the baby and we will remarry. That way, he won't have any legal responsibilties for the baby. Anyway, I am a little desperate to get a baby and I am not in a mood to find a new marriage, so getting on the baby project by my own seems the only choice for me. I am ok with that.

I don't have any insurance and the huge amount of money for one sperm is somewhat ridiculous. What I need is one sperm:) Most women are fertile, so I must fertile, and I don't need those ridiculous tests. What I want to know is how to get what I want by a simple cheaper way!

Answer 1

Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.

Answer 2

Once I see a younger pregnant girl i do not judge unless i know the instances. She could were raped. Or possibly if she wasnt she would were in love with a boyfriend of 5 years. We could say it was a liked boyfriend if they'd been together as a minimum a 12 months and a 1/2 and did what they did for the correct causes i see no rationale to guage. They didnt do it on rationale. There are billions of other teenagers doing the equal things they simply dont happen to get pregnant. There are adults who have one night time stands all the time so why is that okay but a teen who just so happens to get pregnant with her bf of 4 months will not be k? I assume what im looking to say is a pregnant teenager shouldnt be judged except you know the entire important points.

Answer 3

Wait a minute... did you say that your husband doesn't want to have kids so you are going to get pregnant anyway with someone else's sperm? I don't mean any disrespect here or anything, but I don't understand how this is going to work. If y'all stay together he will still end up raising this child and the fact that it came from someone else won't make much of a difference there. I hope y'all have talked about this and he is on board and ok with it...

Answer 4

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infertility can run in the family and one of the first things the doctor asks you when you go to a fertility clinic is your family history regarding cases of infertility or other reproductive issues.
If infertility is caused by genetic disorder then it's not unusual that one of the kids (your mom) doesn't have it and another does (your aunt).
two months of trying is still to early to be concerned about the fact that you might be infertile and it's also quite early to go to a fertility specialist. Go to a regular Obgyb to get a closer insight and see what ways there are are to improve your fertility rate.
Also remove alcohol, caffeine and cigarettes from your life because they might influence your chances too. Stress is also a risk factor when it comes to infertility.

Answer 5

You might check the procedures at a sperm bank, but I am pretty sure that you will need to take the tests first. There is no professional that will give you IUI or IVF without knowing if your body will be able to produce an embryo. Plus you want to know if you are fertile before you try this procedure, it can get expensive, and sometimes may take more than one go at it to get preg.

Answer 6

you want to get pregnant y married a husband who had vasectomy...do need an ob-gyne.

Answer 7

have u guys looked into vasectomy reversals?? And AVF and IUI would require a donor non-the-less...

Answer 8

have him reverse the vasectomy, there might be a chance he can impregnate you.