Ok, last year for some reason kids I don't even friggin know at my school started a rumor that I have a death list...you know, a list of people someone wants to kill....
If you knew me, you'd know that I'm not capable of crap like that....its sick and I'm too moral to hurt anybody, let alone myself.
Anyways, this guy was told that he's on my "death list". He sent me an email saying it freaked him out and he wanted to talk about it immediately. I was scared too. To think that some jerk told this guy who is actually one of the few guys who has never teased me since I've known him (about 8 years) is very upsetting.
So, what do I say to this guy? I want to make it clear that I'd never hurt a living creature, and that whoever told him this is probably mad at me or hates me; there's people around here that hate me for no reason, its just fun to tease me. I have to talk to him soon.
PLEASE don't say "ignore it" cause its taken very seriously in high school, especially around here. THX
2006-11-08 16:00:52 · 10 answers · asked by cattys_cats 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
to exaluva, I just gotta say that what you said was sweet lol.
anyways, its hard to ignore people here cause if you ignore it, they come after you... I ignored people so much in middle school that guys thought it was ok to do things to me...and it was gay that when I told, the damn counselors didn't do anything....
anyways, my theory is, you're a punching bag for those darn bullies if you ignore the situation.... *sigh*
new question: do you think I should change schools? this bullying thing is getting old and its tiresome that counselors don't do anything when I'm in jeopardy. I don't wanna neccessarily leave, but sometimes it feels like my ony option.
2006-11-08 16:20:45 · update #1
All you can do is be honest with the guy. Just tell him that it's all just a pathetic rumour, and just put his mind to rest. People can just be so damn cruel, I hate that. From first impressions you seem like a pretty caring person.
I know it's hard to ignore the rubbish that goes on at school, I've experienced it a lot myself. All you can do is not to let it affect you too much. If you don't react to the jerks and their teasing, they'll find a new target. And if it starts to get you down, don't hold it in, let it all out, grab a friend and borrow their shoulder, and if it need be, you can always use mine. Best of luck.
2006-11-08 16:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by exaluva 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually more concerned about your school principle/teachers hearing about this rumor. Since you know for sure there is this rumor going around, I would go tell a teacher/principle what is going on, so that you won't look bad if the rumor gets to them before you do. Have your friend go with you so that he can confirm this rumor and at the same time, he knows your telling the truth because you are actually taking action to defend yourself.
2006-11-08 16:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by April L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to him in person and explain that you are not that type of person, that you are not capable of such things and that you were as surprised to hear about it as he probably was. Explain that it is just a rumor, and thank him for confronting you about it instead of turning his back and further spreading the lies. Ask if maybe he could help figure out who started the rumor. Simply, be honest with him. Let him know that it truly upsets you that people are saying things about you... maybe a friendship could stem out of this ridiculousness... but deffinately talk to him
2006-11-08 16:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tiggy's Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, that you never even had a 'death list', and he would never be on one. If it's hard for you to talk to him about this, maybe you should go to your school counselor to help you out.
2006-11-08 16:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by sweetwickedgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id simply write him back..and say you know i wouldnt ever have a death list and it freaks me out too that people would say that.....its not like im the boogy monster....id try to play it off as a joke...or something....i wouldnt proably meet up with him because he might be too freaked out or something and if you do decide to meet up with him make someone go with you a friend acuzin somethng like that...so if someting goes weird...theyll be there...goodluck to you sweetie..high schools tough!
2006-11-08 16:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell him what you told us here, and thank him for letting you know that this "death list" rumor is out maybe even be-friend him cause the fact that he even confronted you sounds like he could be a good friend to have
2006-11-08 16:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you tell him it is a rumor, do not try to prove it. let him decide for himself. do not say you could not hurt anyone. say i don't think i could hurt anyone. sound tired and sad when say it.
as you are pobly tired of it anyway. do get on the defencive, it looks like you are lieing. ask him politely if he would tell you where he herd the rumor. don't put him on the spot. you main objectivr is to create doubt and sympathy.
this could be an excuse to talk to you, you probly very beutiful arn't you?
2006-11-08 18:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by MASQUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you've just told us, that you never had a death list and that it is just a rumour about you started by bullies.
2006-11-08 21:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEAH, TALK TO HIM AND LET HIM KNOW THAT IS NOT TRUE AND THAT YOU WANT TO KNOW WHO TOLD HIM THAT. TELL YOUR TEACHER OR YOUR PARENTS, TELL SOMEONE WHATS GOING ON. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-08 16:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u no its totally not true so tell him it isnt be honest and be urself
theres nothing better to do
2006-11-08 16:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by xiaomeimei_5002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋