OK, took some of the kind and sympathetic advice about still being in love with first love though both of us are married w/ kids(see previous question in horoscope section, this has been big theme with me). Saw him, talked, got closure as suggested. He says lets keep in touch, please email/call me. 2 weeks later I find out I need to get a mamogram because doctor found a lump in my breast. I email him about it asking for support 1 week ago since I'm terrified -- no response! Maybe he is on vacation, don't know, but I could not be more hurt or angry. Also surprised as he is the nicest man, walks me to my car, calls me with directions, etc. What to make of it? Sending me a message to get out of his life & did not have courage to tell me to my face, or what? We go back a long time, I would like to be some sort of friends someday but this hurts.
Please, no comments about me married/him married, I get it, I'm a bad person. I just want to repair this somehow with him & move on.
2006-11-08 15:54:04 · 6 answers · asked by I'm Trying 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
Everyone always holds a special place in their heart (really there minds) for there first love. Your not bad, your just human. It sounds like you may be a little extra emotional right now because you're facing a life treating situation an you feel rejected when (as natural) you wanted to feel loved and supported. I would suggest that you seek support else where I'm guessing that your husband at this time isn't giving you the support you need. I don't know what the situation is but I do know that men aren't real good at figureing out we need help, or extra love an attention sometimes, even when we don't want, to we need to just tell them. "Hey i'm scarred I'm feeling insecure and I need your help." If your husband is away or your not at this point in your life. Then call a close friend or relative,(someone you trust to keep your situation private) and tell them, Its ok to be scarried its ok to cry, run a hot bath and have a good cry, but get it out don't hold it in.And don't feel like your bad because you hold a special place for your first love. I'm sure he has a special place in his life for you to. That doesn't mean you need to let anyone else know about something that would hurt them or cause trouble in your married life. For your family are your children. The past is what helps make us who we are today, but it is the past and we can't bring it back and an attempt to do so often makes the present alot more painful then it needs to be. I think the real issue maybe something deeper than not being able to get over your first love. Often when we don't want to deal with one problem we create another one to focus on. Remember to hold on an seek guidence and good council. Because this too will pass. God bless you.
2006-11-08 16:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by ashley k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went back and read your other question. He is a Gemini. Well depend on how you broke up with him. Gemini's move on without a second thought. And it take a while for them to trust you. Instead of offering to have an affair, you should have offered friendship. Gemini's rarely look back, and you are living in the past. If you can show him you are living in the here and now, then he will respond. Show him who you are right now, not who you used to be. No one can judge you on how you feel, because they haven't walked in your shoe's. And you are not a bad person. I think you are couragious. Hope the mamogram comes out ok.
2006-11-09 04:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Iam!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love these questions. Now 1st let go. This will hold you back. Learn to make decisions without anyones help or input. Start living your own life. You are not living you are waiting. For what its over get over it. Find another mate and give it a chance to blossom. Forget. yes it hurts but staying where you are will keep the hurt. Get away from the hurt and go on. 2nd. Don't contact him again. If its meant to be it will. Give it up.You'll be happier in the long run...
2006-11-12 08:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly maybe he's scared because you two are getting too close for him. Maybe he doesn't want to hurt his marriage. And sweetie, you're not moving on. You don't need his support you just are scared and reaching for someone comfortable. Lean on your husband and let him get you through this. And I hope the lump is nothing, I'll say a prayer. From one Leo to a sister.
2006-11-08 16:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say this with the greatest kindness and respect:
Don't blame the stars for your decisions.
Good luck with your mamogram, it must be a scary time for you. Best wishes. x
2006-11-09 10:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by nev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just as devistated as you are about it. The possibility of losing someone he cares for.... can bring out fear. And this fear can lead to avoidance. Maybe he just doesn't know how to face this or cope with it, and most likely doesn't know what to say, if anything, to you.
Hope you're ok.
2006-11-08 16:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋