help !! I need some advice!!?

Question

7 years ago i met this guy John we were together almost a yr and i got pregnant (i was only15) well right after i got preg he went into the navy well when our son was 9 months old i realized i wasnt happy i never got to see him i was young iwanted a relationship. so i met this dude named Ray he was so great we were together about 1 1/2 yrs and broke up ...well for about a year i started dating guys tring to find mr right but never could so me and john got back together and got married we have been married for 2 1/2 years and we now have a daughter that is 8mo and our son is almost 6 well for the past year or so i havent been happy i realized i only married him for our son and i was tired of runnin from man to man ...well its been 4 years since me and ray broke up but i have never gotten over him and we have been talkin alot latley he told me he regrets lettin me go and he keeps droppin hint that makes me think he wants me back?? should i leave John for Ray?? i dont wanna hurt my kids

Answer 1

Apparently you were not so tired of running from man to man. Who is to say that your not going to put yourself in the same situation with Ray that you did with John? It sounds like you should not be married but I do not think Ray is the answer either, he is just convenient as you are comfortable with him due to you two having a past. Sounds like you need to be on your own and grow a bit on your own emotionally before seeing anyone new. That is the best thing you could do for yourself and in turn those kids. Good luck and God bless!
-NmD!

Answer 2

I have to agree with many people on here who said that YOU SHOULD BE ALONE AWHILE! Basically!!!

I don't think you know who is right for you.

And yes, don't hurt your kids. They will only get mixed up if you're mixed up!





This jumping around isn't any way to live.
chances are, the factors that you had broken up over before with the other guys would still be there, OR would creep back in. They don't just disappear!

And that's why you should just be alone awhile and take alot of time for yourself instead of putting your energy in these men you had problems with before--probably would be worse a second time around!


Don't commit right now!
I hope you get your life figured out!

Answer 3

You seem to be the type of person who wants what she had, not what she has. You are living life backwards. Stay with John. Think of your childrens happiness first, because your happiness seems to go up and down when ever. I don't know why you are still talking to Ray. Move on and quit looking back, you will all live a lot happier.

Answer 4

Stop being a ball. If you decide to leave John try being by yourself for a while, like longer than a month. I have a feeling you have no idea who you are yet.
You probably know yourself as John's wife and Ray's girl but who are you???

Answer 5

Is Ray willing to take care of your kids? It is the children who will feel rejected if he does not. Wait for some more time before you decide.

Answer 6

you 21 you have 2 kids and your with the father of both of them. you were happy until ray came back, but you want to leave your husband for a fling???


uhhhh NO

Answer 7

Where will you be the most happiest? Make the decioson based on that. Your kids will sense your unhappiness if you stay in an unfulfilling relationship

Answer 8

first did ray break up with you or did you break up with him becuase if he broke up with you i wouldnt get back together with him you would just be asking to get hurt again but divorces are hard on children so i would think about how they would feel about this.Good luck with your decision

Answer 9

talk to your hubby, find out what hes feeling and if hes happy. you can work it out. good luck

Answer 10

GROW UP!!!!