My ex ask me to take care of her dog cause she is sick and I have custody of my son?

Question

She said she broke her back and said she wasn't able to take care of the dog she bought for my son [keep this in mind it was one of those gifts you buy to win them over] I talk to her a few times tonight and she hasn't gone to the hospital and she is trying to guilt me into this and turn my son against me. I told him that I am not doing this. tell me what would you do. She has taken me back to court 4 time to try to get custody and she has been turn down all of them she is a pain. I did talk to y son about this and his is going to counseling.

Answer 1

not even 4 a moment do i believe she has a broken back.. the pain would be soo strong, she would be begging someone 2 take her 2 the hospital.. she doesn't want the responsibility of the dog any longer and wants 2 get rid of it.. but she doesn't want 2 look bad in her sons eyes.. chances are the dog is not trained.. from peeing 2 chewing up the furniture.. if your uncomfortable about taking the dog, then don't do it.. you could end up with a houseful of animals, because the newest wore off .. let the dog stay with her and help heal her back : )

Answer 2

She's decided she doesn't want to keep the dog, since she doesn't have the son. If she surrenders the dog somewhere, she looks like a jerk. So, it's become...she has an injury, and can't keep it, and you're a bad guy for not taking your son's pet.

Tell her when she supplies you with a doctor's note, or a medical diagnosis that she's broken her back, you'll take the dog...if you can, and want to. However, make sure she signs the dog over to you so there is no "custody" battle when she changes her mind, and she will.

Let me ask you...are you not taking the dog to punish your ex for being a pain? If you're okay with the dog...and your son is attached, then I'd be inclined to take it. But only if she signs a paper giving it to you as it's owner.

Good luck.

Answer 3

She broke her back and hasn't gone to the hospital???? Think about that a little. If the dog is a rather new purchase then I would say no. But you must decide what is best for your son and you. You must also consider if you are situated so that you can adequately care for the dog, has it had all hots etc.

Answer 4

said she broke her back and didn't go to hospital? weird right?
how long have you two been divorced? who has the custody of the boy? you or her? do you have a new partner and she's trying to get your attention?
i thk you should consider your situation seriously. you didn't mention your son's age. if your son's age around 5-9 yrs old, he'll be very confused why both of you are behaving this way. its good to hear that he's going for counselling, its for the better of him. but for your side, you need to be firm that you and your ex are divorced and she has no control over your life.
good luck!

Answer 5

He probable can't get sole custody. in many situations the mummy has a great case for custody in spite of the circumstances. in case your baby has no longer been missed or abused or in case you at the instant are not an brisk drug addict or criminal, he does no longer have a case. many human beings are clinically determined with melancholy. that doesn't inevitably handicap you as a discern. My suggestion to you is dig up each little thing you could on him. hire a lawyer. the marvelous "spin physician" could make the undeniable fact that he cheated and moved in with somebody else appear like the worst evil a human can do. locate out if he's in debt. Does he drink or do any variety of drugs? Dig up any variety of evidence you could think of of. Get busy. stable success!

Answer 6

I think it is important to focus your energy and thoughts on your relationship with your son. If you are able to take the dog and your son likes the dog than you should. It is ok to be concerned that your ex is mentally and physical ok, but keep in mind not to get caught up in her web. Try not to focus on she is "trying to guilt me" or "turn my son against me" you can't change her. All you can do is talk to your son, love him, and build on your relationship with him. It is a very hard situation. Don't forget to take time for yourself, you have needs too. You have to be happy and love yourself to love others. Don't dwell on the past, I know it is very hard, I still have trouble with my past relationships but I just dismiss the thoughts as fast as I can and move on. Hope this helps. Try www.thisbrokenheart.com. The creators are trying to build a self-help support web page.

Answer 7

If I were in your situation, I would try to overcome my feelings of bitterness and suspicion and and take the dog. Refusing to do so will only make you look like a bad guy to your son and potentially cause even more tension between you and your ex. Who knows, you may even end up liking the dog. I am sure that your son would like having his dog around.

Answer 8

if she has a broken back she would be paralized. and she would be in hospital .either she is lying or she hasn't broken her back. do you want to take the dog off her hands? if not ignore her as she hasn't been able to get custody of the child at further court hearings there is little chance she ever will .continue with your childs' counselling and live your life for your child and forget her

Answer 9

She's lying through her teeth. She can't have broken her back and not go to hospital. If she didn't she would die. That's the truth of it. I would ask your lawyer to issue a restraining order. She sounds like an unfit mother. Do all you can to get rid of her. I know it is hard for you to do this for your little boy's sake but please do it FOR his sake. Does that make sense? I'm so sorry you are having so much trouble.
Good luck, love. I hope I have helped a little bit.

Answer 10

I'd tell her tough it out and take care of the dog herself. She's home with a broken back eh? Good for her, now she has all the more time to give that dog all her tender loving care.