How do I tell my bestfriend that I am gay?

Question

I am not going to lie here I am only 13 but I have known that I have been gay for last few years. I think my bestfriend is attractive and I really want to tell him that I am gay. I keep dropping hints but he never seems to really pick them up. How do I tell him I am gay? Oh yeah there is one problem, he thinks that it is 100% wrong to be gay but I think he would be okay with me being gay. Can someone please help me.

Also I am afraid if I tell him and he does not accept it he will tell someone else who could tell like my Mom or Dad and I don't want them to know yet.

Also please nothing like he probably won't be your friend for too long, because we have been friends since we where like 2. Although he might not be my best friend in a few years he will still always be my friend.

Answer 1

I totally feel you man. My best friend is Mormon, and I had to go through it... but the bottom line is that if he's your friend, he'll be chill with it. Just tell him at some point when you guys are just hangin out, and the mood is right. Just tell him that you're still you, and that your relationship wont change... just don't hit on him... that'll fcuk things up...

Answer 2

I suggest that you come out to him but don't tell him that you find him attractive unless he asks you about it; otherwise it may really weird him out and he could go on the defensive, which would hurt both of you.

How is it that he thinks homosexuality is 100% wrong? I know that it seems pretty self-explanatory, but my best friend is a Catholic and she wholeheartedly believes that homosexual actions are wrong, though she does not believe that I am inherently evil as a lesbian. So is your best friend like that, or does he believe that *being* gay is wrong?

It can be very tough coming out to your best friend, and worrying about their reaction. If you really want to tell him, though, make sure that you are prepared to handle the situation well (have answers to questions like "How long have you known?" and "Why are you telling me this?", and be ready for him to reject you). Ensure that you come out to him when you are in private and you have the time to have a full conversation (don't make him feel like you're pressuring him to get him alone, though). Finally, tell him that you're still the same person he's been best friends with for years, just he knows more about the real you now, and that you still want to be friends with him.

I wish you well.

Answer 3

No! do not tell him how you feel............If he feels strongly that it is wrong to be gay, then how can you expect him to understand you? That's why he doesn't pick up on your hints..... Underfortunately you must keep this to yourself for a few more years, say until you are at least 18-20......I know it seems like eternity..but you will only set yourself up for heartache, pain and suffering if you tell ANYONE right now at your young age...........Please try to understand and think about the what ifs? Life as you know it will end and your life will never be the same...By the time you are an adult, you will be able to handle rejction and other repercussions that will come your way....sorry
I just think you need to grow up and mature in mind and spirit. It is good that you are comfortable with who you are, but keep in mind, society will always look down on the gays........If it were me., I would never come out of the closet because of all the ridicule and bashing...I couldn't take it I don't think.......Yes I am straight. But it isn't up to me or anyone else in my book to put down another human being...I'm certainly no better than anyone else, .others should think the same.. Good luck to you! Try to just concentrate on your schooling for now..OK?

Answer 4

There are two videos available from Focus on the Family by gays that will help answer the "whys" your friend might ask. If you cannot afford the suggested donation put a 0 in the amount box and you will still receive them. The titles are Love Won Out and I Do Exist. A very dear friend helped me understand homosexuality and these videos answered a lot of the "whys" for me.

Answer 5

I wouldn't count on your friend being gay, first of all, if that's what you're thinking. But you really know this situation better than anybody answering. If you really think he'd be OK with it (although again, don't assume he's gay), then go ahead and tell him - you probably will feel a lot better not having to lie about all that. A lot of times people are "against" being gay on "principle" or whatever, but they come around when they meet a cool one or somebody they know turns out to be gay - tthat's just human nature.

Answer 6

I would just straight out tell him. Maybe it will change the way he looks at gay people if he realizes that he was best friends with someone who is gay. On the other hand, he might take it badly and it could effect your friendship with him. If he doesn't like you afterwards then it is his loss. As for finding him attractive, I wouldn't even go there. Just be honest.

Answer 7

Just tell him. If he is your friend he will accept you for who you are. He might just being saying that gays are 100% wrong just to be cool and follow the crowd, but once he knows you are, he might be more open to it. Make sure he knows that you are telling him because he is your friend not because you want to hook up with him. If he thinks that, you will definitely lose a friend.

Answer 8

10 years from now you might not even remember your "best friend's " name. I don't mean to sound hard but just to share the perspective of time. I often wonder what the big deal was about this or that thing as I was growing up. Feelings, thoughts, relationships change like the wind. Friends come as quickly as they go, as quickly as your interests change. What ever happens, you will know better for next time. Experience really is the name we give our mistakes.

Good Luck!

;-)

Answer 9

Make it sparkling on your buddy which you like him only the way he's and could be there for him no count what. Then save that promise to him. That on my own would be somewhat worth extra suitable than you will ever comprehend. in case you hear each physique at your college or someplace else trash-conversing him and/or different gays, do no longer hesitate to shield them. If their bullying of your buddy and/or different gay toddlers at your college escalates, record the bullying to the suitable as quickly as available so as that he/she will placed a supply as much because it. You and your buddy would additionally % to evaluate forming a gay quickly Alliance or different anti-bullying team to assist decrease bullying at your college. As Edmund Burke as quickly as suggested, "the only factor mandatory for evil to triumph, is for stable adult males to do no longer something." you could properly be youthful, yet you're nonetheless clever sufficient to realize that antigay bullying is uncalled for -- and you could desire to do what you could to offer up it on your college!

Answer 10

Sorry dude but 100% wrong includes you. I'd advise finding a gay or bi guy who might actually reciprocate your feelings.