I have a question how do I handle this situtation...my daughter is 19, I am in my mid 40's, when she gets mad she starts beating on me and really hurting me so much that she makes red places on me that last for a good two hours. She sometimes used her fist..she does pot alot, does pot make a person be meaner than usual? I am really scared of her when she starts beating on me. I don't ever strike back at her and never touch her never hurt her..because if I do she will get even more crazier and hurt me even more. So what should I do? Don't get this wrong I do love her, she has a small child that I love so dearly...! When she does get mad she throws big objects around and almost twice missed the child. I am afraid for him as well. So what is the best way to deal with this? Thansk.
2006-11-08 15:19:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know this is not the answer you want to hear and its not easy to do but...HAVE HER ARRESTED. that is battery and yes pot makes a person very very moody! i am concerned for the safety of her child and your safety also. it will not stop ever unless you call the cops. is it really worth risking your grandchilds safety??? please call the cops on her and if that makes her even madder then maybe shes not fit to have a kid, the kid comes first. good luck
2006-11-08 15:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay who is the mother here You or Her? How can you just
sit there and let her hit you. Have you ever heard of tough love?
She is 19 years old, kick her *** out of the house already. I
feel sorry for your grandchild but he too will suffer if he sticks
around seeing you get your *** kicked. Seriously stop her from
hitting you. And NO marijuana does not make you meaner. She
is just taking advantage of you, since you aren't defending your
self. Give her an ultimatum Either She Stops With Her Attitude
or move out of the house. Your the mom and she is your
daughter, don't ever let your children treat you like a kid, or
just someone from the street. Wake Up And Smell The Coffee!!
Tough Love That's What It Is Call. Do it now, don't wait until she
hits you again. If that was my daughter she would of been kicked
out a long time ago, Also I Would Of Open A Can Of Whip ***!!
If she is changing her attitude maybe she is on some other
Drug. Is she losing Weight?
2006-11-09 01:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, really sorry to hear this. It should not be happening. No one deserves to be treated in such a manner, regardless of the circumstances. Seriously, you need to contact the proper authorites and get this straightened out. If she is doing this to you there is no telling what she may be doing to her baby. For the sake of the child, you need to stop this abusive situation! Contact the local police or district attorney's office. They have a special staff that deals with such domestic violence related crimes. If this is not taken care of soon it will never get taken care of, and things will only get worse before they get better. Good luck!
2006-11-08 23:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the cycle of abuse. Physical, mental and emotional. However I have been the abuser as well as the victim. Addiction is a scary and hurtful thing. Please know that rock bottom is a ugly place to be, but sometimes it's the turning point everyone needs.. on both sides. Pain and ugliness is not the what your grandchild needs to learn and when your daughter is sober I'm sure she feels the same. You both need some help. You need to know it's not your fault and your daughter needs to value herself. Take Care.
2006-11-08 23:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by kydreamin_100 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was someone outside your house what would you do? She's grown. She need to respect you in your house or she need to leave. I understand that you are afraid of her, so you must get the law involved. Don't sit back and do nothing, hoping things will get better, because they won't. She missed twice hitting the baby, next time she might not miss.
Get the law involved, so if anything happens it is already on record. Good Luck...
2006-11-08 23:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by mouse in chicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look mom your child is 19 years old. My momma always told even till this day and im 24. Girl i brought you in this world and i will take you and and she means it. Your child is not to old to get her *** whipped. Shes over 18 which means shes grown. There not gonna send you to jail for child abuse because shes a grown *** woman still leaching off mommy while beating mommy in her house. Kick her out on her butt. Let her fend for herself. If shes grown enough to hit mommy shes grown anough to get out their and find her own way in the world. Shes the only person who knows what your heart feels like from the inside because you had her and she can lay a hand on you. You kick her out and keep her child with you cause before long shes gonna be abusing that baby.
2006-11-08 23:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by meka g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that your daughter is doing this to you and your grandson. this is a dangerous situation, and something needs to be done now before it escalates any further. you need help with your daughter, and your daughter sounds like she needs help with drug addiction and anger management. the first thing that comes to my mind is that you and your grandson need and deserve to be safe, and your daughter needs to be in a drug rehab center where she can kick her drug problem, and deal with her anger issues. I know it's going to be hard, but you need to turn your daughter in to the police for the sake of yourself and your grandson. she doesn't need to be around either of you until she get's help. your grandson needs you. what would happen to him if your daughter killed you in a mad rage? and what would happen to you if she threw something that hit and killed him? I can tell by what you've written that you love your daughter, but your life, and your grandson's life are at risk right now, and the two of you deserve better than that.
check into getting temporary custody of your grandson, and a restraining order against your daughter, at least for the time being. and tell her that if she doesn't get help, you're going to seek permanent custody, and a permanent restraining order. her behavior at this point, is dangerous, as well as way out of line. she should never put her hands on you except to give you a hug. this absolutely breaks my heart for you.
your grandson needs you, and you have to take whatever steps that are needed to protect him and yourself.
I will certainly keep you all in my prayers.
2006-11-09 00:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today it is her fist. What will she use tomorrow???? A knife? what if she threw something that hit her child in the head (or yourself) and then they died? You need someone to come to your aide. Call Protective Services or your minister or a good friend and protect this innocent child--as well as yourself. Good Luck. But....Do Something--now!
2006-11-08 23:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to smack her a couple of times and show her who's the boss. she has absolutely no respect. she has a child and does weed? she is really screwed up. if you really cared about her child, you would do everything possible to get her out of both of your lives. at least until she stops being abusive to you and herself as well. tell her to get help and get the police involved. sounds mean i know, but its whats best for everyone.
2006-11-08 23:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by miguel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this but i think the best idea is to have her placed under arrest
i know you're her mother and that you love her, but sometimes things you don't want to do will be better for her in the end.
2006-11-08 23:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by Tony B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋