I haven't told my parents or anyone other than my boyfriend that i am Bi but i really can't hide it anymore. I feel as though no one will like that i am this way. My mom is a anti Bi or Gay person so i know she'll probably kick me out of the house and my friends probably wont accept me. But i can't live a lie. How do i tell them without losing them??? Help please!!
2006-11-08 15:17:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My boyfriend is fine with the fact i am Bi and he doesn't have any suggestions to help me tell them.
2006-11-08 15:24:47 · update #1
Since you say that mom would probably kick you out of the house, do you really need to tell her? Coming out does not have to be something that is done in a single week. You told your boyfriend, and that is what is important. You should tell people about your sexuality that you are sexually involved with. For your family, it is only when you are comfortable telling them and aren't in a position of being dependent on them. If you think your friends won't accept it, are they really your friends? If they don't accept you, find better friends who are more supportive.
2006-11-08 15:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you can't tell them without losing them. If they are as anti Bi as you say they are you probably need to find more friends and a different place to stay.
I'm not telling you to stay hidden any longer than you think is best but maybe you should hold off until you get some more confidence and positive support. " I feel as though no one will like that i am this way." No matter how anyone else feels about whichever 'way' you are, you are who and what you are and you need to feel good about that.
So before you 'come out' to anyone else try saying it to yourself.
Everytime you are at a mirror, look at yourself and say "I'm Bi".
When you just saw a movie you loved, whisper to yourself " I'm Bi." Whenever you randomly feel like, it tell yourself "I'm Bi". You'll be suprised how just getting comfortable saying that will give you confidence. So when you do tell your parents or your friends, you already have the certainty of being comfortable with who you are.
2006-11-08 23:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by teenyb04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hardly think this is a matter of choosing between your family & your sexuality! You are who you are, for heaven's sake. I wouldn't even feel obligated to "tell" them. Just live your life--it's yours, after all. Unfortunately, there ARE people who will give you flak. Anyone who does that, doesn't deserve your consideration. In the long run, living a "lie" can't possibly serve you, so sort of think of it like--if someone orders a pizza with anchovies, & you don't like anchovies, just scrape them off with no explanation needed. I don't in any way mean this is "easy"--& I know there are those who will tell you you have a "choice," but they're wrong. If you think your "friends" wouldn't accept you, then they aren't your friends. I've no idea how old you are, (if good old mum kicked you out of the house), so that's another matter. No one, I mean no one, has to "like" who you are. There are probably things about them that you don't "like" either. I guess it's just the human condition that makes so many people biased & rejecting.
Just don't "let" them lay a trip on you. You are OKAY. Much luck in being very strong & being yousrself.
2006-11-08 23:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might consider watching two videos from Focus on the Family by gays called Love Won Out and I Do Exist. If you cannot afford to pay for them, they can be sent to you at no cost, just put 0 in the suggested donation box. These will help your mom understand as much as anything. They are very informative and give a very real understanding of you being the way you are and how she can accept that. It was a very dear friend who helped me overcome my notions and these two videos were exceptional presentations in answering a lot of my "why" questions.
2006-11-08 23:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by dph_40 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your mom will love u no matter what yea she will freak but in the end she will accept cuz that what moms do and if u have to worry about what people think hey they really r not your friends
2006-11-09 01:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by way2cooolmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your boyfriend feel about it?
Talk to him see if he has any suggestions.
2006-11-08 23:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't condon the behavior .. I told my daughter if that's the way she wants to live her life when she is an adult so be it ,but she will not
bring that lifestyle around me as she needs to respect how I feel about the matter. I will always love her though, and would want her to be a part of my life outside of her perverted choice to have sex with women !Yuck....................
2006-11-08 23:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by blahblah 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
oooooo... maybe... evaluate what you think is the most important. ur family or ur sexuality... and then evaluate why you are bi
2006-11-08 23:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by Kit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋