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My husband of 5 years changed his mind of wanting a family and i am pregnant and haven't told him HELP?
HE CHANGED HIS MIND AFTER SEEING THIS stupid link

http://www.nobeliefs.com/babies.htm
He said that he is so happy that we have not go pregnant yet and said that he would rather die than have a litte poop diaper running around.THAT MADE ME REALLY SAD WHEN HE SAID THAT

I just found out that i am pregnant but don't want to loose my husband because your wife/husband should come first.

But i really want to have a family with him
What should i do ? ... has this ever happened to you?

UPDATED INFO >>

MY HUSBAND WAS TOLD THIS EVENING(of my pregnancy) AND HE SAID GET RID OF IT....WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW?

He is really upset..... And i can't stop crying .....how can i save our marrage?

2006-11-08 14:43:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

Dba_Gregg
For your info that post was my sister inlaw
not me

2006-11-08 14:52:38 · update #1

25 answers

You know what? I wouldn't consider getting rid of the baby. I WOULD consider getting rid of the husband tho! That is a precious human life. Something that the two of you have been blessed with, a life you have been trusted with. There are so many people in the world that would love to have a child and your idiot wants to kill a sweet ,innocent little baby. If you aren't ready to raise the child, consider adoption....NOT abortion! Abortion is nothing but murder! Are YOU prepared to live with that the rest of your life? Are you prepared to face the feelings of longing, guilt or what ever else every time you look at a pregnant woman or a new born baby? Or as the years go by...thinking "my baby would be that age now, wounder what he/she would have been like,"
It upsets me so much to think of all the little lives lost due to abortion. It is none of my business and my opinions are my own. I am not trying to influence you. Just encouraging you to REALLY think this over. In my opinion(and again it is mine only and amounts to nothing for others) a man who would get so upset over HIS child in not a man at all. It takes a lot to carry that child and go through giving birth, and the years of raising it. A child will all ways be with you. If your husband wants to leave, tell him "don't let the door hit you in the A** !" He will be responsible for child support even if he chooses not to be in the child's life.
Now, stop crying. Hold your head up,BE STRONG. love that little life you are carrying and go on with your life. You WANT your child. Have that baby and be happy. Remember men are a dime a dozen...how many children will you have?

2006-11-08 15:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 1 2

That is very sad. I'm happy for you that you're a mom, but sorry to hear he isn't sharing the happiness of it. Millions of women try to get pregnant every day and can't for different reasons. For those of us that do, it's not only a miracle, it's a blessing. It can be the happiest thing in your life.
Unfortunately, in your situation, you have to decide what is more important. Because your husband has decided that he no longer wants a family anymore. When you were having intercourse before, I'm sure having a family was the plan. So, this is unfair to you. So, now you have to decide. Your husband or your unborn child. And only you can make that decision. Which would you rather have?! Think long and hard about this. Good luck to you.

2006-11-08 14:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1 0

First of all you must realize that it is not normal to hate beautiful little babies, and your husband's present mind set is based on a belief that most people never even dreamed of.
You are going to have a baby. If he is not man enough (that means loving and caring enough) to have a baby and be a parent, then give the baby up for adoption, which is going to be hard for you, since you will love the baby.
I am inclined to think that this action will not actually save the marriage, because I think you have other issues you need to communicate on. Babies are normal as love.

2006-11-08 14:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2 1

I would leave him. I have a son that is 7 months old and hes the greatest thing ever. Yeah babies may cry and be a lot to deal with. But nothing feels better than knowing your a mother and that its your child. My son has made me change in so many ways and nothing makes me happier to see my little boy smile at me. I think you should keep your child and if your husband don't change then he don't deserve you and your beautiful baby! GOOD LUCK!!

2006-11-08 14:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

Get rid of him. He is a no good! You are carring a live baby inside you. DUMP his sorry ***. People like him really piss me off. I had cancer and I have 2 daughters I love very much and their father and I didn't make it. Well I am married after 9 years and would love to have a child but I can't. And we can't afford to adopt. Get rid of hubby and raise your child the way it sounds he wouldn't be a good father anyway!

2006-11-08 15:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

DON'T LET HIM FORCE YOU TO GET AN ABORTION!!!!

Your the mother, and if you keep the baby that is your choice.

What a selfish prick he his. I am a father of 3 beautiful children, and I would never have told my wife to get an abortion.

He needs to stop thinking of what he wants. He needs to think about your, your feelings and needs, and now about the baby. He to me is so imature, he doesn't even deserve being called a man. Because a real man would never tell his wife to get rid of the baby.

2006-11-08 15:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1 1

What do they call people who don't use birth control??? Parents. Having a child is a mutual decision, or ought to be. Sorry you weren't more careful. You know what all the options are. Pick it.

2006-11-08 15:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 1 1

"I don't want him to feel sorry for me" why? Why do you don't want him to feel sorry for you?? This is serious, a rape is always serious. If he feels sorry for you then what? What could harm him/ or you? Do you feel insecure? Are you embarassed of this fact even from your own husband? I get that you feel embarassed if OTHER ppl know, but if it's your own husband...?

2016-03-19 05:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wow. That sucks. I can tell you that having a kid is tough, especially when the husband leaves, but you are better off alone than in an unhealthy relationship. Be strong, and kick his *** out. And it sounds like he is cheating on you. Just a hunch.....

2006-11-08 15:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by my_son_wants_to_know 4 · 1 1

discuss it w/ him
If he wants abortion then perhaps you should get one.
Like you said you're family is important and the world really does not need any unplanned births. Best of luck. You are very pretty!

2006-11-11 06:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by Kris 3 · 1 1

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