I recently met this lady. I'm 31, she's 25. We had been talking online and met up at a little bar then went and got something to eat. We talked for several hours. The next night we went out again and it seems as if we both had a really good time, I know I did and I'm very interested in her. We are supposed to go out again this coming weekend. My question here is....If we go out a few more times and everything keeps going really good (maybe it develops into something) should I invite her to Thanksgiving dinner. I know for sure my family would totally approve of it. She's not from the area where we live therefore she has no family around. She doesn't plan on going home due to her work schedule Thanksgiving is only a few weeks away so I'm not sure if it would be appropriate to invite her since her and I just met. If I do invite her at what point should I do that, should I do it a couple weeks in advance or wait 'till just a few days prior to the holliday?? Any advice would be appreciated.
2006-11-08 14:42:15 · 15 answers · asked by corbin_rox 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
no, thanksgiving is a family holiday.
2006-11-08 14:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ladien 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, as you already know this is a very touchy subject. My initial thought is no. Just because some people consider holidays as huge deals and heading toward a more serious relationship. But I don't know her so she may not think of it that way. Besides, if she's not going home she may feel lonely if she is used to spending that time with her family so in that sense it may be good. If you really feel like you have a connection with her try to just casually mention it to her and see how she feels about it and go from there. But I would definitely give it a few more dates before you made your decision. You may want to mention some of your family's holiday "traditions" and see if she seems like she would want to be there or if she could care less. You should be able to read her pretty well about this.
2006-11-08 14:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Especially, if your family's Thanksgiving celebrations are not highly formal or tradition (in which case, she may be uncomfortable). If your family is weird and dysfunctional, I may not be a good idea either. If your thinking seriously about her, introducing her into the family environment sounds like a good idea but only if your serious because your family will probably assume as much if you invite her over. Invite her over a few weeks in advance because she may make other plans and it will give her less time to be depressed about being alone on a holiday, My parents had actually been dating for only about two months when my dad invited my mom to his parents' for Thanksgiving because her family lived out of town. Two and a half months later she was back for Xmas and the rest is history.
2006-11-08 14:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her the same question. Ask something along the lines of "If after a few more dates (if willing to go out) and things are smooth and/or seem to be going further would she, be interested in coming to Thanksgiving dinner with you. No pressure, just tell her to think about it and you'll ask ONCE more a couple of days before the dinner. If yes great, if not no big deal just didn't want her to spend the Holiday alone". But if she does introduce her as your friend.
2006-11-08 14:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Carolinablues 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say give her at least a week's notice. I would say invite her.
It is mighty lonely to spend Thanksgiving alone............I used to roast a turkey leg and do the trimmings, one year tried a whole small turkey. This year I am doing a preview on a Marie Callendar turkey dinner or just stay in bed all day with the covers over my head and wait till the next day to come out.
Uh oh, that falls into the category of TMI.
Ask her. She will appreciate the thought even if she refuses but you will definitely win points.
2006-11-08 14:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Definitely invite her if she is going to be unable to spend it with family.
I suggest you make the offer sooner rather than later, so that way if she was thinking of making any other plans, she knows that you're an option. Make it casual, just tell her that there is a home and a table that would welcome her gladly if she would like to on Thanksgiving, but make sure there is no pressure at all, in case she'd like to spend it with friends or any other people that she might know a bit more intimately. Either way, it is a very sweet gesture.
2006-11-08 14:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say invite her. If she does not have any family close chances are that she might end up at Denny's or worse a TV dinner. If you really dig this chick you could score some very valuable points with her. Plus if your family is cool with her and she feels welcomed by your family.....
this is a win win situation.
2006-11-08 14:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by MAD MEL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A couple of weeks in advance cause if you ask her a few days prior she might already have plans by then. Just ask her Im sure she would love to go!
2006-11-09 01:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be causual about it. Don't make it a date or tell her how much you want to spend thanksgiving with her at you family's home. Just tell her that you will be spending Thanksgiving with them and she is welcome to come along if she has no other plans. Since you already know what you will be doing, this is a good time to tell her.
2006-11-08 15:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by GORDO BLAKHART 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how weird your family is. I wouldn't take a person I liked home for Thanksgiving unless we were married, but that's just me.
2006-11-08 15:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask her, what might want to it damage, its thanksgiving. if she doesnt have absolutely everyone to spend it with and also you adult men relish eachothers corporation - why no longer. i might want to if i have been you... ask her once you sense tender or perhaps a week till now no longer to quickly and by no skill too previous due ... strong success
2016-10-16 08:13:51 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋