Have you ever heard of intamacy guidelines?

Question

My husband and I have filed for divorce. We have talked about reconsiling recently and he finally said he is willing to make compromises. I thought this was great news until he sent me "intamacy guidelines". Basically it is what he expects from our love life, very detailed. An example of this would be how many times a week he wants sex and for how long. How would you handle this???

Answer 1

I have only ever heard of extremely wealthy people doing this. I think I would laugh at this and tell him to go to hell. Really, what about if something happens or you become ill and cannot fulfill your end of this compromise? Your husband sounds like a control freak.

Answer 2

You can look at this two ways:

The nornmal female way.... "Oh what a pig" "thats disgusting" "how dare he"

Or:

I wnat to give my husband all the pleasure he wants and now I know exactly what he wants. Thank you my dear husband I want to make you happy.

btw he should be happy if you also describe in writing exactly what you want.

How can this be a bad thing. Only a female would possibly say someone putting in writing exactly what they want is in any way negative.

If you really do not like/want sex please let him move on to someone who does. Do him this one favor.

Answer 3

Never heard of it, but you can look at it 2 ways..

1. If you go back to him, you know exactly what to expect.

2. You can laugh your behind off at him all the way to divorce court.

The choice is yours, but personally, I would be intimidated for the rest of my marriage trying to "live up" to his guidelines.

Answer 4

Is it a little more, a lot more or a whole lot more than your love life consisted of before you guys filed for divorce?

Is it stuff you used to do, but stopped, or new stuff?

Are you comfortable with it? Is it reasonable?

Do you want to stay married?

Answer 5

Yes, I have heard of this before..
It is found in pre-nups also..
It was one of the clauses in the Pre-nup between Jackie Kennedy Onassis and Aristotle Onasis...
It said how many times per week she was required to make herself available for sex and a bunch of other details..
She signed it and married him...

Answer 6

Negotiate. If he won't negotiate walk away. Don't do anything you are not comfortable with.

Personally, I think this is horrible and takes all the spark out of marriage. I would want my spouse to want me to want him not do certain things because we had a legal agreement.

Answer 7

Take off that chastity belt and start puttin out, do we need to spell it out.

Answer 8

are you willing to accept his guidelines? if not re negotiate with guidelines of your own.

Answer 9

uh never heard of that one before...