Am I being stupid or making this a big deal??

Question

Ok, my bf and I have been going out like i dont know...3 weeks? and yeah, we hug and hold hands and i kiss him/or he kisses me on the cheek afterschool but I feel very uncomfortable if people are there (which they usually are ) I'm not a fan of the PDA...annddd...i know he wants to kiss, but I would really appreciate it if it didn't have to happen when there's people around. school is the place when we could see eachother cuz i doubt my parents want me to have a bf...im 15 lol
ummm
yeah, it's not my FIRST kiss...but it is with him. and like....i get frustrated at myself because i feel like he's not asking for much, yet im not giving that much to him. get it?
i think i am making it a big deal. and its not about being comfortable with him because even though we recently started going out, he's been my best friend for a year before that..so yeah
any suggestions?? =(

Answer 1

This is very understandable, you getting the jitters and all. I do not blame you for wanting to always make a good impression and convey a good image. All I would have to say though is to treat this guy just like any other. He might be a big hot stud you have always wanted, but actually letting him know that is how you feel will only make it go to his head, and then he might think he can find an even better girl! Gosh, we certainly do not want that. So, just be suave with him, and do not worry what others may think. Consider yourself lucky for every moment you spend with him, and every moment he is able to spend with you. Lastly, your parents should not be angry about you having a bf. This is part of the growing up period, and as long as he is a stand-up guy it should all be good. I am sure they would be happy for you to be happy. Regardless, I hope that this helps. Good luck, and go get him now!

Answer 2

Let him know you like him but aren't into PDA. Guys tend to like it because it announces to others that you are a couple. Try holding hands with him on campus so others know you are together. As long as you show him affection in private most guys get over it. I'm 30 and I still despise PDA. It's cheesy! But my man knows I show affection privately. Go on a date, like maybe the movies. Do something just the two of you and show the level of affection you feel comfortable with.

Answer 3

You are a smart girl! When something makes you uncomfortable you need to stop and think about the situation.
I don't like it when I see a couple making out in public. I don't mind seeing a couple holding hands, kissing hello and good bye.
You know what your limits are, you set the bar and he will respect you more for it.
Have fun with your bf!

Answer 4

if he really likes you/loves you, he would respect your wishes. just tell him on how you feel about PDA and why you dont want him to kiss you when there are people around you.tell him gently, that he can kiss you, but both of you have to be really comfortable with the environment.and he as your bf have to help you in choosing a good place!

Answer 5

If he cares about you he will understand that you are not comfortable with PDA. Take your time and never do things just because some guy wants you to.

Answer 6

If he feels ok about not kissing you then more power to you but...i think i may have a solution to your problem...when you know he wants to kiss you and there are people around just close your eyes..if he knows the 411 then he'll know what to do.

Answer 7

Sounds to me like you're a bit insecure about yourself. You're worrying too much about what other people think just relax. You should feel comfortable around him.

Answer 8

DOES HE KNOW YOU FEEL ABOUT PDA? IF NOT THEN YOU SHOULD TELL HIM AND IF HE DONT DO SOMETHING TO TRY TO MAKE YOU COMFORTABLE, THEN YOU NEED TO FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL...BESIDES IF YOU REALLY CARED ABOUT HIM, THEN YOU WOULDNT BE WORRIED ABOUT WHO WAS LOOKING....(not trying to be harsh) JUST STATING A FACT....GOOD NIGHT AND GOOD LUCK.