Is it justifiable for me to write a letter to all those people who have brought me to this point in my life?

Question

If I new that I was going to end my life or my life was coming to an end,and because it was due to all the hurt and pain that I have endored thru life with these individuals,I feel that why should they live without me at least telling them that they were part of the reason,and leave them to deal with that!

Answer 1

First, yes, write the letters. Then throw them away. It will make you feel better. Second, get some help from someone to break out of this bad spot you're in.

Answer 2

First of all if you are thinking about hurting yourself please seek help with a therapist. Now to answer your question. I think everyone has thought about this at one time or another. It is perfectly normal to want to share our pain with those that caused it (or amplified it). Personally I have had serious issues with my father. Many times I wanted to write him letters or confront him about my feelings. A few months ago I was told that he didn't have long to live. I went with my family to see him. To alleviate my own guilt I brought my son to meet him. As far as I knew my father didn't even know about him. Even though he was not aware of his surroundings I had this big plan to tell him everything I ever felt about him. In that moment I came to a realization. I could live in the past and let the pain control the rest of my life or I could let go. So I left. He died a week a later. And you know what - it didn't matter if he knew how I felt. If anything I am sure he wouldn't have cared. You can't control what anyone else does or thinks or feels. You can only control your reactions. If you do not find a way to release the negativity you will be never be able to move forward. You need to incorporate your pain and experiences into your life. Learn the lessons and move on. You may want to try writing letters to these people but don't send them. Writing it down is an exercise that releases the emotion and helps you focus on why you're upset. Good luck to you. I hope you can past the anger and the hurt.

Answer 3

Please don't end your life. I have had a rough life like that too. What helped more than anything else was writing a letter to the particular person who messed me up so bad. It took me months to write it because it was so painful. When I was done I never sent it to him, but allowed my mother and stepfather to read it. It was TREMENDOUSLY healing. I would of never thought so but, it was. You need to process all those feelings you are having. You definitely need to feel and express that anger as well. But, PLEASE do NOT end your life. There is life and hope and happiness ahead.

Answer 4

Those people are not worth your life! There are always going to be those people in this world, and in our lives, that for one reason or another will try to pull us down and make our life miserable one way or another, but we must be strong, and care more about the good people in our life. There are people out there that love you and care about you that are worth living for, and all those other people that hurt you will eventually get whats coming to them one way or another. What goes around, comes around, and I wouldn't even worry about people like that. You are a good person, and you must see that yourself, and care about yourself, and your good friends, and those who love you!

Answer 5

No reason is good enough to end your life over...and they won't be sorry they were the cause..they'll just say.."she was stupid, she should have spoken to us." or"she was selfish, taking her own life and not caring the pain she caused" ...so you see...you won't be doing yourself or them any favors by doing such a thing? Rather talk to them straight..have courage and tell it to them like it is!! Come on girl, its time they know their wrongs?

Answer 6

I agree. But remember if you kill yourself, you are only hurting yourself. If they hurt you now, and dont care about it, why would they care if you killed yourself. Really the best way to hurt them is to succeed and do better than they ever could. That really grinds people. I have learned that first hand.