Philippines culture of taking care or bringing up a child?

Answer 1

I agree with tequila mike. It was his first hand observations having been here for 14 years. It could have happened to me. but i said to myself no. i have to strive for my sake. fortunately God helped me. Now that i have children, i reared them the best way i can, not according to our culture. while other parents do not want their children go enroll in distant school, i am different. i even encouraged them. I have 5 children and are always away from home for school.
my 4 children finished college education. one of them from
usna, annapolis, maryland, us of a.
my youngest is on her 2nd year medicine.
i am just simply an ordinary man, life here is hard but i DO NOT complain. i know God is with me always.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, in this beautiful country, there is not nearly enough discipline with kids, they grow up not really knowing right from wrong, this is a generality and i know a lot of families with well behaved kids.
It's actually an Asian syndrome, and maybe worldwide, there's a lot of brats in England too, but what really gets me here is that there is no respect for people older than them except in their families. I can't tell you how many times I've been in an expensive restaurant with ignorant brats running around annoying diners, even having conversations with other adults can be interrupted by squeals of ' I want this or that'.
When I was growing up, I would be smacked hard if I disturbed an adult in conversation with another.
In fact, until the age of ten I was not permitted to talk to an adult unless he spoke to me first. I believe that should still be the case.
Needless to say, I have no kids, nor will I ever have, since I would want my kid to be well disciplined, as I was. I have been standing on my own two feet alone for all my adult life, I believe, due to the discipline I have and the respect I show to all people older or wiser than me.

Answer 3

Filipino parents are generally conservative in bringing up their children. Most, hammer the importance of Faith in the Lord and
in keeping family ties. In many ways, it is similar to how students are being taught in a catholic school. However, there seem to be a difference on how the older generations rear up their children compared to the new generation of parents (parents younger at around 30+ years old) ...they seem to treat children with more openness and talk to them as if they are adults. I've got 2 kids and i try to focus improvements that i felt was lacking during my upbringing by my parents (e.g. more bonding, more time, as a mentor rather than an instructor)

Answer 4

It is common that the grandparents take care of the child. However, if the mother has no work , then she takes care of her own child. If both parents are working, some get a "yaya" or a maid.
Some well to do families have their maids even wear a uniform.

Answer 5

i have to agree with the answer above and disagree with tequila mike.

my dad is new zealander and my mum filipina. every one knows the state of the philippines now (i.e. poor) but why did they choose to stay here instead of leaving when we could have? for one thing, he wanted us to grow up in an environment that reiterates 'respect for elders, love of family, and of God'. New Zealand is a beautiful country, but its culture is Western (meaning, its individualistic).

E.G. my sister went home to New Zealand for a few months. Imagine when our grandparents asked her to pay for food and rent. Asians reading this will react with affront (like our mum did, she told us she hadnt been so insulted in her entire life). Probably saying "What?! They asked her to pay rent and shes their granddaughter?" But people of Western culture would probably just shrug their shoulders and say, 'Well, they do own the house and are buying the food".

Why do we hear of school shootings in Western countries ? Does it happen at all here in Asia (a collectivist culture)?

I think its because as a family-oriented and people-oriented collectivists, we've been brought up to show and give respect. Not only to people older than us, but to our peers as well.

Answer 6

Tequila Mike is talking bull. Philippines child education is good and strick and much further ahead than western countries. I have just brought 3 Filipino children to England and they cannot believe how easy school is here. Filipino children are educated ahead of their same age groups here in UK

Answer 7

The English planted pineapples as quickly as they set foot right here and that historic 2nd catapulted the call Filipinas to grow to be Philippines. intestine experience ko lang yan huh. look for suggestion from Wikipedia.

Answer 8

majority conservative since most areas are not as liberated as in the us or europe. depends on the family of the parents...their backgrounds and upbringing.. do you travel?
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