Is I'm with him to pay the bills or am I'm with him because I love him. I really don't know how I feel about him anymore because of the way that he treats me . Sometimes I put him out because I just can't stand to look and him because everytime that i see him my skin crawls.
2006-11-08 14:16:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your skin crawls...even sometimes...you just answered my first question...you don't want to be married to this guy. Possibly you have a fear of the unknown and what may or may not lay ahead for you. Maybe you feel you deserve this and no better. Maybe it's financial fears. Whatever they are, when you hit rock bottom with him, you'll know it and then, in your own time, you'll make your decision to stay and live with it or go. There won't be questions or fears once you choose. It's really not so bad on your own. The trade offs, even if financial, are worth it. I love coming home to peace and quiet and never having to wonder where the land mines are in my own home. I wish you the very best.
2006-11-08 14:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess right now you have the conflicting battle inside saying walk and the other saying stay. guess on one side you stay because of the security but on the other, I think you still feel some love towards him. yet when you are together, you quarrel so much that he makes your skin crawl when you have him near you. you guys need counseling. you also need to try to remember what brought you two together in the beginning and try to find that passion back. in today's age, financial security is not a big issue anymore as most women work too and can maintain themselves if they live alone.
2006-11-08 22:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't the foggiest idea of why you stay with your husband but it certainly doesn't sound like a marriage made in heaven. Lots of people who are unfulfilled in their relationships stay for different reasons. Some of the reasons might include monetary stability, for the kids sake, fear of what others might think, even religious beliefs. Only you can answer the question that you have asked of us in reality. Perhaps a visit to see a family therapist might be in order so as to save what is left in this relationship.
2006-11-08 22:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh...I remember that feeling with my ex husband. I couldn't stand to hear the man breath! I was afraid to be on my own, but more afraid to stay with him and be miserable. So, I filed for divorce and it was the best thing that I could have done. The fear of being alone was only temporary because it was the time after the split that I really took time for myself and discovered what I liked and wanted.
2006-11-08 22:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you say you can't stand to look at him and that he makes your skin crawl, why the heck did you get married? Maybe you should love on...
2006-11-08 22:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by Steph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of him if you feel this way.Why do you make yourself miserable by being with someone that makes you feel that way.There are many people out there,there is one that is wanting the same things you do in life-you just haven't found each other yet!
2006-11-08 22:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get all of these sensitive types saying, "well just talk to him". That's a bunch of BS. It just makes things harder and you get a short lived resolve; wow, you've solved nothing with this. Just tell him you don't want to be married anymore; plain and simple; you're sick of his crap; and leave. That's going to be the easiest way to do it.
2006-11-08 22:44:14 · answer #7 · answered by Rich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u fear the future, fear the unknown without him, fear u can't make it financially, and that is quite understandable. however i believe anything broken can be fixed, with the right communication, and when both people want to make their marriage work. most marriages end because we don't confront or communicate our hurts,we become passive and don't speak up for ourselves because we fear abandonment. your mad at him, and it effects how u see him. if he hasn't treated you fairly than your not going to feel good about him. ask him to go to therapy, or to your minister for advice.
2006-11-08 22:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him about what things are going to change the way youre feeling if you dont think thats possible quit ruing both of your lives and get a job
2006-11-08 22:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by ariespuff2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Financial security.
2006-11-08 22:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by serenity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋