Please people no judgement because you wont know the whole story just from this little bit i write. okay I am married and i love my husband to death. But recently an old flame has come back into my life and i have these super strong feelings for him, luckily i have self control and strong biblical belief so i have not made any bad choices with the situation. But i cant get him out of my head. My husband and i have a wonderful marriage but i feel like something is missing. And now this guy is starting to become shady because i cant figure out what to do. I am so confused and i feel like this wrong!
2006-11-08 14:12:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If something is missing in your marriage then u are not happily married like u claim to be. Attempt to find out what it is that's missing and work on putting it back in your marriage.
Try to cut all ties with this other man and get yourself away from a situation where u will end up jeopardizing your marriage. U are not making it easier on yourself if u keep on having contact with him.
2006-11-08 14:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know what. As shocking as this sounds, you should talk to your husband about this. If it feels as wrong as you say it is, it probably IS wrong. Why do something that feels that way and feel like crap later.
Talk to your husband. Tell him why you started talking to him. Let him know that you are no longer feeling comfortable around this guy. Tell this old flame to burn somewhere else. If this is making you uncomfortable, there is not much use to you remaining friends.
If you are feeling something is missing between you and your husband. You should confront this with him. More than likely he will agree to it or he is oblivious to it. Which means you might need to explore your options to put your magic back between you two. You have done nothing wrong... yet. I think you need to speak VERY frankly with your husband about what you want and need. The scariest part is opening your mouth for the first time and doing that. Then I feel nothing brings you closer than an obstacle you overcame together.
Good Luck!
2006-11-08 22:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Just another 2D character online 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what you are going through is common to so many women today.
The old flame is just a guy with faults. He is no better than your husband...You might think things will be special..but for how long?
When everyone turns their backs on you how happy will you be?
when your husband cries and you ruin your childrens lives how happy will you be?
when you and your husband go bankrupt and have financial woes for 10 years will that make you happy?
when all your pictures have to be thrown away with every memory you have had with your husband ..will that tickle your funny bone.
Think girl....the reason this guy is in your past is because you gave him a chance and he didn't measure up...He has baggage too and he'll hate you before 5 years is up.
You will be on drugs for depression and your face will age dramatically at the gravity of the lives you have ruined.
DON'T DO IT! DON'T THINK ABOUT THIS HOMEWRECKER AGAIN. Go love your husband, he works so hard to please you. Be sweet to him.
2006-11-08 22:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is wrong! You are bored. What you do is be even a better wife to your husband, concentrate solely on your husband and what you can do for him right now. And you pray, ALOT! Feelings aren't facts. Just because you feel a certain way does NOT mean you have to do anything about it.
2006-11-08 23:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of end your association with the former friend, you are being drawn out by your desire, and its beginning to effect your thinking. then start courting your husband like you did before you where married, buy out some quality for yourself and him and start rebuilding your feelings for him, it will take time a lot of prayer and strength for you to overcome the emotional turmoil you have created for yourself. you can do it if you focus your attention on what is important, and when you start thinking about the former friend get your mind off of him
2006-11-08 22:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to take the guy off your head as much as you can and remember your wonderful marriage you have right now
2006-11-08 22:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love your husband you will not risk hurting him and your marriage. put your old flame in the past where he belongs.
2006-11-08 22:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Diana K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband and you don't want to jeopardize that distance yourself from this situation... it's not worth it
2006-11-08 22:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry E88turbocpe 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not maybe your anniversary is coming closer and your feelings just get strong towards him
2006-11-08 22:16:41 · answer #9 · answered by stephiepoohbearcats 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
something is missing? uhm let me guess, ure craving for a better and wilder sex coz ur husband doesn't do it...
2006-11-08 22:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by pit_bulldog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋