My Story:
I m 40+ years...my fiancee is 40+years..We met, we clicked, we/he wants to marry by the end of the year..this i agreed to on MODAY nite....
My friend said WAIT! just meet this OTHER guy, I think you would b perfect match! I met him this Tuesday & he IS perfect for me. BUT he is 50+ years old. With the most amazing green eyes.
I could be happy with both!! I will decide who to choose, but HOW do i let down the man i do NOT choose??
I can't sleep at night for worrying...I can't think either...both have taken me around as their new love...I don't want to embarress them. BOTH have been burned by past loves...and now I'M doing what I promised NOT to do!!
I guess to "bottom line" this . One is rich & one is poor. I could love them both but I m leaning towards the richer one...I m ashamed of this feeling. I so regret meeting the second guy, my heart is totally torn!! He is awesome & says that I m his missing half. Help me :(
2006-11-08 14:04:01 · 7 answers · asked by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please tell me HOW to say goodbye to the one I do not choose.
2006-11-09 07:01:24 · update #1
My fiancee is a Capricorn, I m Aries..it would never work anyway :(
2006-11-09 09:02:47 · update #2
you just need to go with your heart. dont let financial status get to you. but dont lead both of them on and play with their feelings, thats not cool.
2006-11-08 14:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Mai Tai 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I take it the one you met last is the richer one? I tend to look at things in a spiritual realm and it's like the devil (your friend) walked in and turned you world inside out. The truth of the matter is, you were content before you met this other man. Though it is up to you who you choose, try to remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side (no matter how much money is involved). Take a good look at the rich man and ask yourself, if he didn't have any money would your view still be the same? Be careful. Always remember, you reap what you sow. What if you chose this guy for his money and karma comes around and takes it all from you (things will change because you may have been with him for all the wrong reasons in the beginning), would you think about the other guy then?
2006-11-08 22:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by shellese2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say your 40+? Your actions are like an immature high school girl with 2 dates to the prom.
Lets break this down easy, you obviously do not know what being engaged means.
I believe when you accepted his proposal that you have promised yourself to him and only him.........see where you went wrong?
You obviously need to break it off with your poor fiance. If you truly were in love with him, you would have never pursued the guy your friend set you up with. You do not have a rock solid relationship that a marriage is built on. You are dating another man while engaged? Again, break up! You do not have a trusting relationship if you are breaking his trust and dating other people.
Hey, good luck with the gold digging......I am sure it will be really satisfying. Gees!
2006-11-08 22:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by earinfection 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a question! First of all, being you were open to meet the second guy, that tells me you really don't love the first guy enough to marry him! Secondly, make sure those green eyes aren't just contacts!!!!!!! (ha-ha)......I think at this point, you should be honest with the first guy, and let him know you're not ready to get married. then, maybe you won't feel so pressured. Then if you still can't choose, maybe you should break up with both of them, cause if you don't feel it in your heart to put one of them first, then maybe it is just lust for both............not REAL love! Good luck!
2006-11-08 22:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by whitecococarmel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's sad but the truth must be told to your fiance. You won't be the first nor will you be the last person to have broken off an engagement. At least you should have the decency to let this guy know that you are not committed to him the way you feel you should be and as such cannot in good conscience marry him at present.
2006-11-08 22:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you say he IS perfect when you just met him. I'd have to say MOST of the people I know have to know the person at least 72 hours to know that. And money doesn't buy love. The other guy may be poor but that doesn't mean he isn't rich in love and kindness. You can't have your pie and eat it too.
2006-11-08 22:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by elprez14 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are both at the age were they should of had there money worked out by now. at 40+ if the man is still living off other people chances are he always will and you wont be any diffrent.
Go with the Love, and the MONEY$$$
2006-11-08 22:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋