We have been together for three years and he insists that if he wanted to be with her he would leave and hasn't but what would you think? He knows that it really bothers me but continues to do it anyway. any advise?
2006-11-08 14:01:53 · 11 answers · asked by JESSICA V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well... I would say that yes... this may be normal... remember... just because two people decide that they aren't interested in each other in a relationship kinda way... doesn't mean they don't still care about each other as friends... people can develop an extremely close relationship with ex-partners (not sexually)... and she may indeed be someone that he cares enough about (again, not sexually) to keep in touch with... why is it that everyone wants to scream that it's not normal when those same people want to end relationships by saying "Lets just be friends"...
If he's given you any reason to suspect that he is cheating or may soon be... then I would give it close examination... if not... it's not hard to imagine that he's developed a good friendship with someone that he feels he's just not "right" with or someone that there was no "chemistry" between...
Before you assume that it isn't a normal friendship... I would look for signs of it being "more then friends"...
I am soon to be married and I still talk to ex-girlfriends... I don't have ANY regrets about having lost them... nor do I want to travel THAT road again... but I do view them as friends... and I generally keep in touch and ask them how things are going... etc...
From my own experience... I would say (taking all of the doubts of him having an affair) yes... it's normal to want to gain a friendship in the face of losing a relationship...
2006-11-08 14:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by grimmy19812000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has kids with her, you may have to accept it, but without kids there should be no reason for daily conversation.
I used to talk to my ex a few times a week, but it was about the kids. Now the kids are grown and I speak with her maybe once a month, I see her at functions about three times a year but nothing is going on.
2006-11-08 14:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not normal unless there are business interests involved. Tell him to stop it, he's using her as a possible back up. If he doesn't then leave him, there seems to be three of you living together!
2006-11-08 14:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by fed up with stupid questions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have to be reminded to dump him already? if he knows that it bothers you, then he should stop. you have to make him choose. actually, there is nothing wrong with talking to an ex. but everyday is too much. especially after 3 yrs. i think he is still keeping communications open with his ex so that if ever somethings goes wrong between you he has a fallback.
2006-11-08 14:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say that you need to remember that if he can't listen to you and decide to do what is good for you, he will not in the future.
This time it is his ex, next time he will not listen to you about money matters or anything.
Be careful hon..
2006-11-08 15:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be "normal", but that is because the present woman gets so jealous. Perhaps it should be normal to keep your old friends when you move on to new ones.
2006-11-08 14:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds like it's normal for him. I would not tolerate it personally. My man needs to give me all of his attention and not his ex. I don't even want to know she exists.
peace
2006-11-08 14:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by easinclair 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i imagine it purely relies upon on the guy. Me and my boyfriend of virtually 15 do not communicate prevalent. i imagine that is honestly solid to flow some days without seeing/speaking for your boyfriend. now and again, adult adult males favor their personal area purely as us females. each and every couple is diverse, purely communicate over with your boyfriend and observe in the journey that they extremely favor to communicate over with you prevalent, now and again you may purely give up texting him until eventually he texts you first.
2016-11-28 22:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is it jsut as hey whats up like at school cuz a friend or is it call her everyday and say wierd stuff at school or hangout with her instead of you..
2006-11-08 14:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by xirekaj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PHUCK NO! That's not normal,he is a jerk and he is probably cheating with her,get rid of him!You can do better than that!
2006-11-08 14:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋