I dont want to come off weird or have anyone think (or type) that im a pervert. BUT i've always wondered, when u breast feed your child what stops it from feeling good? I mean we all know it feels good when a man (or woman, what ever your preference is) licks or sucks the nipple what stops that same feeling when a baby does it. I was watching a show and they said that some woman even have orgasmns from it....is that true? If i have kids i'm so scared something like that feeling would happen. And what about those woman that breast feed even when the kid is 5, 6 or even 8. is there a law that says u have to stop at a certain age. I really am just wondering so PLEASE no one judge...i know its a weird question, i didnt even want to ask it!!! But i cant help my wondering mind.
2006-11-08 13:52:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
The orgasms are extremely rare. I've been a breastfeeding educator for 5 years now, and I've never personally encountered this.
If you are doing things right, breastfeeding usually feels somewhat satisfying and you usually become so used to the sensation that you don't even notice it. It is entirely possible to feel erotic about your breasts while with your partner and feel non-erotic with your baby. Your body and your breasts were made to grow and nurture your child. Trust your body and yourself.
Also, there are no laws regarding the amount of time that a child nurses. The decision is left up to the mother and child. Obviously a child shouldn't be forced to nurse if they no longer wish.
2006-11-08 14:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah H 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of a 12 year old, and now of an eight month old, both daughters. I breastfed my 12 year old until she was 4. She was, and still is a fearless, fiercely independent soul, and having milk was the one time she seemed to allow herself to be a baby. I went back to work when she was six months old, so she nursed morning and night, and drank expressed milk from a bottle during the day. My baby loves nursing and loves food, just like her sister. I don't know if she'll want to nurse for 4 years, but if she does, she'll nurse a year less than the world average!
I don't find nursing to be a sexual experience at all. It's a mothering experience. I'm glad there are no laws governing breastfeeding. It's formula that is unnatural, when the mother is able to nurse.
2006-11-08 22:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by mirandaaskew2004 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not a weird question at all. It does feel good but not in a sexual way. At first until you get used to it anyway it really hurts when the baby latches on. It almost feels like he's biting your nipple. But after that it is a good feeling like a foot rub is. Your breasts get very sore and engorged from the milk so when baby eats it relives the pain. Also it is a very bonding experience. So for me anyway breast feeding felt very good, but in a whole different way.
I also worried for a while that it would no longer be enjoyable for my husband to... whatever... but it is a completely separate thing. So I guess that is the difference is what state of mind your in.
2006-11-08 22:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by deans_mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can cause orgasms. It can also feel good. I think the only things that makes it different is that you aren't in that state of mind when you are nursing and you are looking at an innocent child and not a hot man/woman(depending on your preference). I nursed all 3 of my children and will nurse this one too. I didn't have any odd feelings or anything like that but while I was nursing they were off limits to my poor husband. Boy was he glad to get them back. LOL.. I don't think you are a pervert for asking. At least you are thinking about what you will do when you have a baby.
2006-11-08 21:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the first part, but I want to comment on older kids breastfeeding... a lot of people think this means that you will have a 5-year old latched onto your nipple for most of the day...this is not so. Usually when older kids breastfeed, it is for comfort, not nourishment, and it may mean that they nurse for like one minute if they fall down and hurt themselves or something, or a few minutes at night to go to sleep. Don't know if that makes much difference on the "weird" factor, but not judging here...
There is no law saying you have to stop at a certain age. I believe most families keep it private.
2006-11-08 22:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by JX 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It does feel good to breastfeed. God made it that way so you would feed your kids. God made sex feel good so you would have more baby's. Don't feel wrong about it, its just the way it is. Its not sexual, it just feels good. Someday you should be able to distinguish between sexuality and general happiness. I've never had an orgasm from breastfeeding, but wouldn't that be a nice addition! I don't agree with breastfeeding past the age of 1, but some woman do it and it works for them. I don't believe there are any laws restricting it, I think there are laws protecting it. Back in the day people were breastfed till they were 8 or 9. Food can be hard to come by. Watch The Last Emperor. He was almost a teen!
2006-11-08 21:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I have not made it as far a breastfeeding yet, but I will say this: I NEVER enjoyed having my nipples messed with, I think that is a personal opinion kinda thing. I had always heard it was a pretty painful process... the baby would try to clamp down every once in awhile and they get all chaffed and sore. Poor nipples.
Don't be embarrased by asking stuff like that... we all wonder about weird things at some point!
2006-11-08 22:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It does feel good.....but in a different, non-sexual way. There are hormones released when nursing that give you a warm, motherly, affectionate feeling and also relax you.
There is no law reguarding how long you can breastfeed. As long as it is mutually desired by mom and child, it's beneficial to both of them. I know a lot of women who practice child-lead weaning, but very few people who nursed as long as you mentioned. Those ages are to the extreme end of the spectrum. Personally, I would expect that a nursing 8 year old would probably have developmental delays.
The AAP recommends nursing for a *at least* 12 months. The WHO and UNICEF recommend nursing for *at least* 2 years. Michael Jordan's mom nursed him until he was 3 years old and I think most people would agree that he turned out pretty darn well. The world-wide average age of weaning is 4.2 years. Research by anthropologist Kathryn Dettwyler indicates that the natural age of weaning in the human species should fall between 2.5 and 7 years of age.
My oldest was 3 years and 5 mos when he weaned.
My middle was 22 mos when she weaned.
My youngest is 3 years and 9 mos and still nursing.
2006-11-08 22:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, it can feel like that, but it's NOT in a "weird" way. That is nature's way of getting your body back to its pre-baby condition faster. (sucking=excitement=muscles contract=exercise to the uterus). Breastfeeding is the best gift you can give your baby. Although I think feeding until the kid is 8 is a bit extreme, your obgyn or a lactation consultant can help you and give you answers. Good luck!
2006-11-08 21:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by mmturtle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is still an emotional and even sometimes a physical sensation that comes from it but its a different type of sensation, you feel a differnt type of affection when breastfeeding. It's not a sexual thing anymore, and for me I'm in a different frame of mind. I think that they way your body interprets the sensation is mostly psychological and not physical. If oyu don't think of it as a sexual act it doesn't feel the same way.
2006-11-08 22:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by crazzyloo2chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋