My husband popped this idea abt a year ago.....he had a fantacy abt this..so i also joined in the fantacy......but now hes asking abt the real thing.....
i need to get ideas abt this situation....i need ideas from experience ppl...please contact me through yahoo.MY ID-paula_ferd@yahoo.com
2006-11-08 13:51:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Most don't, a few do.
2006-11-08 13:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend just went into an "open" marriage to save it. It turns out she is one step closer to divorce now that she has agreed to let her husband have "affairs" What else would you call it? You are seeing other people, why stay married at all? Try a swingers club, that way you get the benefit and thrill of something new but with the closeness and comfort of your husband..
2006-11-08 21:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm probably not the person to be trying to tell you what you're wanting to know, but I saw a documentary about this very thing one night and I really hope that you and your husband won't fall into the same mess some couples are already in.
this so-called-lifestyle will rob your marriage of trust, cause jealousy, fights, distrust, and will rob you of the intimacy that's to be shared only between husband and wife. and I'm almost certain it will cause some insecurities. and there's always the possibility of catching and spreading diseases.
please, just reconsider before you act.
God loves you and He cares about you and your marriage.
2006-11-08 23:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, are you ready to share your husband with many other women? It sounds like he is referring to SWINGING, not open...he is asking for your permission to be promiscuous with other women... If you are open to that kind of situation then you should be ready to be "open" to gay sex and the good Lord only knows what other arrangements he might have in mind.. perhaps animals when the current thing is no longer satisfying him? he obviously has no respect for you, nor the vows the two of you took when you got married, remember the statement,
TO FORSAKE NO OTHER AND LET NO ONE COME BETWEEN.... well that "come between"most specifically means between the sheets my dear.....
2006-11-08 22:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by SKayeMesqTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be very suspicious if your husband wants to move to an "open" marriage. It means that he's not happy with something in your relationship and wants to have an excuse to see other women. I suggest you talk to him and see what the problem is, and/or go to counselling.
2006-11-08 21:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? You've gotta be kidding, right? I'm sorry, but any guy who brought this up to me, like him or not, love him or not, he's just sick and if he's into kinky with or without you, who wants or needs any of that? As far as being married to this fellow, I feel for you. But I've gotta say, "WHO DOES THAT"? It's simple for me to say, "Don't let the door hit you in the ***..." I can't imagine waking up the following day and analyzing that scene over and over and over again. Ooooohhhh! Nasty! and whatever you do, tell him for me
"to get over himself".
2006-11-08 22:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by MareinAira 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blah'. This is a crap idea. If 'you' want this then go for it. Chances are you don't and you're just doing it because he wants to and you just don't want to lose him. Well, there's a very good chance that once you agree to this, he's as good as gone. If this isn't what you want then just say so. If he can't live without it than he had better be ready to live without you.
2006-11-08 21:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An open relationship CAN work - If you're both willing, and completely honest with each other. Otherwise you're inviting trouble. Good luck!
2006-11-08 21:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never allow it, It's just another way for him to not mature and not have to realize what marriage is all about.
Don't go there.
2006-11-08 22:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are thinking about it already .
I personaly think it will hurt the marriage.
I would never do it .
2006-11-08 21:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋