if my husband may take out his anger on me for remarrying by trying to get full child custody? Should I marry someone if I feel like the timing is not right but they think it is the best thing? Would being married persuade the judge to let me have fifty/fifty custody?
Or should I just stay single til it is all over? If my fiance' doesn't want to wait until all the legal stuff is over, and yes it has been 2 yrs. of court mess and fighting....does that mean he doesn't love me? He seems in a RUSH. And I am worried about financial settlement and child custody. Do you think it will be better in the judge's eyes if I am married and have help to parent and provide than if I were single and struggling financially? I just don't know what to do. I might lose my fiance. He thinks I am wrong to wait until it is all over.
2006-11-08 13:46:18 · 12 answers · asked by greeneyes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Where's the fire? You're barely out of one bad relationship and ready to start another marriage? You need time to heal even if you think you have healed. If this guy loves you, he isn't going anywhere even if you both wait. If he does go, wouldn't it be better to know that before you marry him? Surely you don't want a second divorce. Enjoy your freedom. Live on your own. Pay attention to you and your child for awhile. The fact that you ask this question leads me to believe you already have plenty of doubts. You don't marry when there are doubts. Be careful for yourself and your child.
2006-11-08 13:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really doesnt make a difference if the divorce has gone on this long without being settled, and the fact you remarry,shouldnt have any bearing on custody as long as your future husband is a responsiable and law abiding citizen.But alomost all divorce cases give joint custody unless theres a problem with one or the other parents. But it sounds to me your husband is dragging this out hoping you will get tired of all of it and settle for less. Bottom line is he doesnt wanna pay.. $$$$$$
2006-11-08 21:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by mssgtmidnight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get married under pressure. No one should be pressuring you. Your bf should be understanding of what you're going through and should try to support you as best as he can.
You can try going to a Christian church in your neighborhood.. Talking to the pastor may help. They are good in couselling and are free. They can also pray for you and over you and you will feel peace, love, joy & happiness.
Feeling confused and unsure is not from God. Satan wants to destroy you, your children etc...DON"T LET HIM!
The Bible says:
10 The thief’s(satan) purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My (The Lord)purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.
John 3:16
16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
I pray all goes well.
God Bless!
2006-11-09 08:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you marry it may less your settlement by 10 to 20% in some cases it will .as for your child it can help, most mothers get the children. i would say 93% do, even if they are not fit to do so.if your man loves you , he will love your child, as well as all of your children . and if he is a good man he will stand by you no matter
what happens
I wish you all the luck.
P.S DO NOT MAKE IT IN TO A WAR ...yours j.o.a.ts
2006-11-08 22:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by j.o.a.t.s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It will better in a judge's eyes that you are not rushing into another relationship. Thus, you shouldn't. You need to dry out from this ordeal and regroup your feelings and soul.
2006-11-08 21:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly recommend that you wait until all issues surrounding your divorce have been settled and are final. Just tell your man that you have to wait. If he's a real man, he'll understand.
2006-11-08 21:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until everything is at least most of it is settled. You do not want to start anther marriage with drama from your last marriage.
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-08 21:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you marry now....it will change things drstically....and it could possibly cost you more & more money in attorney fees,,,etc....and another couple years of the court,lawyer mess.....Have you asked your attorney????
It would be stupid for you not to consult him before you make a bigger mistake.....
When in doubt.......DONT
2006-11-08 21:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might get less money but if you want your new man then marry him
for the love or the money???????
You have to decide.
2006-11-08 21:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a long-term commitment. I would say: Don't do it.
2006-11-08 21:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by Scarlett_156 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋