My sons father has decided he no longer wants to see his son after 5 years of contact. This has only happend since he got a new g/friend who says my son is a little ****. I dont know what to tell my son as he is only 5 years old. I have tryed calling his father but he will not answer his phone. Could someone pls give me advice? It makes it hard when my son asks when he is going to see his dad again. I dont want to tell him as i know it will break his heart.
2006-11-08 13:43:48 · 7 answers · asked by gypsy s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm so sorry to hear that. But maybe this happening now, when he's little, is better than later on when he knows full well what a scumbag his dad is. All I can say is let him go. It's his bio-father's loss if he chooses a piece of skank over his kid. It'd be better if you moved near family (ie., parent's or grandparents) so that your son can see what a mom and dad are suppose to be like. Don't bring another man into your life right now, he's going to need you more than anyone. Better you be emotionally and physically available to hug and comfort him while he tries to get over this.
Pray to God with him and just have good people around him to make his days go by a little easier.
2006-11-08 13:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find something to tell my son to buy some time until you can find some kind of extra curricular activities that may take his mind off of his Dad so much. I think I would try to contact his dad again but only to let him know that if he turns his back on his child for his girlfriend that he would never see him again. I know you are probably thinking that this will have adverse effects on your son and it probably will short term. However, I have NO respect for a parent (man or woman) who can be easily influenced. What's to say that it won't happen over and over again? Then you will have done a tremendous amount of damage to your son by allowing him to enter and exit this child's life when and if he wants to. You have to be strong enough to put your foot down and set some boundaries. It's better to have one good parent than to allow this man to create a dysfunctional childhood for your son. Depending on his Dad's willingness to cooperate or the lack of cooperation you may look into finding a male relative to mentor and fill in until you meet someone who you trust to fulfill this vital role permanently. Eventually, when your son is old enough it would be wise to tell him the truth and allow him to form his opinions of his dad.
2006-11-08 14:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 13:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then go to court and ask him to forever terminate his parental rights. Period. Once that's done, tell your son that daddy had to go away and maybe won't be back until hes really old. The father - and you- need to make a decision and stick to it, not pop back into his life when the girlfriend goes sour.
2006-11-08 13:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Daddy has an answering machine or voice mail
let your son leave him a message asking
Daddy when are you coming to see me ?
See if that gets a response .
2006-11-08 13:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not believe the guy is doing that . Please go to a psychology now !!!!! she or he will give you the best advice to move on.There is man that will be a better father for your 5 year old i know that.
2006-11-08 13:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bratso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry.
groom your son to be as best of a man as he can.
its gonna be a hard battle....
2006-11-08 13:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋