Was your first year of marriage the hardest?

Question

If you don't agree which one do you think it is or was?

Answer 1

The 30th was the most difficult and it ended in divorce.

Answer 2

*LOL* Our first two years were extremely hard. There was a time when I thought it could not work. Then we tried counceling and learned about each other and the changes we made good and bad became good. When the bad times came we became closer because it made us realize we both could survive the hardships. Now we have been together a total of 6 yrs and we know that the obstacles we face can be faced without one of us wanting out. It's hard being married. But it is also wonderful. *LOL* Even if you live with them before marriage the first two years of marriage are hard. Just living together you still have your options to stay or leave. When your married, if you believe in your vows, it becomes more difficult. The annoyances annoy even more than ever. It's only my opionion and each person probably has their hardest years in marriage.

Answer 3

My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 5. We never had a disagreement until our first child was born! I haven't found any of our years to be hard but I do believe we have been blessed to find our one true love. Two little ones and a dog later we are still in the newlywed stage! From what I gather most marriages are not like ours-or at least all my friends say thay are not. I hope yours is!

Answer 4

Yes, the first year was very hard. I questioned myself many, many times about why I chose to get married. I loved him - but wasn't ready for marriage. We've been married over 12 years now, and with every year I fall more in love with him. It's been an ongoing process for me. We still have our ups and downs - but I'm very committed to our marriage now. He's a good man, a good provider, honest, and fun (most of the time!) I wouldn't recommend getting married the way I did (head over heals in love would be my marriage of choice!)

Answer 5

My first year was the hardest, we even separated for a couple months. We've been married for 15 years now.

Answer 6

I think the first year was the hardest. unless you live with someone before you get married you never know what their faults are. When my husband and I got married, it was very hard, we had to learn to be ourselves, but do it together....if the love is there....you will make it....take it from a girl who chucked her wedding band at her husband....we have only been married for 2 1/2 years.....BUT I LOVE HIM MORE EVERYDAY!!!!!!!

Answer 7

All I can say is, HELL YES! haha! It's gotten wayyyy better now; 7 years later. But yeah, the first year you're getting to know each other's "ticks" and you show your true colors. Basically it's not a cat-and-mouse game anymore. You won each other and now you get to see your prize! yay! You each find out how gross and bitchy the other one is, but you also find trust, compassion ect. It's a hell of a battle, but when you make it past the 1st hurtle, it's a great feeling and well worth the journey.

Answer 8

The second year seemed to be the hardest - I don't know why but it was like we had gotten over the novelty and had hard work to do. It has gotten better since. But that 7th year was another hard one.

Answer 9

First two years were the hardest. adjusting to having a family, sharing money responsibility etc....

Answer 10

The second year is the hardest for us. We had to move from PA to NC when we couldn't afford it, which has made us struggle financially ever since.

Answer 11

Not the first year...every year has been hard! It takes a lot of work to keep the relationship going.