parents and guardians...wut would b ur reaction if ur daughter told u she was pregnant?

Question

i kno im askin alot of questions bout this but basicallly this is who i have to talk to...im 15 and pregnant and i live wit my bro (guardian) because my mom died and my dad is i dont kno where... how would u react if ur daughter told u she was pregnant? he doesnt even kno im havin sex...i dont think...and would probably kick my *** if he did...i kinda want to have an idea of his reaction before i break the news

Answer 1

I would be broken hearted. I'm not chastising you, but he will now be responsible for raising not just you, but your kid too. That's a lot of financial and emotional responsibility. Sounds like the two of you have been through a lot. You'll get through this too, but understand his response and let him adjust to it his way. Good luck.

Answer 2

First, he has to understand that you are seeking love and thus sex is another dirivitave of love. Did you tell the father of your baby? Please dear Lord tell me you know who the baby's daddy is.

Do tell your brother in tears as you sit him down. He'll probably do a little freaking out, but he should still be brotherly to you. Do see a church pastor about this too. He can do much to counsel you and help you through this difficult time. Remember, Mary was pregnant out of wedlock too!

It's not the end of the world, just the end of your childhood. Sex is an adult act, now you get to really be the adult. Time to grow up and make some more serious descisions.

May I say to choose life options over abortion...for years later you will be pained wondering "what would that child be like had I allowed him/her to live?" Adoption is a beautiful choice!

Answer 3

I would be absolutely devastated and mad as hell!!!! I am 35 years old and have custody of my 17 year old sister who just delivered a baby last week. I was livid especially since we talked about her trying to practice abstinence as hard as this may be. But we also talked about getting her birth control if she needed it. She told me she didn't need it because she was doing anything. Being a teen mom is estremely hard. My sister has missed so much school and report cards came out last week she failed 2 of her classes. By the way she got pregnant when she wasn't living with me. Anyway, she's missed alot of school because of having a high risk pregnacy and actually having the baby and all of that. But here is what I think is more important than any of what I've told you. You're worried about being pregnant. Have you ever thought about contracting a deadly virus like HIV the virus that causes AIDS? You don't know who else this guy is or has been sleeping with. When adults try to give you advice about things we think that you should stay away from it's not to make your life a living hell or ruin things. We have been teenagers before and have experienced things that you have not. And there are many other STDs that you could have potentially been exposed to. Sexual activity is for adults... those who are mature enough to handle it. If you were going to have sex you hsould have had protected sex. Now you need to tell your brother right away so that he can help you with this issue. I can assure you he will be mad as hell becuase you're his younger sister and he won't be able to even picture you involved in this kind of activity. I will not give you any other advice but to tell your brother immediately and depending on your values, religion,etc. he can help you to make an informed decision. You've already created a huge problem by not being open with him about being sexually active don't continue to keep things from him. I hope that I've been some help to you. I don't mean to come down on you becuase I know that you are afraid. But I have been in your shoes before and I know that having a baby at this age could potentially ruin your future. Not to mention cause added expenses for your brother. Good luck in whatever you decide. Please Please tell your brother right away.

Answer 4

If you are afraid to confront him, can you meet with a family friend, pastor teacher or counselor you both know, and ask advice or assistance? If you are in the U.S. can you contact The Nurturing Network 1-800-TNN-4MOM for a referral. I think their website is http://www.thenurturingnetwork.org

If you are truly sorry for any burden, stress upset or bad feeling this may cause him, even if he reacts strongly at first, you will later win him over to your side; it is clear that you must truly love each other to have stuck it out this far. Any hurt in the meantime is just temporary so don't let that stop you from opening up and seeking each other's support. Let him know you need his support, and be honest with him. But I would seek a counselor first to help prepare how to approach him to make it easier on both of you.

If you don't have the support of your partner, call the Nurturing Network for a referral to get help and support so you and your brother don't feel overwhelmed. Having a baby should be like receiving a gift or a blessing. So ask for whatever help it takes to get the stress off you so you can focus on having a healthy baby.

Please take care, and know you are loved very much.

Answer 5

I'm sure that your brother may be a little upset about it when you first break the news to him, but he will in the long run support you if he has been kind enough to act as your guardian. He may want to discuss with you what your plans are regarding your pregnancy and help you seek out medical advice etc. Be honest with your brother and tell him what is going on in your life. Tell him also how grateful you are to have him to lean on in times like this and that you realize that it isn't easy raising a 15 year old but you appreciate all he is and does for you. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

I think every family would react differently. My husband and i wouldnt have been happy had our daughter come home pregnant at such a young age but we would have dealt with it. We would have discussed all options with her so she could decide what she wanted to do and we would have stood by her no matter what her decision would have been. At your age i dont understand why you werent using protection, you definately know better. Think about your future and the babys. Good luck.

Answer 7

After the initial shock and disappointment, I would ask her what she wanted to do about, what her plans were, and I'd discuss all her options. I'd share with her all the knowledge that I had about the responsibilities of bringing another life into this world. I would tell her that her life is about to change and there is no way to get it back.

Most of all, I'd be there for her to support whatever decision she makes.

Answer 8

If your brother will kick your *** for having sex, what do you think he will do for being pregnant. Seriously, be careful.

If my daughter had gotten pregnant in high school, our first reaction would have been devastation, thinking about all the years as a kid she lost, how much money it would cost, how her life and ours would change forever.

then, after the shock wore off - maybe a few weeks, then i would get excited about a new baby being around.

Answer 9

Well of course he's going to be a bit upset because you are young and he would have expected you to come to him first....But now is the time to be honest with yourself so therefore you can in turn be honest with him (brother). This is something that has already been done and you have to make the best choice for you.....But allow your brother to be apart of your direction.....He will be upset and won't trust your judgment for a little while but that too shall past......With your mother's passing your willingness to converse with him will bring you too closer.

Answer 10

i would sit down and have a person talk with you and tell you the importance of becoming a mother. then i would have a talk with the young man that got you preganet then i would help you take care of your child theres no need to kick a child out the house because of a mistake. and if yo bro really love and the young man that got you preganet love they'll be real men and help you out.