I have only had 4 relationships in my life, and I'm 20. I've dated 15 or so guys but were not in relationships with them.
I met a guy at my university a month ago and we're in a relationship after basically hanging out together every single day. We see each other at least every other day and many times we spend the night together, although with no sex.
My last long-term relationship lasted 4 years, and we were in love and I still love him, although I don't know if I'm in love with him. He still loves me and wants to be with me forever. However, the very long distance ruined it.
My current boyfriend is a really cool guy, except sometimes he gets irritated and pissed for no reason. I have a confrontational and b*tchy personality, but my ex-boyfriend was EXTREMELY patient and basically never got mad. My current one is also patient, but not as much as my old one.
I felt tired and said "Man, I'm never spending the night again because I get crappy sleep " to my current boyfriend. He got
2006-11-08 13:28:05 · 6 answers · asked by Kristin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
irritated and basically hung up the phone.
I called him 5 hours later, after class and he told me he was irritated because I said that, but that he's not now.
Thing is, due to child molestation, I've never had sex with with anyone because I have issues with my body. I didn't even want it with my ex even though I loved him.
Is it because of sex? Or what? My current one doesn't make me do anything but he told me I was the opposite of his ex, who always wanted sex. I just don't get it, because the guys I've known, especially my ex, was extremely patient and never got irritated.
2006-11-08 13:29:39 · update #1
Anyway, he told me it was because I kept saying "I won't spend the night again etc. etc. " It's weird though. He gets these phases where he's irritated, but then he calls me 3 times a day and we've become great friends in a short period of time.
What's up with this situation?
2006-11-08 13:30:28 · update #2
OK. you can't keep comparing the two guys. Not a good idea! Yes I am sure it is hard for him to go from a relationship that was all sex and then to a relationship that doesn't have ANY sex. He is a great guy for not asking you to have sex if you're not ready for that with the problem that you had to go through. It is very possible that, that is what is making him irritable. it would make me irritable. Just be patient with him, let him know how you are feeling. let him know that him getting irritated with you is making you upset and feeling down.
Good Luck!
2006-11-08 13:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you Know how we girls get periods well guy go through something like that too so just see what happens and if he says that way all the time then you shoudn't date him. Send you old boyfriend a gift to his oldaddress and it will get forwarded to him.Just put your address in it and phone # etc..and everything will be fine
From a 13 YEAR OLD
2006-11-08 13:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by stephiepoohbearcats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like fun to me. Sounds like too many 'pissed offs' already.....why continue if he is like this and you two can't talk about it? THAT is WHAT a RELATIONSHIP is....talking and seeing if you get along....not torturing each other.
BTW,I am wondering if you have body issues I am hoping that you are talking to a professional about this. Problems can be fixed...things always get better somehow...but you have to work on it....it rarely just happens. Be happy...enjoy your time.... maybe call your old BF and see if he is more to you than you think....
2006-11-08 13:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by PRISSY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be less of a b**ch , and give these guys a chance .
I would also find a Professional to help you
through your problem with sex .
2006-11-08 13:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he got what???????
i'm dying over here.......
you said it yourself......you are confrontational and b*tchy, so just get over it.....if this guy is not floating your boat, dump him........get some good sleep and start trying to find mister right. if he gets pissy with you, you get pissy with him.......it's probably not worth it anyway.
keep your nose in the books, get the school work first, sleep second, guys third, and just try that for awhile.
2006-11-08 13:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Da Judge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say, but your relationship is very immature, you guys are playing games, and the only way to figure out what is really wrong is communication, you have to talk to him and work it out
2006-11-08 13:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mooshak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋