Wut r ur thoughts on abortion? my bf has decided im gettin an abortion...i dont kno if i want to any thoughts?

Question

yesterday i asked a question bout me bein pregnant... im 15...and whether or not i should tell my bro, i live wit him not my parents...my bf told me were not gonna tell anyone and i will jus get an abortion...i have always felt kinda against abortion but i dont wanna fight wit him and i dont wanna lose him....advice? support? something? i dont kno wut to do anymore

i dont live wit my bf i live wit my bro my parents arent around

Answer 1

He can't make that decision for you. If you are against it, don't do it. If you lose him because of that, so be it... you and your baby do not need him. Talk to your brother, and tell him what your bf thinks you should do. Your bf may get his a** kicked... but it sounds like that is what he needs. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Your hormones are going crazy right now. This is really only a question you can answer yourself. Have you talked to your brother?? You are very young and this will change your whole life no-matter what you decide to do. Have you thought of having it and placing it up for adoption, there are sooo many couples who would love to give your baby a wonderful home. If you are even thinking you do not want an abortion DON'T DO IT. and if your bf does not understand and stand by your decision then he should not be having sex with anyone unprotected. I am sure you do not want to fight with him or lose him BUT you are only 15 and the chances of you two actually staying together past your 18th birthday are very slim anyways. You have to think of your thoughts about being a mom and about the baby you are now carrying. My e-mail is on this site if you want to talk [e-mail]. It does not sound like you have parents to talk to.. Can you talk to your brother or do you have a close older friend to talk to?? I hope this helped a little,,, good luck in whatever you decide... I can not support you in the abortion thing, sorry.

Answer 3

I got pregnant at 15 too. I know you feel alone, but I am here to tell you that you aren't. I also was on my own at 15. Try this before you do anything else.Take a bath, sit and relax, just think, cry, laugh, whatever makes you fel better. and while your in there think of how this baby could make you a better person in the long run, yea your gonna have people make comments and be mad, but Honey it is your decision. dont let anyone make that choice for you. Then go out and confront your bro and be a grown up, after all you made the choice to have sex. Give your baby a chance. I had a friend that hadan abortion and she has regretted it every since. Just relax and think to your self for a minute. GOOD LUCK W/ YOUR CHOICE !!! one final thing I kept my daughter she is now 5 and i am so happy that i did, it's not going to be easy, but nothing good is ever easy !!!! Think about it....

Answer 4

Well ultimately its up to you, because its your body the doctor would be taking the baby out of. Your very young and that's a big ouch. But you can have this baby if your up to it. A girl that dated my brother got pregnant when she was 15. Never told her parents and hid the pregnancy till she walked out of her parents bathroom with a baby. She gave birth by herself without anyone even knowing! I would advise against that, because proper medical care is very important, but it just shows you how truly strong 15 year olds are. I think you should tell your brother, and get his advice. If your boyfriend is so controlling that he's already decided for you and hasn't taken your health and sanity into consideration, he might just not be a keeper. I'm sure he's thinking about his freedom and the child support payments he's going to have to make for the next 20 some years if he leaves you. You've got to think about your freedom too, its not easy being a mom when your so young. Also you best make your decision soon, I wouldn't recommend having an abortion past 8 weeks. If you have questions about abortion check out www.abort73.com Just a warning though, its not a pro abortion site. The pictures of aborted fetus's are particularly enlightening.

Answer 5

If your 'boyfriend' is the one deciding if YOU are getting an abortion, then you've got bigger problems than this one. First, get a backbone. If this jackass is telling you what you're going to do, you need to get rid of him. If you do keep the baby, he'll probably take off anyway. If you are against abortion, then thats your decision-don't abort. Your boyfriend has absolutely nothing to do with it. You need to tell your brother regardless of what you decide to do. Its a very adult and mature thing to face your problems head on. And if you decide you don't want your baby, adoption is a much better choice. There are hundreds of people out there that would be glad to raise your child and give it a loving home if your not able to. But the best thing to do is keep it if you can. If you have the means to raise this child, do it. But if your not able to, give it up for adoption. Abortion is never an answer.

Also, consider getting on some birth control if your having sex and not able/wanting to take care of more children.

Answer 6

PLEASE....DON'T GET THE ABORTION! I had an abortion when I was younger and I honestly REGRET it. I really didn't know what to do and I was young and also my boyfriend kinda forced me into it. When you have an abortion you get the worst feeling you've ever had. I couldn't stop crying and to this day I cry about it and think about the "what ifs" abortion sticks with you forever...it's forever in your mind and also the guilt is always lingering around you. Not to mention the feelings you never thought you would have after the abortion...I talked with other women who had abortions and they felt the same...for some reason you feel hate and anger toward every pregnant woman you see...you feel really sad when you see babies. and like i mentioned earlier you always think of the "WHAT IFS". You are free to do what you want...but my opinion is DON'T DO IT! And also...what will you do if something goes wrong?

Answer 7

Who died and made him God? It is NOT his decision, it is yours. Besides that you are a MINOR! You cannot get an abortion without a parent or guardian's consent (that means your brother). Get on with it, tell him and get support because you aren't going to get it from your "boyfriend" (who ISN"T your friend).

By the way, abortion is MURDER (regardless of what anyone says). If you had been aborted you wouldn't be here. You will regard an abortion for the rest of your life, believe me.

Consider adoption. The adoptive parents will pay your medical bills and raise the child in a loving home. Your boyfriend wants you to KILL his child. He has NO responsibility or accountability for his (and your) actions.

Answer 8

im sorry but you have to muster up the guts to speak up for yourself. if your against abortion then stick to your decision. its your body and its not your bf's decision to make. if you want to talk to your bro do it and dont let on to your bf that you did. bf's will come and go but your bro will always be your family. I had an abortion 4 years ago because a bf told me to and i have regretted it every day since. I was against it but i was the same as youi did it so he wouldnt leave me, turned out 4 weeks later he broke up with me anyway. So ... just keep in mind that its your body , your decision, and your baby's life your thinking about taking. Can you live with that??? Im 25 and still having a hard time....

Answer 9

You have to honestly think about whats best for you, not what your boyfriend wants, You need to talk to your brother since he is your guardian. Think about it having a baby at young age is very hard and it will take a lot of will and determination I know I had my first son at 15, but I had a good support system, and I also had an abortion when I was 22 and I still think about it, so its a double standard, you need think about whats going to be best for you and the baby. Also you mentioned you don't want to lose him what if you get the abortion and he still leave then .what. If you need to talk email me @[e-mail]

Answer 10

Sweetie, from experience, I had an abortion and I was married to the man who told me that if I loved him that would be best. It was twins. I just feel like crying everyday for what I have done, but I can't take it back. We already had a child together, so I had been through child birth. Abortion is something that takes 10 minutes to do, and it is something you must live with everyday. After I had mine, I later found out that my mother had thought about aborting me. I just burst out in tears. If you need anyone to talk to e-mail me and I would be glad to talk to you.

Answer 11

I know your young your really young..i was 16 when i had my daughter....One your going to need an guardian to sign off on any papers if you want an abortion...Your bf cant just take you down there and have it done. Two why would you want to be with someone who doesnt wanna think things out and come up with a plan...what are you going to do after you have an abortion...and he does something stupid an d leaves you anyway...then your depressed because you killed your baby...the only thing you two had good together....and you dont have him. I really think you should take his opinion into consideration...but this is not just about him...its about you..this is going to be an emtional scar for the rest of your life. When's he ever going to want to have children? is he always going to want to take the easy way out? I'm sorry but he needs to grow up and quit thinking about himself..and start thinking about what you want and what you need.......You dont want to lose him...but your willing to kill an innocent child...so you dont have to fight with your bf?This baby cant stand up for itself..and have an opinion ...you have to do the mature thing and think about you and the baby...and whats best... i think you need to talk to your brother..or whoevers going to be taking you down there....goodluck to you sweetie..and may god be with you in whatever you decide