Wut r ur thoughts on abortion? my bf has decided im gettin an abortion...i dont kno if i want to any thoughts?

Question

yesterday i asked a question bout me bein pregnant... im 15...and whether or not i should tell my bro, i live wit him not my parents...my bf told me were not gonna tell anyone and i will jus get an abortion...i have always felt kinda against abortion but i dont wanna fight wit him and i dont wanna lose him....advice? support? something? i dont kno wut to do anymore

Answer 1

OMG !!!
YOU BOTH REALLY GOT YOURSELVES IN A HUGE PROBLEM !!!
THE FINAL DECISION SHOULD COME FROM YOU TWO !!
BUT REMEMBER ABORTION IS MURDER !!!

Answer 2

If u are asking all these questions....u r not ready for a baby at all. The reason I say this is because u seem more worried about fighting with your b/f and losing him than your problem at hand. Having an abortion is one option but there are others out there. Go to a family planning clinic and speak to some1 who can help you emotionally. But it has to be said that you wouldnt be in this position in the 1st place if you practiced safe sex. It's not a game! you have created a life and and now one way or the other u have to live by whatever decision u make. Good Luck sweetie and *keep those legs shut* at least for another couple of years. Dont grow up so soon. :)

Answer 3

What is this, "my bf has decided i'm gettng an abortion??" It's not his body it's yours. A true boyfriend would stand beside you no matter what. I would understand if it's something you both want but you sound hesitant to get one. Look you are 15 and pregnant. Are you ready to be a mother? Probably not, but if you just can't stand the fact that you are getting an abortion don't do it. Tell your brother, he might understand. Get rid of this loser, I know you love him but he's giving you terrible advice when he says not to tell anyone. Tell him this I'll get the abortion but I don't want to have sex anymore because I'm afraid I will get pregnant again. It depends on his answer whether or not he loves you for you or he's just using you and will go on to the next girl to screw.

Answer 4

There is a child who is completely dependent on you and your boyfriend for his or her survival. Albeit, the boyfriend can make suggestions about the fetus' future, but you have a voice on the matter as well.

An abortion is the destruction of a person before they are born. Yes, a "person" not a lump of tissue. That is why so many people try to avoid pregnancy so that they can have children when they are much older and ready to guide the life of another person.

If you decide to have an abortion, your body will discard the tissues and it can be very painful. You will feel depressed for the body was in the process of making preparations for a new life and the hormones will suddenly stop. The fact that you are told to keep this a secret will lead to feelings of guilt and a festering sadness that cannot be hidden for long, especially from your parents.

If you decide to keep the baby--your baby, then you're going to have to prepare for motherhood. Your boyfriend's desire for you to have an abortion and then keep the abortion a secret shows that he's only thinking of himself. He will leave you, and there's not much you can do about it. In fact, it's probably for the best as far as the child is concerned. Your parents will help, so you won't be alone. Expect them to be angry with you, that's natural, but it will pass. They had you and raised you and so they have all the experience needed to help you raise this baby.

As for your future, things will be more difficult, but not impossible. There are alternative schools for girls just like you. You'll be around other girls your age who are expecting as well. They will understand where you are coming from and more importantly, they will help you to finish school.

College is still an option for you and your dreams are not over. You will just have to work harder, but you'll have friends and family along the way that will help you. It's not over for you, not by a long shot.

Answer 5

its your body and your choice. Dont let him make up your mind for you. You need to discuss this together and make a decision. You also need to keep in mind that you are only 15 and it is very likely(going by statistics) that you wont stay together forever. You matter fist and if you dont want an abortion and the only reason you are doing it, is to stay with him, you are making a bad choice. There is also the option of adoption if you dont want the baby to lose its life, but you dont want to raise the child. There is probably a community service in your town where you can talk to people about it that are educated on the subject. If you have an abortion only because of him, i have no doubt you'll regret your decision. Good luck...and congratulations

Answer 6

You are 15 and living with your boyfriend, I am very sorry to hear this. You need to find some family that is supportive of you. And as far as abortion, I feel it is really a very personal choice, and the women's choice, it is your body, not his. Please get yourself involved with someone who loves and supports you. Being 15 and living with your boyfriend is not a good situation for a 15 year old girl to be in. You should be in school getting an education and beginning your plans for your future and a college education. You are growing up so fast, and life is going to pass you by, you are only young once. Live as a young woman and go back to school. I am going to keep you in my prayers, Good luck to you and God bless

Answer 7

You are 15 years old--you are a child!!!

You shouldn't not be having sex, nor should you be worrying about losing some guy. Whether you have an abortion or not--you should discuss this with your parents or close relatives (people that really love you). Do what is best for you and the baby.

Good luck!!!!

Answer 8

You should probably get an abortion because you're way to young for a baby - they are a crazy amount of work and responsibility - you will have no life. HOWEVER, don't have an abortion because your b/f says so or because he threatens to leave you. Trust me, he'll leave you eventually anyway, and then you'll be stuck with a baby. Finish high school. Get a life, get a career, get married, then have a baby.

Answer 9

This is about YOU and not him. He is not the one who is going through this. Tell your bro and tell your school coucelor, don't go through this alone. If your bf doesn't like it then too bad for him, if he doesn't want to step up and be responsible then forget him, you deserve better.

I personally am for abortion. It's the womans choice and nobody elses'. So once you get trustworthy adults involved, its your choice to decide if you want an abortion or not.

I'm sure you don't want to hear this but maybe you are better off without your bf. 15 is pretty young to go through all this. Just don't go through it alone and you will be alright! :)

Answer 10

First, no one but you can decide if you are going to have an abortion or not.

Second, you need to talk to your brother as soon as possible, and see a doctor just to know how far along you are and if you have any health issues.

Third, if you are against abortion, then you need to be prepared to either raise your baby or put it up for adoption. You have to be very honest with yourself about your situation; if your keep your child, it will be very difficult for you to finish school, go to college and raise your child. You won't be able to hang out whenever you want to, and you may not be able to depend on your boyfriend to support you. I'm not saying that it's impossible, but you have to be realistic about what you're up against.

If you decide to put the baby up for adoption, you will have to deal with being pregnant, carrying the child and then giving it up. You may or may not be in contact with the child after the adoption.

Please understand that you are very young; the truth is that you may not be with this boyfriend a month from now or even a week from now, depending on what your decision is. Both of you don't feel the same about your pregnancy; he wants it to go away, you're against abortion. You may not be able to count on him to be supportive of you or your decision, so prepare yourself for that.

Again, talk to your brother. Depending on how long you've been pregnant, your options concerning your pregnancy are going to narrow down. Whatever your decision, talk to your doctor and get on some form of birth control should you decide to become sexually active again. You don't want to find yourself in this position again.

Talking to your brother, and eventually to your parents, will be hard. When you take on adult activities, such as becoming sexually active, you have to be prepared to deal with all that comes along with it. I'm not lecturing you, I'm encouraging you to talk to your brother and make the best possible informed decision. Please don't wait any longer.

Answer 11

DON'T EVER LET ANYONE TALK YOU INTO AN ABORTION.
You are only 15, so yah you messed up. My sis was 16 when she had my nephew and he was placed with a great family who wanted an open adoption. My whole family gets to see him whenever, and he has parents who can provde for him. On top of that, my sister gave that family something they could never achieve on their own, a baby. Some people cannot have children, and want them so bad. Don't get an abortion, look into open adoption. That baby is part of you, remember that! If you cannot take care of him/her, then do the responsible thing and consider adoption. Your baby will thank you.