My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 9 months. I know he's going to propose in the next couple of months. I can't stop thinking about when and how. It consumes my thoughts. I really want to stop thinking about it. I feel like I'm always looking for clues. What can I do to stop thinking about it???
2006-11-08 12:26:32 · 14 answers · asked by Rachel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, I'm far from desperate. I have a wonderful man who loves me and I love him too. Also, he doesn't know that I have these thoughts. I haven't shared that with him.
2006-11-08 12:29:54 · update #1
TAKE UP A HOBBY !!!
AND STOP YOUR EXTREME ANXIETY !!!
IT WILL CONSUME, DISRUPT, AND RUIN ALL YOUR BEING AND DAILY ACTIVITIES!!
LET HIS PLANS JUST HAPPEN NATURALLY SO IT WILL BE PLEASENT !!!
YOUR INTENSE OBSESSION WILL ONLY RUIN THE SPECIAL MOMENT !!
2006-11-08 12:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may be obsessed with the thought of having a ring on your finger or the title of fiance. There's nothing wrong with that, but thinking about it every moment of the day seems a bit much, which I see you think so also, otherwise you wouldn't be asking. Try not to think about it too much because you may end up being disappointed if he doesn't propose or if he doesn't propose in the manner you've been day-dreaming about, and that's not fare to him. So, I know it's going to be hard, but everytime you find yourself daydreaming about that moment, make a conscious choice to change your thoughts. I am sure there are other things you can change your mind to think of. You don't want to disappoint yourself, or even worse, disappoint him if he proposes in a simple manner and you were expecting something else. You won't be able to hide your disappointment. Concentrate on what a great guy you have in your life right now, and don't obsess so much on the material part of it.
2006-11-08 12:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is all that is consuming your thoughts, you don't have enough on your plate. Make sure you are concentrating on the relationship and not the event. Marriage lasts a lot longer after the wedding. I would definitely be looking into what you could do to improve your financial situation. You should both be talking about why you want to do this and why it will work.
Let him take his time asking you. It took me almost four years to get it figured out that this is what my wife and I wanted to do.
2006-11-08 12:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Just another 2D character online 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you really love someone and you know he is the one, it is just natural to look forward to the next step! What you are feeling is totally normal!
I think dwelling on it overly much is not constructive, however. When we think too much over something, we start to over analyze and wish for things that may or may not be realistic.
Try doing this:
Think about your boyfriend! Stop thinking about how you would feel and what you would do. Stop thinking about the pretty white dress or the sparkly ring. Think about doing something special for him--so that he is reminded and reassured how important he is in your life. Do or plan something special for him! This way, not only are you reinforcing and proving your love, but you are also letting him know you are more than ready to be his wife.
I hope this helps!
2006-11-10 05:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by HildaLY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's cool that you are in love and having these thoughts. Very good for you. Now erase all that and look 5 years 3 jobs and 2 kids into the future. Still feel as giddy and confident? If so than he's the guy for ya! If not thank god you still have time to think it through.
2006-11-08 12:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by best_28_seconds_she_ever_had 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well with Christmas coming I would bet it will be around then, so kick back and quit looking for clues. If you are compulsive about this it could give him second thoughts.
2006-11-08 12:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everytime you think about it take a hammer and slam it on you thumb cause this is how stupid you will feel when you marry him, slap a couple kids on it and then realize he's not the one!!
2006-11-08 13:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by liyah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should concentrate on the thought that he is going to leave you if all you think about is getting married.
2006-11-08 12:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard but just be happy knowing it is going to happen and he loves you and only you. good luck!
2006-11-08 12:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this, but try thinking about the fact that he might not. and how hurt you will be if he doesnt. also, try thinking that it'll be that much more fullfilling if its when you don't expect it. if you always expect it, how can you truly be suprised?
2006-11-08 12:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by dejiko316 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋