My wife and I been separated for 9months. She is dating this guy she met last Saturday. I having been asking her to try and giv our marriage a chance. But she wants to try something new. I have said yes I will wait for her. I am hating in side tho even tho I have said yes. I have told her but she is determined to keep seeing this guy. And i can leave under the same roof in a separate room. What should I do as I still love my wife so much.
2006-11-08 12:25:20 · 21 answers · asked by Tindofella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like she has moved on and you are having problems moving on i would say you need to get out there and have fun and just enjoy life
2006-11-08 12:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn man thats gotta be hard. Why don't you write her a letter if you can't talk to her tell her how you feel, and that even though you said yes you can't deal with it. Sounds like though she doesn't want you really but when she is done sleeping around and playing house she will be back when no one else wants her and might have 6 kids by diffrent men or a disease. Man let her go and go on with your own life. She is making her bed let her sleep in it. Don't sit there and take that **** from her. She has some issues to deal with and knows when all else falls you will be right there. I am sure she will be back when she is tired of doing what she is doing now.She is comitting a sin guess she doesn't care. Leave her and find a new love. Let the slut go. Sorry if I pissed you off but hey the truth hurts alot of us.
2006-11-08 14:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you agree to something like this. If you are married, then you should have never agreed to this. If she wants to date someone else, even though you are separated, then you should file for legal separation, as opposed to divorce. This way it will protect you legally and if she continues this behavior, you are one step much closer to divorce. Plus it may make her realize that you are not a toy to play with. You are a human being with feelings. Don't sit back and watch this happen, start dating also. You may just end up meeting someone out there that will be interested in you and you alone, but if you waste your time waiting for this woman, who is not taking you seriously, then that opportunity may just pass you by. You need to sit and analyze why you are separated in the first place.
2006-11-08 12:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it would be a good idea for you to tolerate this kind of behavior from her. It is obvious that you care a lot about your wife, otherwise you wouldn't even consider letting her see another man just to make her happy. If I were you, I would try talking with her, and maybe attending counceling to save your marriage. If she is unwilling, you should give your love to someone who deserves it, not someone who is going to treat you like trash and cheat on you with someone else. Even if you are separated, you are still married, and she should respect that. I know that it hurts to think of yourself without this woman, but you would be a lot better off if you had someone to love you as much as you love them.
2006-11-08 12:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by Just a Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my wife wants to see another man, I would say go for it. I have tried getting her to do it before, and at the last moment she backed out.
It may not be the right thing to do, but it is at least a honest answer.
2006-11-08 15:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. If she is determined to do this then don't sit on the side lines and watch it happen. I know you still love her but love yourself more. if she does not want to work on your marriage It's time you open yourself to other options. Start dating too. If you are meant to be you will find your way back to each other.
2006-11-08 12:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Alexsandra B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I think your asking for many arguments, sleepless nights, and and ulcers if you stay in the same house and allow her to see another man.
Honestly, how long do you think it will be before they have sex, and if it is unprotected sex, you run the chance of STD's or worse if you reconcile.
My belief is there is no room in a marriage for another person in the bedroom.
2006-11-08 12:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much that you can do now but wait. You have given her permission. Try to wait it out. She might ( I hope) find that you are what she wanted all the time.The hurt you have will not be as bad if you don't think about it so much. Good Luck! I'm
pulling for you to get what you want.
2006-11-08 12:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your marriage is worth fighting for fight for it ,if not let it go obviously she isnt feelin it so let her figure it out the hard way.she will never find anyone to love her the way you do.hopefully she realizes that what she had was good. if she doesnt come around pretty soon her loss will be someone elses treasures.dont continue to get your heart broken.good luck i wish the best for you .
2006-11-08 12:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude move on. I would probably kill the dude that's messed up and you are letting her take it to far stop being so freaking nice and tell her its you or the road and stick to it bud. shes not trying and using you dude don't let her keep that up if you need a bud to talk to geme a email bro but Move the hell on
2006-11-08 12:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by rjl2382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has moved on, and is not taking your marriage or it's problems serious i think she has given up, so I think you better get use to the idea of being without her>>>
2006-11-08 12:33:23 · answer #11 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋