Need some help here...well not therapy help I think!?

Question

Is there a researched psychological condition whereas the subject feels very confident in their own abilities, but has no confidence that others will see that in them? Like they know they are "good enough" but cannot fathom others seeing it in them? What would that be called?

Also, any good websites for psychological database sort of things...Kinda a run down of the major work in psych?

Answer 1

That may be more of an emotional condition rather than a psychological condition.

On the one hand, there is a psychological condition (paranoia or a paranoid personality) where the person who really isn't all that good at something has an overinflated sense of confidence that isn't warranted in reality.

On the other hand, there's the chance the person has been underestimated all his life and has become "shrunked down little" when it comes to how he feels around other people. Alone, the person can know he's quite capable or good enough. Its when he imagines other people's seeing it he loses confidence.

The reason for that is that he may have lived a good part of his life being underestimated and feeling invisible. He may have felt kind of helpless or confused about the fact the other people may not see him for what he is. Feeling helpless and confused when imagining dealing with other people makes a person doubt himself because what he knows and what other people see don't seem to match.

Sometimes being underestimated isn't even something that people know they're doing. If a person has a "look" that tends to make people assume he isn't intellilgent or strong or capable it can be difficult to get past that look and be treated in a way that matches who the person is on the inside.

Essentially, what can happen is that "the world" shows this person it doesn't see what he's capable of. He's essentially learned that over his life, and he realizes that he's "in there" alone and living kind of a secret existence that the world doesn't see.

Even if "the world" never meant to harm this person or even loved him or cared about him, what has essentially happened is he has been beaten down emotionally to the point where he lacks the type of confidence you mention. Its one thing to know what one can do. Its easy to have "intellectual confidence". Its another to have "emotional confidence" when dealing with the world.

A person like this may benefit from talking to a counselor because it is pretty difficult to overcome lack of "emotional confidence" (which is a feeling that some people just take for granted and has to do with not feeling small or invisible or isolated). I'm not sure such a person could gain this type of confidence, but I'd think he could either overcome his lack of it or find ways to compensate with the right guidance from a knowledgeable professional.

Answer 2

Not feeling acknowledged?
That's a known state for the tissue salt Kali Phos. and the Dishah color Violet.

It is a trait of the typical Aquarian (not all Aquarians are typical). They know that they are doing well, they often know things ahead, yet it seems their contemporaries cannot see it. This may have to do with how these Aquarians express themselves toward their friends and family. They can be very condescending, often without knowing it.

Also the Bachflower Violet may help.

The Dinshah color, the Bachflower and/or the tissue salt may help change this, for all is energy, and energy can be changed.

You may want to get more info on Color*MedicineTM from http://www.colormedicine.com and read books about the tissue salts or the Bachflowers, available in book stores or on the Internet (e. g. Barnes and Noble or Amazon). You may also look up the psychological aspects of a need for homeopthic remedies in Materia Medica (a handbook in English).

Happy change, happy life!
Cordially, India.Magica

Answer 3

Well, I'm studying Psychology at the College level and I know that asking for help diagnosing yourself is wrong. You need to seek a professional help for that. But a quick refernece would be webMD.com or apa.org

Answer 4

What you are referring to is called an inferiority complex: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inferiority_complex

You may want to check out Psychology Today's website for searchable articles on a variety of topics: http://psychologytoday.com/

Answer 5

I'd say that is an inferiority complex. Probably if you just typed in Psychological Disorders, you get plenty to pop up.

Answer 6

i apolagize i do not understand the question