what should i do?

Question

my hubby has a female friend from school, they were pretty close whiles in school,they've actually slept on the same bed before but my hubby said they did not have any sexual relationship which i find it hard to believe. I really love my hubby and i dont wanna lose him, they are currently working on a project together, what should i do he keep saying there is nothing between them, we are leaving in different countries right now. please help me.

Answer 1

you should either trust him or you should tell him to come back home, don't drive yourself crazy. if he loves you, he will come back!

Answer 2

I'm afraid there is nothing that you can do if you are in different countries. You have 3 choices: The first choice is to trust him and live your life as if he is to be trusted, hold no grudges, keep nothing in the back of your mind. Your second choice is to act like you trust him. This will not work-you will end up ruining your relationship as he will sense the lack of trust you have toward him which may lead him to be unfaithful even if he is not now and will lead to many arguments and disturbances, plus you will not be happy in your relationship acting as if everything is ok when you feel it is not. Your third choice is to leave him-if you are unable to trust him completely and for real, you can opt to leave him which is where you will ultimately end up if you choose to ACT as though you trust him or try to "beat" the truth out of him. Is there really anything he can say to you to make you believe that he is being faithful? I would bet not. So, instead of trying to pull the "truth" out of him, your best bet would be to actually trust him and be happy with the choices he makes. You cannot stop him from the choices he will make.

Answer 3

Well, a relationship is based on trust!!! If you trust your husband then you should worry. I have a lot of guy friends that are married, because I respect them & their families I would never do anything with them. Not all women have the same morals. Deep in your heart you know the answer. You might be in denial or trying to covience yourself otherwise. You have the answer within. Good Luck

Answer 4

You have to trust him. Some of my very best friends (especially back in high school) have been men, and I know first hand it is possible to maintain a friendship without things ever heading in the romantic direction. If your husband has never given you any reason to doubt him, and his "friend" isn't a vixen in hot pants who drools over your husband, then the only thing you can do is believe in your husband, especially since you are so far apart. Being a woman, I know it's very easy to expect the worse and be jealous or insecure, but you have to rely on the strength of your vows and make the best of the situation. Good luck!!

Answer 5

Has he cheated on you before? Has she made advances toward him? Do you see signs of cheating? If you answered no, then hunny you've gotta trust him. You have no choice but to believe that he isn't being unfaithful, the last thing you need is to harass him and make the impression that you have no trust or faith in him. Lay back and view the situation, watch him, watch her - don't act unless you see for yourself. Don't jump to conclusions and don't press the issue. If he is cheating - trust me he'll slip up and you'll find out. Just in case you answered yes to my opening questions - Plot and Plan your way out of that marriage, keep your eyes open and be prepared with your F-U money in a separate account.

Answer 6

do not trust him!! there is definitely something going on! even if he says there was no sex, the fact is he shouldn't be "laying" in a bed with another woman if he's married to you!! don't trust the other woman either!!! at least he admitted it to you. why are you in another country? if you want to keep your husband then go home and show him how much you still care, but don't panic! don't say anything to him, just try to continue on as normal without acting wierd about it so you don't push him away. still, try to show him how much you love him. I know it's confusing, but you must take action now before it's too late!! good luck!!

Answer 7

I wouldn't trust him. Especially if you are in different coutries. If they've slept in the same bed, i'd say that is bad news. You guys need to have a talk.

Answer 8

You should do nothing. Many people have good friends of the opposite sex. A close friendship in no way indicates there there is sexual intimacy, you know.

If he "keeps saying there is nothing between them", does he keep volunteering that information out of the blue? Or is it in response to your frequently questioning him?

He is going to start feeling as though you do not trust him. So, please stop worrying..and please stop asking him for reassurance. People generally live up to expectations that people have for them!

Answer 9

You should trust him......he is your husband.
If he says there is nothing between them, then you should believe him. Remember trust your husband until he gives you reason not to.
Dont let your mind play tricks on you whilst he is away, as this will only make matters worse.
I hope you sort it out
xx

Answer 10

I don't know how to help you but married men don't sleep in the same BED with their friends. It's hard to advise because your in another country.

Answer 11

the only thing u can do it to trust him, if u not there its nothing u can do....if he loves you he is not gonna do snything to hurt you, but on the other side, u r not there and he can thing that even if he will do something u will not find out- then he will do it...while u gone....if he never let u down then trut him....that is marraige all about- right/?