We had an up and down realitionship, and he said all we do is argue. I'am starting to get high blood pressure from all the yo-yoing around. Help
2006-11-08 11:18:38 · 19 answers · asked by melly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him to stay put.
See if you can get you and the kids on an even keel. See if he can get on an even keel.
If he can call, come by, treat you guys with respect, maintain his job, his car and his home, his bank account, and take the kids sometimes to give you a break, then you might have something.
Pay attention to his decision making skills. Can the man make a decision and stick with it or is he all over the board?
Date for awhile. DON'T let him sleep over at your house, unless you want your kids totally confused. Give yourself enough space to objectively evaluate his behaviors. Then decide if this is a healthy, loving, family relationship for everyone involved.
2006-11-08 11:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back if all you two do is argue ask your self this and really think about it o.k. Why do I want to put my kids threw this they didn't ask to be here and they deserve to be happy and why am I thinking about taking him back do I really want him back all we do is argue and I am a better person than this. There is someone out there that will make you happy and not argue with you all the time hun Trust me.
2006-11-08 19:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be thinking about what is best for the kids. Children need both of their parents and it sure is a lot easier. BUT what is it that the kids are seeing and hearing? We need to be better role models. Go to marriage counseling before you take him back, make sure that you both are on the same page first. Good luck!
2006-11-08 19:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people get back together and find the same issues are there. If you would like to chat add me to your messenger I am scookieman at the yahoo dot c o m thing
2006-11-08 19:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by homer on the island canada van 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the reason he left you in the first place and why does he want to come back into your life now? You are welcomed to email me and see if I can help in any way.
2006-11-08 19:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Calvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one do it for the sake of the kids, number two do it with help from a counselor. But for the kids, yes put it back together but do it right this time.
2006-11-08 19:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can come back on your terms - whatever those terms are. If you want counseling, make that a must. If you fought about money or sex, agree that for now, things have to be your way.
2006-11-08 20:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he left you alone with a child than hes not a good man. any man would have tried to work things out for the sake of your child. personaly i would leave his *** where hes at, unless he shows me that things will be different.
2006-11-08 19:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Oh2Lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way your options. Were there more good times than bad times? Do you still love him the same? If not then move on.
2006-11-08 19:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by Let's keep it real. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should try it once for the kids...If the same crap goes on then tell him to find somewhere esle to live.Good luck
2006-11-08 19:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋