2006-11-08 11:15:00 · 13 answers · asked by coatedpaperclip 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
people are difficult because they are trying to compinsate for some sort of infiriority in some other aspect of their life
2006-11-08 11:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are difficult people. That's life I'm afraid. Perhaps you could find a positive way of venting/expressing your negative emotions, rather than having an angry outburst, or changing who you are (painting, singing, writing are all cathartic ways of using that energy). Also, being nice and being assertive are not mutually exclusive characteristics: letting people walk all over you isn't being nice, and standing up for yourself in a non-agressive way isn't nasty. If you express yourself in a positive, assertive way, that's not being nasty, and if people act hurt when you do, they're being manipulative. You need to vent that anger somehow, and learn to be assertive in a controlled way though, or it'll eat away at you, and cause you psychological problems in the long run. Best of luck, and don't let it get on top of you! Positivity and strength come from inside!!
2006-11-08 13:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult people have not yet come to grips with themselves - they are desperately trying to impress everyone, and at the same time they are trying to ascertain that they are in fact an individual with a mind of their own. Unfortunately, they will remain difficult until they grow up.
And... don't be tired of being nice. But, limit yourself a bit. Be nice to people who can appreciate it. As in - be nice to nice people :-)
If someone is being difficult, then change to "neutral", and save your "nice" energy for those who deserve it.
:-)
2006-11-08 11:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by Extemporaneous 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
because they grew up that way...these people are those who throw tantrums in the mall or supermarkets when they were toddlesrs..they grew up bullied in school, then they..get an abusive boyfriend or husband..just be patient...nice people...are getting fewer by the minute... so yes, if u find any difficult person, imagine how difficult their lives are... so u have to be nice to them...even though u really want to throw them a good slap sometimes
2006-11-08 11:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have a lot to learn in life, and they are rude and ignorant, and if we argue with them, we aren't going to get anywhere with them anyway. What I do with difficult people, is stay calm and try to deal with them in the NICEST way possible, and if there is a shred of niceness in them, it will come out, and if they are just plain miserable, that irritates them worse than even yelling at them. So if your nice, you WIN, they LOOSE!!
2006-11-08 13:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are difficult because the they have mental problems, social problems, chemical imbalances, psychological problems or emotional problems.
Some people are difficult because they are stressed.
Some people are difficult because they are moody.
Some people are difficult because they are suffering.
Some people are difficult because they are conflicted.
Some people are difficult because they know what they want.
Some people are difficult because they want the last word.
Some people are difficult because they have their mind set on something.
Some people are difficult because they don't give in or are not a push over.
Some people are difficult to get a good laugh out of it.
Some people are difficult cuz they are control freaks.
Some people are difficut out of sarcasm.
Some people are difficult because they are used to being the 'boss'.
Some people are difficult because they are harbouring resentment.
Some people are called difficult when they are trying to be fair and 'by the book'.
Some people are difficult when they want to prove something and go through the steps to show it.
Some people are difficult because they just don't see things the way others do, and want to prove a point.
Some people are difficult because you are calling them that... otherwise they are just one side of a disagreement.
Some people are difficult because there is no 'smooth' way to go about things at that particular time or place.
Some people are difficult because they don't know any better.
Some people are difficult because they have a conscience.
Some people are difficult because they want attention.
Some people are difficult because they have dignity... or pride.
Some people are called difficult because the name-callers are jerks! hehe
Some people are called difficult because they are misunderstood.
..on and on and on.
2006-11-08 11:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by lady from the other day 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It takes all kinds to make the world go around, and believe it or not if there were no "Nice Ones" this would be a really rough world we live in, I know how you feel, because you get sick of people taking your kindness as a weakness, I know been there, done that, But the one thing you need to add to your vocabulary, is one very simple word that is understood in more than one language, and the magic word of today is: NO
See, a nice person have to learn how to say that one word more often, that doesn't mean you have to get mean but, I bet they will not misunderstand your niceness for weakness next time, trust me it works.....................GOOD LUCK...................................
2006-11-08 11:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So scoop their brains out and get their parents for remission
2006-11-08 11:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Meowmixtape 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they have small minds and a low self . I get that to with some. I wouldnt worry about them they are sad
2006-11-08 11:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by iamblessed 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I try to be nice too...
2006-11-08 12:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by sublimemaniac34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋